Why do guys sweet talk you into having sex & then want nothng to do with you?

[madisonann1218]

It was my very first time having sex.. i was so scared. I liked the guy and he said if i had sex with him it would bring us together & we could make love & we could date. He kept calling me princess and telling me how gentle he'd be with me.. and after he got what he wanted, he never spoke to me again?

[thatguywithakeyboard]

Welcome to Adulthood and a taste of life. No one ever said, mentioned or pointed the sole fact that life is fair, nor has anyone ever claimed that we people are saints. Reality is that love is overrated emotions and that handful of people prey on this defect in people. Why do I indicate love is a defect? Because it's a chemical reaction created by the brain nothing more and nothing less, yet this chemical reaction leads to some rather chaotic choices at times.

Now outside of love being an overrated emotion we live in 21st century where chivalry has long died out and the remaining gentleman/decent guys are dying at an accelerated speed, similar as the speed of a corrosion in a metal. As time passed by new social norms have been born, some being rather idiotic and narcissistic in nature, but in the end this is human nature. Do to this 21st century lives by a simple moral "Use and Toss". In this case the guy "Used" you to obtain sex, the whole sweet talking part was "a Play on Emotions" and "Exploitation of Human Emotions and Feelings" .

Unfortunately you are not the 1st nor the last girl who's been toyed and then simply tossed aside. With that said I hope this is a learning experience for you, that will once more reinforce the fact that love is overrated and that predators exist who exploit people's feelings and emotions for their own personal gain be it sexual or monetary.

[CrystalChild]

Prime example of why love should not be your sole motivator

[thatguywithakeyboard]

@CrystalChild What is love :). Unfortunately I lack emotional attachment nor do I really know what love is, most of my life it was pure hatred shown towards me so I grown to be a rather cold individual.

[CrystalChild]

Don't take this as an insult, but I grew up abused almost all my life. Love is a choice and it comes from within, in a willing heart. You don't have to be cold if you don't want to

[PhilosophicalBull]

Biology.
For millions of years reproduction was risky for women. Late in her pregnancy, a woman was unable to gather food, so she needed a male to provide for her needs until the end of the pregnancy. Over the millenia, this caused women to seek out the best man and try to get him to be "hers". This is why women favor monogamy instinctively.
For men, they were expected to be the warriors and hunters. Their lives might be extremely short. Maybe you get the boar, maybe the boar gets you. This is why men want to mate with as many women as possible. To maximize the chance of passing on their genes.
Both of you are simply obeying the commandments of your nature.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry that happened to you, it sucks having your emotions played with.

I think all people need to be more careful with who they have sex with, if they want a serious relationship. You never really know someone until you've known them for awhile. Even then things may surprise you but you have a better chance of getting to know the real them if you take your time and if you choose not to ignore the bad signs.

I know it probably feels awful and you probably feel used but try to take this and learn from it. Don't think all men are bad or will use you but learn from it and be more careful. It wasn't your fault for being naive, it was his fault and his problem. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself and build yourself up.

[Anonymous]

Wow what an asshole. Believe it or not, there's ways to tell if a guy just wants sex and nothing more. You just have to learn from your mistakes & don't overlook the signs the next time. You're not dumb because of this. Everyone makes mistakes when it comes to guys, I know I have🤷‍♀️ Thankfully not all guys are like this. Ya gotta be careful though. Pay attention to their actions and not their lies, I mean words. lol

[Oxxymoron]

Because it's much easier than just saying "Hey girl nice rack, I really want to fuck you and then dip leaving you emotionally unstable for the next few weeks, you down?" LOL they clearly have a better chance at getting in your pants if they make you fall for them and believe they want something more with you

[poopedmypantsagain]

They do it because that was all they wanted was the sex and once they got that.. it is bye bye now take care.. and a lot will say anything in some cases including all the sweet talk it takes to get it.. I just hope that it now being 2017.. some of those women who may have had this deception pulled on them by a guy in their past and all women new to the dating scene.. clue in a bit better to these self made... I am gods gift to women mentalities that some men have.. take care now and have a great day and week

[Topaz171]

A guy tried that on me from my class smh, so I pretty much ignored it, or gave goofy comebacks to make it a game. Damn shame though that some guys would do or say anything for a quick fuck. Not worth it

[AleDeEurope]

Because he just wanted sex. Those kind of guys go for stupid girls, because they know they can get them easily, and then dump them without any problems.

[NerdInDenial]

That's the classic case of the pump and dump or hit it and quit it. Guys just want sex around your age; and they'll do almost anything to get it.

[CrystalChild]

Don't let guys sweet talk you into anything. Then the users can't use you. Wait until you feel comfortable and confident in his intentions.

[GraveTruth]

Well, probably because the main reason you initially liked him was because he was tall, had nice hair, or was hot.

You should pick guys based on loyalty.

[madisonann1218]

he was tall. did have nice hair. and was hot. 😂

[GraveTruth]

yeah... if you are looking for a serious connection and want to invest your heart consider ignoring that dumb stuff and going for things like morale integrity, faithfulness, empathy, etc

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry about that. Some guys are like that, but a lot aren't. I don't know why some guys do that but I hate it. You'll find someone that treats you right and likes you for you, not just sex.

[ric2roj]

ok first off not to be mean but you were stupid. He clearly made it seem like he just wanted sex. For the future get to know the guy and if he says he wants to do it the he a fuck boi. if he don't bring it up then it'll happen when the time is right.

[SoundHDᴠᴇʀɪꜰɪᴇᴅ]

Some guys are total and complete jerks. I am sorry about what happened to you

[daddyslilprincess]

Cuz they are naturally driven to chase and conquer as many like girls as possivlrt

[Anonymous]

That's why i waited until I was 21 and lost with a 25 year old more mature guy.

[CoffeeCaramel]

Guys can still be scum well into their 20's, trust me.

[pinkanon]

They will do anything till they get what they want.

[Anonymous]

Guys your age are scum. Id be amazed if no one hadn't told you this already.

[CrystalChild]

True.

[suseel_sushi]

That's how we roll babe 😂😂 Welcome to the real life, princess.

[CrystalChild]

Lol right coz you get so much action

[suseel_sushi]

@CrystalChild no, I'm a sworn Virgin until marriage. Even if I wanted, I can't with my looks and toxic self righteousness. Once a small TV star proposed me for marriage (because I'm a vegan and she thinks I'm a good and a honest man) and I could get some action by accepting and getting close. but my self righteousness kicked in and I said that it's not possible due to the cultural differences and stuff. Ugly guys should lie and manipulate a lot if they wanna get some action. But I've done a lot of sex chat with girls from my country, Pakistan, Philippines, Chinese, germany and Britain. Once my friends and I hired a Nepali college student studying in our place and I didn't do a thing. I asked her to put clothes on and talked about her country, family and stuff. She was laughing the whole time and when I was about to leave, she hugged me tightly 😊😝
I was talking about the basic nature of majority of the men.

[iFarted]

Cause some guys will do anything for sex...

[Blitzkrieger]

The sex was probably bad.

[awhitevwolfa]

Or it was good and he was just using her

[Blitzkrieger]

@awhitevwolfa why only use her once? If the sex is good and you use her you keep her around for at least 3 months.

[awhitevwolfa]

Why the fuck do some guys like using women? You're making the good guys look bad. Well Idrc cus the women who fall for the bad guys are bad themselves.

[Blitzkrieger]

@awhitevwolfa that makes no sense man. All that effort for one fuck. Yeah right.

[awhitevwolfa]

I mean if you don't like her personality or don't like her at all but find her hot asf so you want to bang and leave.

[Imhotep99]

Pump and dump? Because they're fuckboys?

[Anonymous]

Because women wouldn't give you sex otherwise

[madisonann1218]

but dont you guys feel bad about it?

[Opinion Owner]

Not really, since most girls dont feel bad