Why would he compare me to his sister?

[Anonymous]

Ok, there is this guy I really like. Recently I gave him a note telling him that I like him. Well when he read the note he told me he would show it to his sister and his friend. He invited me to dinner, asked my number and somehow he ended up telling me that I was always helping him keep track of things and focused like his oldest sister. He then mentioned how she was super strict helping him keep focus and he kept saying that it was like me...

why would he compare me to his sister?
Is this a good or a bad thing?

[CliffyJr]

If he's got a good relationship with his sister then it might be a good thing. They always say we tend to look for traits in partners that we would normally also find in our own parents as weird as that is, but I don't see why that same sentiment couldn't extend to siblings. Yes, its super duper kooky if you think about it too hard so normally it's best to acknowledge it and realise that maybe yes, he's attracted to you, and then try to dump it from your mind.

[Dim1213]

Normally that would mean he sister zoned you but here it was a compliment about how you keep him focused and the other person who does that is his sister. Here it sounds like a good thing.

[WarlandWriter]

agreed

[BellePepper]

It doesn't sound like a bad thing but I'd be wondering if I wanted to be responsible for keeping him on track for the rest of your relationship

[LickwidSkie]

I don't think him saying you help him in ways his sister does is the same as comparing you to her in the sense of stating "you're like a sister to me." I don't thinik you got sister zoned. However, it seems to me that unless he has some type of disorder causing the issue, he should be able to keep himself straight and focused without having to be prodded by someone else.

[Sami54]

I honeslty think it's a good thing, if I love someone then they are everything for me, my best friend, my sister, my lover , everything I could ever wish for.

[likitb4istickit]

If he's into incest then it's a good thing he's comparing you to her. If not then it sounds like you've been banished to the friend zone, he just hasn't told you that yet.

[Shubh56]

comparing is not right.
Guy should have directly tell u about the qualities he wanted in his partner instead of comparing

[Regular1]

Sounds like a bad thing. But no worse than a woman in her late twenties passing notes to a guy like a 6th grader.

[Twalli]

There's a chance he won't see you sexually and more like a family member.

[noohair]

It sounds very good, he told you he is better with you in his life.

[Anonymous]

i may be wrong but i am guessing that she is a woman he looks up to so its why he compares you to her.

[Anonymous]

It's good unless your planning on having sex at some point

[alice55]

Sound a bit like he "friend zoned" you.

[cunningwolf22]

😂😂😂

[Asker]

Lol what's so funny? 😂

[cunningwolf22]

wtf with this guy. y u comparing u with his sister. 😂😂😂😂😂

[cunningwolf22]

y he comparing u with his sister...😂😂😂

[Asker]

Idk! That's what I was trying to figure out.

[cunningwolf22]

lol. by the way move on he will treat u like his sis. such a idiot. u don't get shock when he compare u with his sis? 😂