Why do guys want you only when you don't want them?

[Anonymous]

It starts out the same: you won't be into a guy initially, and the guy will be into you and then you start liking him more and giving him more attention and then he backs off. You get to the point where you see he doesn't care so you back off and even start to lose feelings and then sometime in the future he will get back with you. What's going on in the guy's mind?

[Fuentes]

Depends i had a girl who was my previous boss always flirt with me but she was my boss at the time i did flirt back and i did care, but i never asked her out or anything but i think she thought i didn't care. So she backed off alil well now sense she's not my boss, im chasing her now but i bet she feels like how you do and wondering the same thing cause she seems pretty hesitant. If its a weird case the guy was playing hard to get and naybe shy the minute you stopped taking interest in him he came back if anything else he's a asshole and probably wanting one thing

[Fuentes]

She also said yeah to our date but seem surprised and hesitant

[theharlequin]

Let's consider the reverse statement:
Why don't you want them when you can have them?

Windows of opportunity don't stay open forever. Take it when you have the chance or lose it. That's the way the world works, not just in love.

[SteppingOnRoses]

considering the guy dropped her when she showed interest, i gather her not wanting him was a pretty smart gut feeling XD

[Asker]

@steppingonroses yeah I had a gut feeling to leave him alone but ignored it

[SteppingOnRoses]

Happens to the best of us...

[BeautifulPromisesx]

It's just about the chase. People seem to want what they can't have.

[Ephemera1]

Hi where r u

[SteppingOnRoses]

He just likes the chase

but not the person herself.

[holograph]

Nope, he's just unsure.

Nobody likes the chase.

[SteppingOnRoses]

lol some guys like the rush of it

the players...

[holograph]

Hmm... Well, I guess some might. Never had another guy friend say that to me, but hey, I don't know everyone.

[SteppingOnRoses]

true and I also got your point

In fact makes sense if she was sending mixed signals... that the guy could get confused as well... as to wether she likes him and is worth pursuing or not.

also a valid option

[the_robot]

Maybe he gets tired of chasing you and then after some time he comes to think of you again and decides to give it another try. He's probably thinking "Why tf didn't she want me when I wanted her? NOW when I've given up she decides to like me. Well, though shit!" while he's with someone else who liked him back when it was appropriate.

[TheOne25]

guys have egos remember that they like to be alpha male in any... a guy likes to pursue a girl it make him feels manly when however the girls bites and takes the bait he then relaxes because his ego has been satisfied simply he sees that he has accomplished something he now relaxes

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Why are the guys you're meeting? I've never heard that before. If a girl isn't interested in me in the slightest, I move on. Her liking me makes me like her even more.

[Asker]

I don't know, it's just something that happens to me all too often.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

I would think it should be the exact opposite for guys, but if you're experience proves otherwise...

[Powerhousegirl]

You’d be the first guy on the planet bro lol! A guy like that is incredibly rare.

[Anonymous]

I'm kind of off the "market" so I am seeing this from an "outsider" perspective.

I have no idea what they would do that, but some guys have the exact same complaint about women's behavior. If the guy is taken, a lot of girls are interested, in him once he's single, all those girls disappear.

[SortaHere_]

yes but if a guy is getting mixed signals they die on the inside.

[Raouf88]

take it from me, guys only love and like girls who are not easy to get along with every guy, will be loyal to him. would give him all her life. tell you something, he must feel that he's special to you.

[Powerhousegirl]

Sorry but I’ve been that girl and they NEVER want me. As soon as I give up on them or they are entirely not what I want, then they annoy me by not respecting my boundaries and keep contacting me. No means no means NO! It’s been my experience that men have no respect for a kind and caring woman. They think of them as dumb conquests instead of diamonds in the rough.

[bawfar]

Kinda like SortaHere_ said it's the mixed signals, they mess with my head real bad.

[coltonious]

the thing it is with me, is if it takes long enough my depression gets to my feelings and I just assume it will never happen. Then when you flirt with me I assume you're just being nice

[iwillascend]

Does not go for me. If a girl likes me which I like also then there is no problem "to want her". Sounds strange...

[RedVulcan]

Girls can do this too. I'm also interested to see the answers.

[ken718]

Im not like this if you show interest in me im interested if not fuck you i move on

[rajpotchh]

guys who r really good at 💑 just feel that difficult to take responsibilities

[rajpotchh]

they realize late

[rajpotchh]

i won't start it... enjoy till single

[rajpotchh]

they want you that's why they start

[rajpotchh]

so they don't continue

[Basem219]

some people like to have the thing that they can't have so badly

[Underduress]

I don’t work that hard for it

[emerald77]

Guys always want what they can't have.

[RedVulcan]

See now, I wonder if that's actually true. I do sometimes find myself chasing stuff that presents a challenge to get, but I'd never apply that mindset to love. Maybe some guys do that.

[holograph]

Some guys (and some girls) just don't know what they want at all. It's way simpler than the idea of "the chase."

[jtaylor9388]

chicks are the same way

[fallengrace]

Because you're both too young for love

[mrcurious929292938]

maybe are unsure about their feeliings

[Anonymous]

because off their love