Do guys like it when girls approach them first?

Question

One week ago I asked this guy's number while he was working. But I waited till he was on his lunch break. It took me a lot of courage but he rejected me. :( he even laughed at me and was kinda rude. Later on I heard from my friend who works with him that he thought it was a turn off that I approached him first and that I was too easy. And he thought I was weird. She also said that he was really annoyed for the rest of the day. Was it really so wrong for me to approach him first? :(

I just want to understand guys. Please help.

and sorry for my English

Marklaw12 · Accepted Answer

Every single girl I've dated believe you me asked me out.

Except once, me mates and I did bet on a very rude and nasty girl. she was basically a rich spoilt only child. Myself and friends made a bet on who will get the girl first. the winner must show us that we kissed and get £500. Valentine's Day came forth and she got loads of beautiful gifts. I began chatting with her and she just kissed me. I fell head over hills. told me mates they didn't believe until I told them a spot to stay so they can see me and her kiss again and it happened.

You know when you work hard for something and u come out on top it becomes a treasured achievement? that's how this feels. I loved her most but I loved my other exes as much.

JSmuve · Accepted Answer

You're never guaranteed to succeed when you do the approaching. Guys experience this stuff too. Like you'll hear women bitch about that 'creep' that approached her and how she shot him down. Should that guy not have approached? Was it really so wrong of him? Fact is, if a guy is interested in a girl and she approaches him, then he'll be happy about it. You just approached a guy who wasn't interested in you or hadn't yet developed an interest. These things happen and they suck. But such is life.

aacrs · Accepted Answer

No. Lots of guys would actually appreciate it if the woman approached them first. My boyfriend told me that sometimes it's tiring than man has to do 'all the work' as he put it.

Some dudes, however, have ego bigger than mountain and go all asshole like the dude you approach.

troychapman · Answer

he's a dominant freak the type of guy who think men should be in control i personally would like it id find it attractive and a turn on. id also feel its a trick a prank just waiting for me to say yes so she could humiliate me and tell everyone what an idiot i am for actually believing anyone would be interested in me

Branes51 · Answer

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you approaching a man first. That's what the feminist movement was about, changing gender roles. It depends on entirely on the guy. I love it. But some guys don't. Don't let one person's response to you lower your self esteem. He's a jerk obviously based on his actions. You know what, move on. There's a lot of fish swimming around in that sea.

Mandolinist · Answer

That reaction seriously throws me back. Maybe he just thinks in that scenario you're too easy to get?
I'm just a little more introverted than extroverted, so after breaking that barrier of introductions and get to know you stuff then I kinda loosen up.
I mean, if a girl would just get the first part over for me I definitely wouldn't be opposed to it
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I guess the alternative is stepping out of my comfort zone, but that kinda takes a walk of effort. Or mountain. Like Mount Everest sized or so.

Anonymous · Answer

Someone explain something to me

I was at a wedding on Friday. My best friends. His 2nd cousin, who happened to be a girl, and I had been checking each other out all night. I never had the courage to talk to her, but, when the slow dances started happening, she actually came over to me, and asked me if I wanted a dance with her. SHE APPROACHED ME, let's get that straight!

Then, after the dance, I wound up asking for her number, she said "I have a boyfriend" immediately after I asked it but then she said "but, we can still be friends, and gave me the number anyway". Now we've been ALMOST texting non stop since then... flirting, maybe, sorta, I don't know.

If a girl with a boyfriend, was serious about him then..

1. Wouldn't have have showed up to the wedding with her
2. Wouldn't she have not wanted to slow dance with any other guy? (the fact that he wasn't there, comes in to play)

Rojaasu · Answer

he was a douche don't think all guys are like that most guys love it when a girl asks first because we don't pick up on most of the hints you lay out for us so it can be really really nerve wracking to tell a girl how we feel because we fear one word "Oh" that marks the friend zone which isn't bad by itself but what we fear is her distancing herself from us which at least from my experience happens only 92.3% of the time

ericr · Answer

When guys approach woman I think there is some fear of being turned down in some god awful way. Some and I mean some girls do this because they think they're top shit and sadly this is why most guys are shy.

earthboundimmortal · Answer

guys who are a little nervous about approaching girls prefer to not make the first move, but if you catch them staring at you a couple times and they dont do anything then I think theyd prefer it if you approached them

Psychlopic · Answer

Absolutely! I'm more often than not way to shy, so any "help" I can get, I'll take it. It helps me draw out of my shell.

MackFreeze · Answer

I like asking a girl out but if she wants my number or whatever thats cool

godofsuburbia · Answer

I suck asking girls out, and it does feel very nice when a girl does the first move

Boris88 · Answer

The Guy you asked was just a jerk nothing more or less.

Tedwards · Answer

personally I think it doesn't matter , if a girl asked me out I wouldn't be annoyed... I think the guy you asked was a bit arrogant

king34 · Answer

yeah, that's less work and if she pulls up on me, I know for sure she's interested, if I pull up on a girl I'm not sure if she's interested or if she's just trying to being nice

Adamxt · Answer

Guys are as nervous as girls, it helps so there isn't so much pressure for "guys" to make he first move

dolemite68 · Answer

That guy was just a jerk or immature, I personally think it's a huge turn if a girl builds up the courage to ask me out, it's not always easy

baekota · Answer

some guys are introverted so they never actually try to ask for a girls number so I believe that this is perfectly fine, even if the guy isn't an introvert

KaydenChrist · Answer

it can either make a girl look super confident which is hot, or you can come across as a thot

Kevness · Answer

If he was even rude, he's just a fucktard. It's not your fault. I like when girls approach first 'couse I think I intimidate people, but everyone is totally diferent.

RealDarkeyes · Answer

That guys an asshole, i would probably say yes to a girl that approached my

Anonymous · Answer

If I like a girl and she approaches me first I think nothing of it.

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