Should guys approach girls first?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes. I had been approached by a few girls first, and is confusing and doesn't feel right or easy to deal with.

It might be okay for a girl to approach in few cases, but generally guys approaching girls first is definitely better.

This doesn't mean that her sending signals isn't okay. Sending signals is normal, but approaching doesn't feel right. Probably accepted when there's some interaction normally happening, but not as strangers.

As in, if there's like an academic activity in collage. It is normal to visit booths and talk. She can approach under that excuse. But for example, they see each other in corridors or on campus twice or more a week for afar. It is him who should approach.

BoopBoopBeep · Accepted Answer

Do they, yes, should they, no. It's 2024 (rounding). Keep at it that way and all the shy women are going to lose out to the ones that feel comfortable approaching since women and tiktok are trying soo hard to add places men will never talk to women again.

Greedier · Accepted Answer

Tricky question. Doesn't matter the gender, if you like someone and want to talk to them, you should reach out to them. There's no need to wait for the other person to come to you

Jazzy54 · Accepted Answer

Considering my past with men, I’d prefer it if they did.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

In the past I would say YES, nowadays NO unless the girl is wearing a t-shirt that says she is single looking for a man.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

In a world where I, a man, can be lambasted and have my reputation completely tarnished with a TikTok video, or with the police arresting me for sexual harassment because the woman didn't think I was cute, I'm personally no longer that interested in approaching women.

Also, in a world where women brag about being so equal to men, they should also try out approaching us. It's far more likely to work if the woman does the approaching, than if the man does the approaching.

tzdc21 · Answer

Nowadays, I'd say probably not. Too many horror stories have appeared thanks to the "Me Too" movement, even if the guy does nothing at all. Plus guys would love most of the time the luxury of being approached.

FenixG45 · Answer

OF COURSE NOT! My old girlfriend pursued me like prey for several weeks, then she cornered me, and said:
"Are you coming home with me or not?" I went home with her. We dated for 3 years, but remained friends for 30 years before she died, last year!

Forceinhand · Answer

They should in most cases yes. I do consider it the girl's responsibility to either be inviting or make it clear my advances are unwelcome so that I'm not in the dark if I would like to approach.

Anonymous · Answer

There's really no reason the guy should have to to do the approaching, but I accept that's just how it is. I'm not going to wait around hoping she makes the first movie because that's extremely unlikely. I'd rather just shoot my shot and if I get rejected then I know I can move on with my life.

Raaj4you · Answer

Even though I am a shy guy, I have always approached first. I did it bcoz all girls/ women said, ' it's men's duty to approach and chase a girl". Girls won't do it. But i don't understand why modern women don't it?

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Women very often approach guys first, because they would get old if waited for guys to make a move :P

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Probably, but the sisterhood has collectively made interacting with women so unpleasant that the approach is not particularly worth the effort anymore.

Tharithi · Answer

Obviously. Can’t call himself a guy if he doesn’t

BourbonAndBacon · Answer

It's better if they do but there are too many scared guys out there.

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

I think it's fine for either gender to initiate things. It makes a girl look confident, and that's attractive.

genericname85 · Answer

i think the one who feels attracted should approach.

OddBeMe · Answer

No, it’s a custom that should be done away with if we want humanity to exist.

Anonymous · Answer

No, gender roles are what is making people so miserable.

Anonymous · Answer

Not since the MeToo statutes passed and the firing squads were introduced

Anonymous · Answer

Probably should, but women play too many games so, no thank you.🙂

Nice222 · Answer

I don’t think it really matters who approaches first.

Anonymous · Answer

It's what's normally always been the Norm I don't see it changing unfortunately

Anonymous · Answer

You could just add him online give him hints to do it

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Yea but only if the girl seems worth it

Danny_dan92 · Answer

It’s typically how it happens

Anonymous · Answer

No, because I'm really bad at it.

Nifrayu · Answer

I don't think so.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Guys are pretty much done approaching.

Twalli · Answer

No, it isn't the way it was.

Slim57 · Answer

Both should approach if interested

riverrat3 · Answer

That is traditioal, but not a law

Anonymous · Answer

No, I have more important things to do.

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