If you take care of a drunk girl does that mean you have a crush on her?

[Anonymous]

[butvolca]

Not necessarily. But if a girl isn't shy of getting drunk in front of the guy means either they are best friends or already in love or probably she has some feelings for him. And guys actually like to be responsible and it's a chance for them to show their gentleman side to the girl.

[Asker]

I'm not used to to guys being responsible or caring towards me

[butvolca]

Don't worry girl. You just haven't met the right person yet. You will sooner or later

[Kkaos]

Nope. If she didn't seem able to look after herself, I'd take care of her or at least try to find someone who could. It would simply be helping someone who needed it, rather than having some ulterior motive based on me having a crush on her.

[Asker]

How would you treat a female friend vs crush when she's wasted?

[Kkaos]

Most likely the same. They're both drunk and being drunk isn't particularly attractive. So even if I did have a crush on a girl, I'm not going to be particularly lusting for her at that moment therefore it wouldn't make much of a difference.

[Asker]

What if she's a cute and cuddly, playful type drunk?

[Kkaos]

It depends how drunk we're talking, if she's just overly flirtatious and I had a crush on her, sure I'd give her more attention. But if she can barely walk and she's throwing up all over the place, nuh-uh.

[Asker]

What would you do in both of those scenarios?

[Kkaos]

If she was still able to control herself and wasn't completely drunk I'd be more flirtatious and playful with her whilst making sure she's ok. If she's flat out drunk, I'd just focus on getting her to her girlfriends or getting her home.

[Beldore]

Perhaps, but not necessarily. Most men are chivalrous and want to take care of women. But then again, men can take advantage of women when they aren't able to defend themselves.

[john1714]

No it means you aren't a garbage person and want her to be safe.

[Asker]

But don't guys only care about those who they crush on?

[john1714]

Nope of I see a chick or dude that's beyond fucked I'm going to make sure they eat some bread give them water and get them to a safe place to pass out. That's an incredibly demeaning way to look at dudes.

[Asker]

Eating does more harm than good, it makes people throw up. I don't eat before, during, or after drinking, it makes up for the high drink calories.

[Asker]

Would you let her lean on you lazily? Or if she just wants to stay sitting on the floor or wants to do something crazy like dance on a table?

[john1714]

Yes dude you stick with people when they're at fucked up to make sure they're safe and that they don't get worse. And that's dead wrong eating doesn't make people puke drinking too much makes people throw up. You aren't going to not puke just because you didn't eat you're just going to throw up bile instead of food which feels a whole hell of a lot worse.

[john1714]

Not eating beforehand is actually way more dangerous.

[Asker]

I throw up bile when I'm not drinking, especially during my menstrual cycle. I vomit bike every few days, regardless of drinking or not.

[john1714]

Ok, that has nothing at all to do with what I said.

[Asker]

Not eating is better for my weight.

[Asker]

And not eating helps with being able to drink more without worrying about calories

[john1714]

And eating is better for your safety. If you're that worried about your weight don't drink over drinking in an unsafe way because that's how you end up in the hospital getting your stomach pumped.

[Asker]

Hell no, I'm not going to the hospital, ever since I turned 18 I vowed to never torture myself with medical places ever again. I get anxiety at doctors offices or hospitals, even if I'm sick I'm not gonna go, so I'll never get my stomach pumped even if I'm shitfaced.

[john1714]

Cool, then you might die. You seem like you have awful decision making abilities but you do you dude.

[Asker]

Yup. I doubt anyone would call an ambulance or force me into a hospital.

[sye1776]

It might, but it also might mean he's just a decent human being. No way of telling from just that.

[jbskhan]

Take care as in changes her clothes.. put her on bed kinda thing.. sure

[Asker]

Not the changing clothes

[jbskhan]

Then how? Just put her to bed and let her sleep?

[Asker]

Would you cuddle her?

[jbskhan]

Depends.. if she got great assets.. why not

[kalebwithak]

If you have a hard on while taking care of her. but don't try anything then yes. You do.

[Asker]

I don't know if he had a hardon, I don't remember.

[utterlyconfusedlol]

nah it means that she's drunk and you wanna make sure she gets home okay

[Asker]

Really? I've been shitfaced multiple times at parties and often left alone, laying in vomit. (My dude and female friends were there). The only time someone kept me company was my new dude friend last night (it was not a party, a small get together with about 5 people. I get super playful and cuddly when drunk and I was being all hyper and he took my drink away from me after like 5, and held me up a little bit and then later we both crashed on the couch.

[utterlyconfusedlol]

nah he's probably just a good guy, and to answer your question down below, guys don't only care about the people that we have crushes on. we also care about friends and family and you are his friend. and he prob took your drink because he didn't want you to throw up again

[Asker]

I didn't throw up that time and that was my first time drinking with him so he didn't know and the only reason why I used to throw up was because I would dance and move around too much so I would get sick, but he kept me from getting too rowdy.

[Asker]

It's so weird to have someone actually care about me, it's never happened before so I don't know how to react. And I don't know if it's a crush, I hope he likes me I NEED a boyfriend, I want a boyfriend.

[utterlyconfusedlol]

first time drinking with him so he doesn't know what will happen and doesn't want to leave you in case something does. it doesn't necessarily mean he's got a crush on you.

[Asker]

Oh. So the first time a guy seems to care about me, he really doesn't. He's just doing it because he's too much of a nice guy and he was just doing it for his ego? Great, of course nobody would genuinely care for me.

[utterlyconfusedlol]

thats not what I'm saying he really does care about you but it doesn't necessarily mean he has a crush on you. you said you're friends and his ego has nothing to do with it. you don't need to have a crush on somebody to care about them.

[Asker]

I don't know what it feels like to have someone actually care about me, it's strange but I enjoy the feeling but it also makes me feel guilty like I don't deserve it. I need a boyfriend so I can finally understand love.

[utterlyconfusedlol]

everyone deserves it don't feel guilty. i used to think i needed a girlfriend to understand love too, but then i realized that just wasn't true. there are different kinds of love not just romantic love. your friends probably really love you and care about you. you don't need a boyfriend to understand. since you do want a boyfriend, ask your guy friends what you could do to get one. they'd give you some tips. then just put yourself out there. don't try to force it. its gonna happen, sometimes you just gotta be patient and proactive at the same time. its 4 am for me almost so I'm gonna get to sleep. remember you do deserve to be loved and cared about and if you are proactive and patient, you'll find mr right.

[Asker]

It's 4:41 AM for me too but I'm wide awake

[Anonymous]

If we are both drunk no, because that would lead to drunk fun sex.
If you took care of her... your in the friend zone and will never get out. Cut your losses

[whatspalermo]

No. If your a friend you take care of someone when they need you.

[sidvt]

No they care whom ever they respect too not only crush

[davidbyrd]

May just be trying to get laid may genuinely care about them thats hard to tell unless they help you out and talk to you everyday

[Balin_420]

No it doesn't because i help most of the people when they are drunk!

[Anonymous]

Take like lay her? Or take care like nurse her hangover?

[Asker]

Nurse not sex

[Cammy137]

No, it means you're a decent human

[Asker]

Would you treat a female friend or crush differently in that situation?

[Cammy137]

Nope. Id just want to make sure they were ok. Whether they were a friend or a crush would be irrelevant in that situation

[Asker]

I'd be jealous if my future boyfriend helped another girl out, I'd forbid it.

[Asker]

Because I would be jealous, he can only care for me.

[Cammy137]

Then you're a piece of shit!

[Asker]

I know that, I can't help it. I just wish that I wasn't so alone and single. I wish somebody would love me, I hate myself.

[bigazz]

Not necessarily, maybe just a decent bloke

[Asker]

Bloke?

[bigazz]

Man lol must be an Aussie thing

[owens97]

no it means ur a nice guy or just care

[Sundharheartin]

It depends on how much u love that person

[Guanfei]

That just mean you're a decent human being.

[karim69420]

No it means u like them or u r there for them

[thegr8lion]

at least care for her

[Fadeex]

No its called decency.

[Hrithikyomo]

It can be but not necessarily

[hugs4rentSocialclub]

Yep... 😥

[anirudhroxx]

Nop it dosent

[PutSevenfold7]

Nope