Sometimes all women need is reassurance.

[VegasBubs]

This isn't a question.

More of a statement for all men everywhere...

Sometimes girls play hard to get, to get reassurance that you like them, think they are pretty, you want to be with them, etc.

Sometimes they are clingy to get the same answers.

Sometimes they act like they don't care about you til you reassure them that you do.

Sometimes they act needy, all they need is reassurance.

Just tell them.

No games, just straight up reassure them that you care.

Sometimes showing them isn't enough, sometimes you actually just need to come out and say it.

Hope this helps, just a little.

[Anonymous]

The double-standard is that women have a zero tolerance policy for men doing any of those things.

Both sexes want reassurance...but what everyone has forgotten is that it's give-and-take. If you want reassurance you have to give a little too, and ultimately, everyone has to take risks.

Also, guys go crazy because as you just explained, women do completely opposite things (either acting too clingy/needy or too hard to get and pretending they don't care) when they're looking for the same thing.

That is a game...just straight-up tell us what you want!

[bigbanglover]

Well done on what you've said too. Understand where u're coming from.. so let me ask you, what if I have been giving and giving (giving all the care & assurance), but he still treats me so coldly.. BUT still asks me out, say things once in awhile like I love you and care for u.. but don't put it to actions. could you tell me why is he like this? playing games, or not?? So heartbrokened....

now, he's NOT telling me what he wants! If I tell him what I want, would he even care? ='/

[Opinion Owner]

Well, as I said, it should be give-and-take for both sides. Didn't say men were perfect, and it does sound like he's not giving very much...

You do however need to give a guy some time though. Remember it's a hurdle just to get over asking a girl out. But you should see steady progress over time. Both sides need to work to understand each other...not play games to make the other person understand them.

[sinful1620]

Pretty sure maturity is about realizing you're not special and deserve special treatment... guys want reassurance too, and they like to get their ego, among other things, stroked from time to time.

But don't justify doing whatever the hell you want because you want attention.

[VegasBubs]

I see where you coming from. I wasn't trying to say we can do what we want just to get attention. I think this came out very wrong lol. I'm guess I was trying to say of a guy is confused of a girls actions it might be because they want reassurance. Sometimes girls just want to know guys care for them. I know guys do too, I would never doubt that. Were all humans we all need some kind of verification. I guess my statement didn't come out as well as it sounded in my head. Sorry.

[Gregs]

They get reassurance but then what? Usually they get right back up on their throne and start acting like bitches to the very guy that is making them feel good with his affection, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, you can't get fooled again. If you want reassurance so much go out to a nightclub and have drunk idiots fawning all over you then come back and suck my d***...

[VegasBubs]

Haha wow. Nice choice of words! I see where you're coming from gregs. I wasn't talking about all the time. Like I said my words didn't come out as well as I'd like them too. I don't know girls need reassurance every 5 minutes (and if they do then they defiantly have some kind of problem).Let them know you're thinking of them. Not enough men do it. As well as women should do the same for men. But if I'm dating a guy, I let them know how I feel so sometimes I want to hear it back.

[pixiepie69]

Everybody's special.

[Gregs]

Well that is good in theory but it doesn't work that way. With girls who play hard to get you either have to play back at them on their insecurities or just move on to someone who doesn't play hard to get.

[Anonymous]

Sometime men like to actually enjoy their time with a girl rather than play bullsh*t mind games with them because they have issues that they should be sorting out with a therapist...

Hope this helps, just a little.

[VegasBubs]

Hahaha that's quite funny.

[Killfest400]

And I'm happy to do it, so long as I'm not walking a one-way street.

[DaveThomas]

i don't do it unless I know they care for me/like me. otherwise. theyre just plain using me

[bigbanglover]

Hey girl, I really like what you've said. Really pours out the hearts of all the women out there in this world man. well... guess both sexes really have a hard time understanding each other... that's why we're all here askinng one another but sometimes end up with no solutions either. how sad right.... ='/

[DaveThomas]

"hey girl"? umm. if your gonna insult. try not being ignorant first. you jackass

[Anonymous]

Yea right, tell a girl how you feel then all of a sudden he's desperate or needy. You know it's true.