Fuckboy, friendly, or boyfriend material?

[iNeedAsocialLife]

Answers from guys are preferred here:) I’m not gonna lie, I’m a decently attractive girl, and have quite a few guys hitting me up on almost a daily basis. A lot of them compliment me on my looks, but only a few really focus on my personality. I’m always having trouble seeing if a guy just wants me for sex, or if they actually want a meaningful, and lasting relationship. (For context: I’m a 15 year old girl, and rn I almost have a boyfriend and I really think this relationship is gonna go places. But I just want some insight on how a guy will typically act if actually likes you as a person, and not just something to stick his dick in:)

[Goochbreaker]

The sexualization of children is weird and bad for the brain. Wait until you are at least 17 or 18 before dating in my opinion the only reason you want this is because you have been culturally programmed to want it through the media, sex ed making it seem like this is all normal, and then through your brainwashed friends. If you are 15, your chances of ending up anything more than some kid's fucktoy are pretty low, I'd keep your legs shut for now and wait this highschool thing out the safe way. If he can't say anything good about you (i mean specifics) besides your appearance, he's a fuckboi, and also if the good things he says are vague as fuck like 'you're really nice, I like you, you're sweet, you're funny, etc' it's probably bullshit. An example of a real compliment is 'I really like (insert specific trait) about you and how you (insert specific action) when (insert specific situation)

[iNeedAsocialLife]

Thanks! This was actually pretty helpful. I’m definitely not about to go having sex with a bunch of guys, and I’ve kind of given up on assuming that they want anything else. I’m actually pretty certain that the guy I’ve recently been talking to actually wants a serious relationship with me because he seems so much more genuine, and actually cares about me as a person.

[Goochbreaker]

maybe you're one of the lucky ones then, just keep an eye open for general fuckery, I've seen good 15 year olds go bad before highschool is over

[idkjustbored]

Too young, don't get invested unless given a reason to. And don't be heartbroken if all he wants you for is your body if you have no problem fucking him whenever. You seem confident put that into getting somewhere in life and revisit relationships seriously later. Also condom or contraceptives, cuz being a young mom is hard.

[iNeedAsocialLife]

I can’t find out how to edit my original question to say that *MY INTENTIONS ARE NOT TO HAVE SEX! IM ASKING TO SEE IF THATS WHAT A GUY WANTS, SO I KNOW IF I SHOULD CONTINUE TALKING TO HIM OR NOT* *takes a deep breath* *apologizes for that*

[idkjustbored]

Lol, just find out if that's all he wants if it isn't I still think you should put your confidence to use in a productive way aside from relationships. Hell tell him you want to be with him, but you don't want to just fuck around and you actually want to get to know him and see what happens. Seriously though you can fuck up in relationships and try again, get school right the first time to save you a bit of struggling.

[iNeedAsocialLife]

thanks man

[idkjustbored]

Mhmm good luck, in life and otherwise PS: Stay confident ;)

[kittykatpat4752]

I don't think I'm ugly and I dont think I'm pretty. But I do get the odd "Oooooo" from a boy looking at my ass. My boyfriend is define fly boyfriend material. He may not be the cutest but he keeps me happy and he may be a year older than me but I love him dearly. He's Samoan and is strong. He's my teddybear.

[iNeedAsocialLife]

Aww I’m glad

[kittykatpat4752]

by the way I was meant to say definitely not define fly😝

[Anonymous]

guys are too horny at that age to think about anything other than their penis tbh

[less_than_three]

If they don't take an interest in your life, or at least remember things you said a few minutes ago, they're not friendly or boyfriend material.

[Goochbreaker]

sometimes people just have bad memory, what matters is if they forget important things

[less_than_three]

I apologise, he's right. I should have been more specific. If he asks the same question a second or third time, he's probably not really listing and that could help spot them out.

[CurlyTopRob]

Don't have sex too your older trust. These little boys are nothing and will fuck up you perception of love

[iNeedAsocialLife]

Yeah I agree with that

[nickyBBB]

Jesus you're 15

[iNeedAsocialLife]

High school romance is complicated man😂

[nickyBBB]

Meh 😐

[nickyBBB]

Dramatic high school girls make it complicated 👌🏼

[iNeedAsocialLife]

I agree with that statement😂

[Hungry_Shark]

Fuckboy