Fuckboy or a useless guy?

[Anonymous]

The guy i was seeing for the last 2 weeks said he's distant

He said he's not looking for anything.

He said he was in a relationship but it was dead. Then said he's not looking for anything romantic

He says he's distant and isn't looking for anything romantic but wants to text all the time and ask come over for sex.

He has many female friends too and really likes to stay in female company. There are female friends who come to visit him, etc

How is this possible that he was in a relationship that died but doesn't want anything with me?

I know he has some casual hook ups and booty calls but he seems to have some close female friends. He also has a lot of female friends and I ve noticed that he frequently goes out to drink with them, lunch/dinner or walks. He will also always sit with women or between 2-3 women in a group setting too

Why would he do this

[lightbulb27]

This is such a great study for psychology/therapy class. Could do a whole semester on it and have fun to boot!

So you want a relationship with a guy whose heart is unavailable? He obviously projects some kind of "value" such that he is getting all this female attention. Some girls just "love" a broken man... hoping they can catch him with their vaginas I guess. They can't... But he isn't there emotionally... so all you women try extra hard "to save him" and catch him.

Girl... F#@#$@#$@#$%%@#$# run! Stop being a "dunce" female... this is your wake up call, opportunity to grow. Grow up, build some self respect, look at yourself in the mirror and reflect what the heck you are thinking and want in life. You want to try to raise a broken boy into a man? It's very standard female I hate to tell ya...

Why would he do this is so obvious it isn't funny... but it is hard to see when you are "in it "the mating hormones". He is lost emotionally, filing the void with sexual pleasure. It's a powerful drug, but he isn't giving out ANYTHING in return.

I could care less if he's labeled an F-boy. You got the term right... he is a BOY! You don't want to mess with a BOY do you? You aren't mature and obviously not aware enough to deal with someone that sick because you need help yourself. This situation says something about your personality, that you can discover. e. g. you just might love "wounded birds" so to speak. Warning!

Time to meditate and reflect, journal, grow, study, and learn. For gods sake, stay away from him and go to church so you can build some self esteem and self love and wisdom. Study old philosophy.

You're welcome!

[Asker]

But he goes to his female friends houses, their graduation party, pool parties etc?

[lightbulb27]

Do you have a self? any values? Why are you focusing on drama... and desiring it? Please go see a therapist and work on the self esteem that I suspect, your father never built. Your father needs his a$$ beat for not being there for you. That will be the start of getting you the help you need to avoid being rolled over and abused by males. There are plenty of stupid females around, stop using them as models for what is good.
Ask youself what you want in life, ask yourself what this guy loves and respects? Sweetheart... this guy is a selfish A$$ho#e! I hate to tell you this... but he reminds you a little bit of your father. Is that correct?
I'm not trying to Pis! you off, I'm trying to get through to you so you see what's going on, so you fix it and live a better life.

[lightbulb27]

So I missed the part about "you were seeing him for 2 weeks". That may be very relevant as to why you are so drawn in and understandable. Either way, he's a screwed up guy with the charm to use women... distance.

[spartan55]

Because he is NOT INTERSTED IN YOU. Seems like you've been told that about 50,000 times.

[Anonymous]

A fuckboy would not have been honest with you about not looking for a relationship. So at this point, if you still choose to settle for casual sex, or waste time trying to figure out if he meant anything other than what he’s already confirmed, then you are being delusional on purpose. I also would not say he’s useless because that just makes no sense. Having female friends and acting as a single man would has nothing to do with how useful he is.

[JasminTheRose]

He is a player and likes to have a lot of options. You should value your self as a woman and your dignity and block him and never accept anyone to treat you poorly even if he was prince charming himself and a CEO or whatever.
Standards are sexy and shows a woman is smart and respects herself, you should do so.
Good luck with the next partner!!

[savagewolf22]

You're savage ma'am

[Anonymous]

I'm fuckboy and i always around sluts & bitches... it's depends which type of girls he around

[LazerBean]

Yes.