If girls don't stare at me, does that mean I'm just average looking?

[Anonymous]

Girls don't look at me much unless it's just a short look (an accident). Sometimes I look at them but it looks like they don't even know I exist. I've heard that girls stare at good-looking guys and really hideous ones, so is this true and I'm probably just an average guy?

[PhatPat]

Aw, you poor thing! You know, I'm going to tell you to be honest, it's not even the "good looking" thing versus the "bad looking" thing as much as the kind of vibe a guy is putting off. This goes for girls too.

If you're putting off a confident, self-assured vibe, THAT is hot! If you're putting a "please look at me" vibe off (which it sounds like you may be since I can even hear your insecurity through your words), then that's going to close you off a bit. Be casual, go with the flow and don't over think it sweetie. If you feel like you're not as good looking as you'd like to be, then hit the gym...regardless of what your weight or body type is, just exercising makes you feel better about yourself. And please understand - I saw ALL of the above as a BIG girl here...so I have my own sets of insecurities...but it's when I got past them and just did my own thing, that I started getting attention from places I didn't even expect :).

[selfishstars]

Most girls don't really stare at guys the way guys stare at girls. We tend to be a little more discrete when checking a guy out.