People say i’m handsome but why girls don’t notice me?

[Anonymous]

I’ve always been told i was good looking by people my whole life, not just my mom/ family, but people who had no reason to lie at all, like male friends who weren’t even that close to me saying things like “you’re good looking, you must’ve had a lotta girlfriends”, but such is far from the truth, in my 20 years of age i’ve never slept/dated/kissed anyone, in fact, no girl has ever showed any interest in me, i am a very shy and socially awkward person, but i expected that, being a “handsome guy” girls would be naturally attracted to me.

[moviedude714]

Ummmm, because guys, men, have to develop themselves in order to be seen as guys or men to get dates, a girlfriend or sex. Girls, women don't, which I read in the Redpill community.

What I mean by developing themselves is, getting their shyness or social anxiety, social awkwardness handled, overcome, since because guys, historically and traditionally, do the heavy lifting when it comes to social interactions between a man and a woman, and dating, thats an example of developing yourself.

Guys, men, have to work on their confidence or just develop confidence, that's another example of developing yourself, which is kind of related to what I mentioned in the first part about developing yourself as a guy.

Guys men have to develop leadership ability or have leadership skills, or just know how to lead if they don't already know how to and doesn't come ingrained or innate for them. That's another example of developing yourself.

Guys, men, need to have advanced or very good social skills or conversation skills such as making the conversation interesting or attractive, keeping it alive, which is related to the first post I mentioned since guys do the heavy lifting in the interactions since a person who has to initiate or begin an interaction, lead the interaction, needs more social-skills or conversation-skills training than the person who responds to it or follows it, another example of developing yourself.

Also being able to pass her tests or shit-tests, learning or figuring out how to do that can also be an example of developing yourself but probably not as much as the ones above.

There is probably more I forgot or don't know what to mention in terms of guys developing themselves.

Women however, just have to be attractive, that's what it looks like, and have a nice or engaging or fun personality, Men can be attractive physically and have a nice or engaging personality but be lacking all of what I mentioned previously and won't get far with women at all, that's why I feel men have to develop themselves more than women do.

[wetsock]

Good looking is a plus, but trust me girls won't just be interested by your looks. And no Random girl would come to you confessing her desire for you. Like all things in life , relationships needs work. Dont get me wrong i am not criticizing the fact that you are shy, use that also, but for you to meet someone you need to start having conversation, spotting similarities between you and that person, try to get closer, so you can finally have your date, all rest sleeping and kissing comes later.

[LEETSBEREAL]

Two things one. We are in a highly judgmental society so it could be that girls look at you assume you're a ladies man and wrote you off on the spot before you can blink. Number two I wonder if its that they don't notice you or if this is your interpretation. And I say your interpretation because you say your very shy and socially awkward so if your very shy and socially awkward how much attention would you be paying to your surroundings in order for you to know if a girl is interested? If a girl looks at you are you looking back and holding that gaze? Do you even notice a girl if she looks at you? If your chronically shy and super socially awkward like I used to be then certainly other people's reaction to you will be 100x harder to spot then someone who is confident and out going. Coz your not looking around you and focusing on people your very inward and try not to focus on anyone let alone hold their gaze. So you have to ask yourself if you're getting in your own way. A girl could be watching you and because you don't look up or back at her she makes up in her head what's going on with you because she has no other data other then your body language. So she may very well look at you and thinking he's a nice looking guy he's probably got a que of girls or he has a girlfriend as he is very to himself so he isn't looking for anything.

[Shiver]

You gotta have confidence. Fake it if you need to, but confidence is a must in some way.