Why would a handsome guy not be able to get a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Im 22 and have been single my whole life. I have very good looks. I am a car salesman so I have excellent social skills and make almost 150k a year. Most people when I post asking why j can't get a girlfriend say its because i dont have enough money or i have bad social skills. but this is nnot the issue. I also work out and have a visible six pack. I am also naturally extroverted. I have plenty of male friends. But I cannot for the life of me find a girlfriend. Whenever I approach a girl in a store she gives me puppy dog eyes but says she has a boyfriend. Also tinder doesn't work for me even though im good looking. But im pretty sure that has to do with bad photos lul. I am just trying to figure out what i can do to become even more appealing to women. I already know im waaaay ahead of most dudes my age. Society has told me that being who i am i should get girls all the time but this simply isn't happening. Im confused and frustrated.

[Effably]

Assuming this is the case, why not just pay a photographer for a quick shoot. Put those photos on your Tinder and now comfortably have among the very best photos of all guys instead of bad ones?

From there, your looks, social skills and other traits should make things very easy.

If that is somehow out of the picture, as long as you engage with a lot of new people, social groups, hobbies and so on potential partners tend to present themselves from time to time.

And if this stuff doesn't work? Then you need to look at yourself and realize that something in your self-view is wrong. The subjective parts of social skills, looks and personality being most likely.

[Asker]

yeah im planning on getting a photoshoot

[Effably]

Sounds like a logical step.
Hope it works for you. If it doesn't, well we covered that. Nothing wrong with realizing parts of ourselves need a bit of work. Just need to be strong enough to admit it.

But we'll wait and see what the verdict is! Good luck.

[Levin]

Interesting.

Do you put yourself out there enough?

What's your internal monologue and self-concept when you meet and approach women?

Out of curiousity, do you keep high standards when dating?

You're lonely? I saw in your reply to another person. Maybe something to explore there. Maybe even some counselling. Loneliness has to be acknowledged and worked on so that it doesn't corrupt your forthcoming relationships.

Judging by your replies to the various negativity and bating on your question so far, you seem a pretty decent down to earth guy.

Tbh I'm having a somewhat similar issue. I'm sure you will be fine anyway. You're still only bloody 22!

[Anonymous]

Seems this is good evidence that money and six pack abs are not all girls care about despite what many of them think. 95% of your post was about money or superficial looks. Literally one word about you:extroverted and that doesn't tell us anything about your values or morals, just that you talk a lot. Sorry you can't find anyone but if you are so wealthy and good looking then it must be something about your personality. That is of course assuming that your not so humble description of yourself is accurate.

[Asker]

Yeah but "according to society" im a catch. Im not usually braggadocios but i wanted to give context to what my life js like. I have people tell me that im kind and my family tells me that I have good morals. My father says im a "helper of old people" because I saved a old lady who fell in a parking lot and I hold doors for people. I've always been someone whos helped other people. I used to be a lifeguard as well. I also know the importance of having priciples for myself to follow so people dont take my kindness for weakness. I don't get mad or lose my temper. I sometimes feel emotionally numb but ig thats better not having emotions you cannot control. but yeah that pretty much sums up my personality.

[provokeesmokee]

You sound like an insufferable, self-agrandizing car salesman.

Which doesn't sound like someone too fun to date. You sound exhausting.

[Asker]

lul ok

[Asker]

im asking for help and your insulting me. like wtf if you have some advice tell me with constructive criticism

[inhua]

how good looking are you really though? your friends and family saying you are good looking doesn't necessarily mean they are good looking given that they're not attracted to you

which celebrity are you closest to looking like? also what's your height?

[BlackJeep]

When I was freshly divorced after losing half my money and stuff, no furniture, 245lbs I was going on 3 dates a week, some of them were your age and some of them were off Tinder. Everything society says about dating and what women want is wrong. The women I dated would say they don't normally go out with a guy like me. You need to change your mindset because dating isn't hard. There are plenty of good women out there

[Meropatrick]

I have few questions to be able to advice u better.

Are u really good looking? How did u know if u never had a girl approach u?

U said u approach ladies in store. Stores are not the best place to pick up girls. Why not hang out in singles events?

U say u have many male friends, dont they have sisters? Why not ask their sisters if they have single female friends to hang out with and hook u up with?

[Anonymous]

If you are as good looking as you seem to think you are, and you earn as much as you say you do, yet you struggle to get women, that tells me there is something about your personality or vibe that is off putting to women. Those sorts of things don't typically come through when someone gives a verbal self-description, so I don't know what more to tell you.

[Asker]

yeah i get that. thats the same problem with online dating lul

[Anonymous]

You're B-O-R-I-N-G.

Most women today are very toxic my man. Sure you make 100k a yr. But do also have a 80k a yr. Cochise habit? If not then where's the fun in that. Most women today WANT drama! And if you're giving it they're going to find the guy who will. The more out of control and unattainable you are are the more drawn to you they're going to be. If you can't f*** her like her father did than she ain't interested. 😆😆😆

[LazerBean]

Either you aren't as great as you think you are, or you are putting off some seriously repellent vibes.

[Asker]

yeah I've asked my frmale freind and she says its not my looks or personality. she says that im not around enough single woman. i def agtee because i very rarely see attractive single women so i hit on the girls who are in bad relationships and who are not happy but that doesn't work very good as you can imagine

[Anonymous]

Maybe you also have a bit of arrogance or self-centeredness that girls sense and run away from.

[Asker]

yeah thats definitely possible but i dont usally talk about myself since that is considered bad mannered

[slatyb]

How many women do you greet by name when you see them?

[shades777]

because women assume something is wrong with him, i wonder if women feel that way about ugly me n too because honestly a man can be of quality regardless of how handsome he is

[In_Trance]

You're jaded; that's your biggest issue
You're desperate - almost your biggest issue


fix those first; then get into everything else

[Asker]

i am bored with my life even though i have a ton of hobbies. i practice martial arts and boxing. I also am in college for engineering. but il that im doing that stuff to fill void of being lonely

[In_Trance]

right... and people see right though that. you're a fool if you think otherwise

[Asker]

that depends on how i present myself. im pretty good at hiding it but the people who are close to me I've told

[In_Trance]

apparently not or you wouldn't be in the situation you're in

[ProbablyClueless]

Lots of women lack the confidence to get into relationships with desirable men.

[Anonymous]

Men have to behave a certain way more than women do

[Christoff92]

Depending on the way he keeps himself

[Anonymous]

Your timing is probably not ready