Have I been friendzoned by this guy?

[Anonymous]

- Guy is way too comfortable with you
-Treats you like a pal
-Never stares at you or checks you out
-Checks out other girls when he is with you. He literally kept staring at this girl the whole time while talking to me. I found that a bit rude. It was like he was transfixed.
-Doesn't treat you any differently than the rest of his female friends

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+1 y

To all those saying that maybe he thinks I'm not interested in him well he never showed any romantic interest in me from day one.

[Sheriblossom]

Well, personally I wouldn't play the blame game "Well, he didn't show any romantic interest in me from day one". Very rarely do people have romantic interest for someone since the first day. If you played your cards right, there could be a chance that you really made sparks fly, you know? Just because someone doesn't love you the first day doesn't mean anything. Did you try to show him you liked him at all/ do you have romantic interest for him? If you don't then it really doesn't matter, but that's my assumption. If he's only looking at one girl while talking to you this whole time, I can almost guarantee he has a thing for her. I know that guys rarely ever treat the girl they have romantic interest for "Like a pal". Even when you're friends and he has romantic interest for you, he will hint at it somewhat, unless he's shy. Guys will show it if they like you one way or another regardless of shyness. If he treats you like the rest of the pack. I'd say there is low chances of you turning that around. I wouldn't try to deal with it unless you really really really like him. There will be other people you can focus on too :) Some people are just meant to be friends, you know? Like if you don't have sexual, emotional or mental chemistry (ESPECIALLY SEXUAL) then it's really difficult to create that. Hope that helps!

[iamconfusion111]

Sadly, yes. You are friendzoned. I'm really sorry but that guy does not see you as anything more than a friend. But hey, plenty of fish in the sea! You'll find someone when the time is right.

[ImSoSquishy]

either he likes you and he's purposely checking out other girls to see if you would get jealous or it's like you said, he friendzoned you.

[Asker]

Lol he wasn't even checking to see if I got jealous or not. He was totally lost in that girl.

[ImSoSquishy]

then i assume he most likely friendzoned you :(

[Twistboy101]

It's not rude if he's not your boyfriend. Which according to you he isn't so yeah. He's friend zoned you.

[Asker]

It's common decency to make eye contact with someone while talking not ignoring them completely and staring at someone else continuously.

[ovetherainbows987]

I think this is common. When you are talking but something else distract your attention, you will tend to look at the thing/person that distracts your attention.

[Twistboy101]

Ohhh ok! I thought u wanted him to like pay attention and give u all the attention and he was just talking about the cute girls he saw. But if he's not even making eye contact then yeah that it pretty rude. He shouldn't of hung out with you in the first place.

[Anonymous]

I wasted over a year chasing a girl that friend zoned me. She led me and one other to believe she was interested, in fact she used text me while dating another guy in the office, I only found out recently. I was also told she has a boyfriend. I cooled off her the last 2 years, we keep in contact. She now wants to start meeting up again which I did but I was careful to keep my emotions in check.
Some people like the attention someone like us can bring. I think if I was you I would stay friends with this person but keep a distance.

[dragonfly6516]

No. If you've been "friend zoned" it's because you choose to hang around after being rejected, in hopes of winning him over.

If he doesn't know that you like him, he won't let on if he likes you.

Make a move. Tell him how you feel. And if he rejects you, then walk away.

[dragonfly6516]

At your update, why is it always the man's job to make the first move? Why should he make the effort if he doesn't think you're into him? It's a two way street.

[Sharknado88]

Unfortunately I would say so. When I like a girl I tend to be a little shy but I make eye contact with her more than I typically would with some one else and I would make more effort to talk with her. I also would try to text her more often and ask how she's doing. Unfortunately almost every girl has given me the same signs you stated above and pretty much made it obvious they weren't interested in me at all

[AuroraRoseat]

Maybe. It sounds like you're a great friend to him and actually one of the guys. He may not have seen you as a potential mate though.

But you never will know unless if you ask, so ask him on a date.

[Sociopathvictim]

Well unfortunately, he may have been attracted to you but you let off so many red flags he is not attracted to you anymore and sees you as a friend. Unfortunately for me, i have one of these type of girls living in my flat.. annoying as f*k

[Anonymous]

That means you were probably just a friend from the start, not that you were friendzoned.

But not staring at you can just as easily be the result of him liking you. Same for all the other things. I think these things are your ideas about how guys act toward girls they like but it’s far from that straightforward.

[Opinion Owner]

“He never showed any romantic interest from day one”
Doesn’t mean anything.

[TazzyWazzy]

You nailed it. Thought, sometimes it takes us a while to see what is right in front of us. The best relationships have a friendship as a foundation. The other thing is that you may not have shown interest and he thinks that you have friendzoned him. Is it worth crossing the friendship barrier?

[amy90]

Lol me too have similar problems... guys friendzone me...
Guess they like us... but we are not the type of girls they want...
They just NEED us to spend time with... not really WANT us

[fillingholes]

You have might have been friend zoned. But have you made it obviously clear you want more with him because if your not he will most likely think that you're not interested in him and look else where. Some of us guys need a push in the right direction to realise that a girl likes us. Well that's how it is for me lol

[Anonymous]

He just sees you as a friend. Maybe just find someone else and respect his decision.

[Opinion Owner]

Update: if its only friendship btwn the both of you and no interest, then I dont think you should bother about this friendzone thingy unless you are saying that you liked him but he didn't reciprocate.

[ElayneTrakand]

Your probably friended but in my experience no guy ever gets offended or weirded out by a girl asking them out. Let me know if it's the same with girls though cause I'd love to know if getting unfriend zoned was that easy for guys to

[Anonymous]

Guys don't have friend zones. They have "she prolly doesn't want to fuck me so I'll hang around and try and make her jealous until she shows interest, zones". Ask him if he wants to fuck and get the truth.

[JustCallMeLeon]

NOW YOU KNOW HOW IT FEELS!!!

Muahahahahahahahaha
SUFFEEEEEEER!

[olivine]

Wow intense😂

[phantomf1121m]

Yeah, you're friendzoned "pal" :/ sorry to break it to ya

[krity]

Sounds like your freindzoned - but unless he knows your interested, thatll never change. No point waiting for him to suddenly notice you!

Tell him you fancy him! I've broken the freindzone 3 times its a myth

[ultimega]

Well if he never showed any romantic interest you from the start then yes he's only seeing you as a friend. Sorry hun

[victorvolf]

Sounds like you already know the answer..

[Asker]

Of course I do... I just want other's opinions

[victorvolf]

Well, I agree. You never know his side of the story, but yours is not promising.

[XUndeadSoldierX]

Totally. I think you're just a friend for him, or something more than a friend, like maybe a closer one, that's why he's so comfortable with you. But he's not interested in you 'that way'. He likes you.

[Travis_Skyles]

Yeah you're in the friend zone. Just be greatful he doesn't treat you like his guy friends, at that point there's no escape.

[hereForGiggles]

You've been friendzoned if he's way too comfortable with you