Guy won't stop asking me out?!

[Anonymous]

Okay so this guy I'm friends with won't stop asking me out! He tells me all this perverted stuff and I just don't want to go out with him! I'm NOT interested at all. What do I tell him? I asked him to stop several times but it won't work and some of the things he says makes me feel really uncomfortable.

[xosunshine]

Ugh that JUST happened to me. You just need to be firm and even a little harsh. He has no right to say those things to you. When the guy I had to deal with said that nasty stuff to me I told him he was being an asshole with a serious look on my face. When he askes you out directly say that you don't want to go out with him. Make it clear you arn't joking around. Show him that he can't use you or take advantage of you.

[Consilience]

Just lose contact with him, if he still persists get a huge boyfriend and tell your new boyfriend to kick his ass.

If you don't want to take that route, I need to know more, does he call you? Come over your house? The more info you give the more "real" solutions I can give you. Does he scare you? Are people scared of him? We need to more about this guy, so we can really give you a more detailed answer.

[Asker]

We hang out a lot, but not alone. He touches me a lot (not inappropriately) whenever I see him. I clearly told him that I wasn't interested in him, and I would be willing to be friends with him if he didn't continue to bother me. I said that if he keeps saying the things he says that we can't be friends anymore, so its either friendship or nothing at all. What else can I say?

[Consilience]

You're right. Just give him an ultimatum, BUt understand, this guy wants a lot more than friendship, know what I mean? I personally think that he will always be trying to get in your pants. From what you tell me, he seems pretty dim, you know?

[Asker]

Yeah I know what you mean. The thing that's really bugging me I guess is that he knows a ton of my secrets because we were best friends a long time ago. And now I feel like he just wants to use me. He went from being a totally nice guy to a big jerk.