Guys, would you rather marry a hot woman or motherly woman?

[Anonymous]

I'm saying would you marry the woman you'd find hot for life who matches your sexual preferences (breast and butt size, skin etc) AND sex drive, or marry the woman who you think is the best house partner and mother to kids that you've ever seen from any girl. Honest and based from own experience is preferred please.

[partydelights]

LOL I find this question funny because you're comparing something physical in nature with something of character; both of which changes with time.

Usually, in the beginning, most young women are hot and not much skills in managing a family.

After marriage, especially after giving birth, most mothers start to change in appearance with, of course, the ravage of aging. However the good news is, her skills in managing a household improves and she becone more capable of playing the motherly role.

Eventually, age will catch up and you'll see a grandma. She could still be hot of course, but the luster of youth is definitely gone. By then however, she is qualified to care for grandchildren.

Hence, I think it's quite difficult to answer your question because a hot girl may become a great mother too, while a plain girl may failed in her household chore and all the spectrum are possible.

PS: Applies to man too, being hot and fatherly.

[Asker]

Thank you for the answer. I would clarify though that I am really referring to physicality as in endowment to some women through genetics and would like to keep themselves still physically attractive and "hot" even in advanced years versus the woman who wouldn't spend too much resources (time, money) on herself when she can be learning skills or maybe helping with wealth and be hands on and involved with the kids upbringing. I understand both may change in time unless a woman really investing in one or the other. I am just saying who would you choose or with whom would you see a happier marriage?

[partydelights]

With your clarification, I think when I was younger and more foolish, I will choose a hot girl; but if I were to choose now, I'll definitely go for a motherly type.

Reason: beauty fades after 10 years; but a true mother and wife is a companion sweet for life.

[Berethor]

A hard call, because a man tend to care about both of those things when it comes to a serious relationship, even though motherly quality tend to be more important to a serious relationship. Do the motherly woman don't looks too bad? and is the hot woman is a slut and/or not like children? anyway from my experience I don't tend to trust sluts, even if they are physically attractive. Also even though I prefer big breasts, if a girl is not a slut tend to be more important to me, small breasts is not a deal-breaker to me, while if a girl is a slut tend to be a deal-breaker to me.

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[Logorithim]

Well, I had a very attractive wife who was a mediocre mother. Give me the woman who is great with the kids every time.

[DesertCreature]

Motherly given the choices.
Takes a special kind of selfish to choose physical gratification over family.

[TheAceholeSupreme666]

Suppose she's all those things and more?
I think that would be great.

[Asker]

Of course!! A woman can definitely be more than a mother, or a pretty face or a hot body. She can succeed in her career or life goals, be involved in social and political movements, create inventions or solutions that can help society! But at this point, I'm just interested to know which of the two criteria weigh more in marriage for guys :)

[TheAceholeSupreme666]

Depends on which brain you ask.

[TadCurious]

I'd marry a woman that I loved and whom I could see being a great mother to my children, as well as a great partner to me.

[SngBirdy]

I would prefer the "motherly" woman, but that doesn't mean i would tolerate her being unattractive.

I would take a caring 6/10 over a "boring" 10/10.
Being a great mother or person, can't justify being unattractive.

[Anonymous]

I prefer a "motherly" woman but I would never be happy in a long-term relationship where the sex was not great. Doesn't mean she needs to be smokin hot, but she'd better have a healthy sex drive and we need to be sexually compatible.

[pumaOH24]

Probably a woman that is a little bit of both that you described. Both things are important in a marriage.

[TheFlak38]

The one who was raised in a normal family and is not a mental nutcase, hot or motherly.

[JSmuve]

I'd marry a woman that satisfies both. They're not mutually exclusive qualities and I'm looking for both in a woman.

[AynonOMouse]

How does the other one look that makes a good mother? Is she ugly, fat, or something?

[Asker]

Nothing extreme if you like. Let me just say she wouldn't be in your definition as most sexy, however you define it. No judgment

[AynonOMouse]

She needs to have a cute face for me to be interested.