Guys, do you fantasise and think about other women while in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

do you think about having sex with women or fantasise aboht them while you’re in a relationship?

[SngBirdy]

I dont fantasize about other girls while in a happy relationship.
But i definetely sometimes catch feelings for specific girls. As much as i love my own girlfriend, sometimes i just meet a girl by coincidence and she might be just as cute and lovely as she is.
I might think of her sometimes and be like "oh man that girl was cute".
But i never ever consider cheating on her or even disrespecting her.

[Asker]

Why do guys fantasise though? If you have a girl and she makes you happy?

[SngBirdy]

But i just said i dont fantasize about other girls. If i like a girl, i will obviously remember her.
Just because i love my girlfriend doesn't mean all other girls are ugly and i hate them. But i will never ever think about cheating on her or trying to do something disrespectful to her like flirting with another girl.

[Asker]

Yeah I meant why would you like the other girl? I mean if you lvoe your girlfriend that’s kind of off. What would make you remember a girl? Obviously we will find other people attractive but I don’t think I would catch feelings for someone else. I’m just curious about how guys think.

[SngBirdy]

Its hard to answer your question without making myself or other guys look like bad people.
You shouldn't take it personal. If a person is pretty and cool, there is nothing you can do about it.
In my friends circle, who my girlfriend is part of, there are lots of cool guys there. In fact, i like all of them, and i think all of them are super awsome people. I would think it would be weird if my girlfriend didn't like these guys, because they are all kind and cool people.
It all comes down to respecting your relationship and your girlfriend/boyfriend.

When i said "catch feelings" i used the wrong words. Because that would imply i would have romantic or sexual feelings towards her.
In feelings, i meant just usual human emotions. I can like a girl, think she is pretty and a fun person to be around with. But i won't sit at home and think about her, sexually or emotionally. I will just remember her, next time i see her "oh yeah this girl, she's cool, i like her".

[Asker]

I got you now, thank you for explaining :)

[Marethyu]

Yes, I do.
However, being attracted to another girl's appearance, is in no way connected to the feelings I have for my girlfriend.
I've never wanted, never even thought about a relationship with anyone but her.
Feel free to ask whatever you still want to know about that topic.. I don't mind answering and don't mind another's opinion :P

[Asker]

So when you look at attractive girl, what do you usually think? do you find them more attractive then your girl?

[Marethyu]

Usually? No.
I rarely find anyone as cute as her.
However, when I find a girl I consider very attractive anyway then it's pretty much what the clichés would say.. Like imagining her naked and such things.
It's just a fantasy though. I'd never act upon it.
Plus, I think you have to differentiate between a mere physical interest and the actual love you have for your partner.
There is so much more to that.. So very much more that can't even be compared.

[MrOracle]

Because being in a relationship doesn't mean you are dead, blind, or no longer a man. The nature of a man is to desire sex with multiple, different women. That's built into male DNA and instincts, and its our role in reproduction.

That doesn't mean we'll DO those things (i. e., actually have sex with other women, or even try to) while in a relationship - but we'll at least occasionally THINK about it, because that's the nature of being a man.

It's like asking women "why do you FEEL so much? Can't you just shut your feelings off and think logically?" It's in a woman's nature to be more emotional and to have feelings about everything, and she can't change and she isn't wrong for being that way. LIkewise, men can't change and aren't wrong for being the way they are either.

[ecfresh]

Of course, we are all human and will tend to be attracted to other people and have vivid fantasies. Being open and telling your partner about them is another matter, as I believe you should be able to tell your SO about a hot girl without her being upset.

[4pple]

Romantically or sexually, Nope, if I wasn't happy or satisfied with the person I'm committed to, I wouldn't have entered a relationship in the first place

[podski111]

Yes. I do that but I don't cheat on a partner. Sometimes it's just nice to think about someone else, perhaps when masturbating for example. No different to watching porn and masturbating. You ain't getting it on with anyone.

[zodiacaquarius]

No I keep the girl I'm dating in my mind at all times because that's what they deserve I don't want the love to die so theyre my only thought

[Logorithim]

Yes, and that is as far as it goes. I wouldn't act on it.

[jirwin7979]

i fantasize about 2 girls having there way with me.. i am in an open relationship and love it but not getting enough sex sux for me

[ryryryan]

This is the main reason for the entire porn industry.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Very often I get these thoughts and it turns me on.

[Lance1965]

No that is very rare for me.

[ichighost]

No. The girl I'm with is usually my focal point.

[wiseyoungman]

Yupp, impossible not to.

[Asker]

Why is it impossible not to?

[wiseyoungman]

Because you're going to see plenty of women that are more attractive. They're always out there.
Your rational mind knows that they probably aren't nearly as good for you on a relationship, but in your imagination she does anything and everything you want her to. Hence the fantasy with her is hotter because she's more attractive.

[Asker]

Isn’t the one you love supposed to be the most attractive to you? Because you’re in love with that person?

[wiseyoungman]

I mean in fairy tales, yes. And you're attracted to other things about them. But on a pure scale of physical hotness, no. Of course there will be sexier women walking around to fantasize about.

[RumEro]

wtf, who would do that

[JSmuve]

Only if she's not doing her job

[chris_987]

You said it like it was fact

[posersober]

I do think about my ex

[Sixgun77]

Yes, that's part of being human.

[Seppelson]

No I don't fantasize over that. I watch porn

[Anonymous]

Yeah with the girl I like

[Asker]

So you don’t think about other girls?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope if I'm satisfied in the relationship

[ROCKS128]

Rare..

[kojikurac]

Nope.

[TacoFamine]

Duh.

[burrbreezy]

Yes is it bad

[Anonymous]

Of course