Why do I get so scared when men yell?

[Anonymous]

In an argument, my boyfriend raises his voices or yells. I immediately stop talking even if I'm right.
He would never hit me but I instinctively just get very scared.
Not just him, any man yelling.

[AidenRich]

You may have had a male figure in your life even if you don't remember do something during an episode of anger. It's a trauma induced kind of reaction.

[spartan55]

I would be scared if I were a girl in that situation too. Have you asked him to not do that? What he is doing is a form of abuse.

[9teen]

I think it's normal. I subconsciously realize that I'm dealing with a furious someone who is physically stronger.

[9teen]

I think nearly every woman feels scared and it's better too. It deescalates the situation. Men feel it affects you when you suddenly get show signs of being afraid, they calm down. It makes them realize they're hurting you and they're making you feel unsafe. Nature is perfect.
Anger is something hard to control, especially for guys. From a biological perspective; if they're making the one they protect, afraid, they get calm in an instant because it affects them.

[G13xCandyland]

Were you screamed at a lot as a kid? Because I was and I get heavy anxiety when someone starts losing their shit in front of me too. Make sure you communicate to him how it makes you feel

[hotstuffSRD]

a lot of girls are scared if that 🤔
That's why I try not to tell at girls

[hotstuffSRD]

*yell at

[Anon-ymous1]

... Why are you asking us? How could we know that?