Is it ever a good idea to tell a girl that you miss her?

[Anonymous]

I'll give a little info here, This girl and I went to the same high school but currently go to different colleges. We hung out over Christmas break, and texted back and forth almost constantly until our semesters started. For a couple of weeks, it was a slow back & forth, until we stopped. After a couple of weeks without hearing from her, I sent her a text asking her how she was doing, and that I miss her. Was that a good idea, or did I blow any chance with her?

Believe me, I meant it 100%. I really do miss her.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's definitely alright to tell her that you miss her. Girls need to hear that. Maybe she's busy with school, maybe she's started dating someone. You won't know until she tells you. Wait for her response and see what she says.

[Asker]

Yeah, it's difficult because we are conditioned to be tough and emotionless as guys, and that's how I usually am. I just feel different here, but at the same time I don't want to come across as weak.

She got back to me, said she was about to text me. She says she's been sick and swamped with school stuff for the past couple weeks, and that she misses me too...I'm assuming that's a good thing.

[sthrnbel]

There isn't anything wrong with being honest how you feel. I've told guy friends I miss them. You can miss anyone. Doesn't mean its creepy. As long as she gets back to you on a positive note I think you are ok.

[moonlightromance]

if you miss her it would be nice if she knew that. it would make her feel special. I moved and a lot of guys said they missed me and my smile and thought that was the cutest thing.

[destroyer]

I think it's a better strategy to do your own thing and make them jealous, start dating other women etc. if she still likes you she will notice how desirable you are and she will come to you

[Chocobo93]

Um, being a girl myself, I wouldn't find this behavior appealing. Passive-aggressive just isn't attractive.

[adamretex81]

no buddy. never tell a girl you miss her. if she says it, you still don't say it. you just reply "cool" or "I know" don't be a wuss man.

[Anonymous]

It is definitely a good idea to tell her you miss her if you miss her. No matter if you are friends or if it is romantical it is a good idea to communicate your feelings clearly to eachother. It could even be a good thing to say "I miss you" every day sometimes if that's how it is. Knowing that someone misses you can help your relation grown into something deep... when you say "I miss you" you also say "hey, I think about you and want to be with you right now" and it will make them think about you too.

A girl I've been dating for a while sent me a "I miss you" text after a few dates and before we had verbalised our feelings to eachother. That was one of the best things I have experienced... to know that she was missing me... and she communicated it... because I also missed her. After this I often send her "I miss you" or "thinking about you" when we don't see eachother and that makes her very happy

[eidahl]

Just don't overdo it. Once every decade is sufficient.