Sex on the same day you meet?

[sarahsks]

Well my fuck buddy who I just slept with him three weeks ago, went with another girl to his apartment. He plays at a bar and these two ladies were buying him and the singer drinks, the singer then goes up to them to thank them, then he calls my fuck buddy over to their table and they talk for like 15 minutes, drinking another shot. The night ends and they both go up to their table again, spend like 20 minutes talking to them, then go outside the club for like five minutes then I see my fuck buddy coming from outside with the girl holding hands, he goes up to the manager to ask for his pay, all while the girl holds on to him from behind grabbing his belt. At that moment i left because I felt embarrassed, he never did anything like that with anyone let alone with me. On my way out I see them on the street talking and him making hand movements like telling her how to get to his place, then he walked her to her car, at that moment I just kept on drinking. It hurt and made me feel embarrassed and unworthy. Will he continue to sleep with her? Will they have a relationship? Tbh she wasn’t all that, I’ve seen him flirt with very pretty ladies, she even resembles me with her dark hair and her nose, just petite. why do guys do that? Cause I know if I ever did that he’ll be acting offended with me.

[JoyISok3]

I mean, your title is a fuck buddy. Eventually he’ll find a girlfriend. She grabbed him from behind. Perhaps you should stop being so afraid of making advances and actually put yourself in a position where you guys could be more than fuck buddies and if he’s not up for it, his loss. I doubt they’ll last though, if it soothes your mind

[sarahsks]

It doesn’t soothe it, what if they have amazing chemistry and even though he told me before that he thinks a certain way of people that goes to clubs, they start having sex regularly? it makes me feel out of the game, like I don’t know shit

[JoyISok3]

Well then maybe you should’ve sat down and assessed the fact that you’re settling for fuck buddy but hoping for more. You can’t have all these concerns because I’m sorry but you’re not his girlfriend. If they vibe and like each other then you can’t do much about that. Just in the future, be assertive of what you want. Don’t settle for stupid in between titles. Say what you want and have them take it or leave it. Don’t put yourself in the position you’re in today.

[sarahsks]

You’re right, it still hurts though, someone random and he acted very much interested in her 🤷🏻‍♀️

[smg99]

I think you’re starting to feel for him with attached thoughts it might be safe you kinda love him. Or not want to be left out? No one does but wear a smile on and tease him to extract the truth.

[JinRavage]

If even you call him fuck buddy, you should not care either way. If it does bother you, maybe you want to be more with him. Think about it and decide if it is the truth. If so, talk with him openly about it and see where it goes. Its not like you are going to get any closer with fuck buddy status as it is.

[spartan55]

I guess you thought fuck buddy meant he only fucks you...(nice detailed stalker analysis of the whole leaving the bar)
What does fuck buddy mean to you?

[sarahsks]

Well is not as if he wasn’t doing that in public, everybody that was there saw that, I assumed he was giving her directions to his place cause of the hand movements. And about fucking only me, at first I did ask him to be honest and that it was alright if he did fuck more people but he always said no, he always said he would not leave with random girls, he made me think something else

[spartan55]

Well, you were dumb to believe that.

**and spare me the justification, the WHOLE bar was not watching what these two were doing. You got played. Learn from it and move on. This is the type of thing that will when you have sex outside of a committed relationship.

[Anonymous]

I've been there. It changed nothing (negatively) for me. We continued for almost a year. I wanted more, but she didn't.

[sarahsks]

That’s the thing we’ve been sleeping occasionally for more than a year, he made it clear he didn’t want anything serious that’s why I never told him I started to catch feelings, we started sleeping less but still it would be very ironic that the girl he just met an hour before is gonna become his main buddy but oh well, lesson learned

[Opinion Owner]

Ugh, I'm sorry! My situation was very similar (I caught feelings also) only there wasn't someone else (I don't think?). She just dropped me (when I told her my feelings) like I was a piece of trash! Ended it and blocked me. No explanation (for closure) or nothing. And her actions were so night and day, that there's no making sense of it in any way. I don't know what's wrong with people today, but there doesn't seem to be any basic respect or human decency for anyone! To me, friendship comes first, but apparently it's non resistant to these people.

[Opinion Owner]

* non-existent

[reptocarl]

Why do you care? After all he’s nothing but a stiff dick for you to use on demand right?

[buttcrackjoe]

Key word: “fuck buddy” you reap what you sow
What else do you expect?

[sarahsks]

I know it’s just that why lie and make me think that our thing is kind of “exclusive” then the next thing you do is leave with a complete stranger, well not that but hold her hand in front of everybody, something that he always made sure never happened with me or his prior “friends”

[buttcrackjoe]

“Exclusive” and “fuck buddy” are mutually exclusive.

[buttcrackjoe]

Stop wasting your time with fuck bois get someone who really is exclusive and cherishes you as a girlfriend not a wet piece of meat. If he’s your fuck buddy you’re treating him like a piece of sausage and are just as guilty. If he fucked a girl right in front of you no one would have sympathy for your situation.

[worldscolide]

He is a friends with benefits what do you care? This is why those kinds of relationships dont work well..

[DevikaButts95]

Well he's your fuck buddy, not a relationship.

[Hugemoth]

it happens why do you care he's just a fuck buddy

[JennieF]

It's happened.