I had sex with my guy friend and now?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys!
So, 2 days ago me and my guy best friend got drunk and ended up having rough sex. The next morning I had to leave.. I dressed up and he just said ‘.. are you leaving already?’ I just said ‘yea.. bye’ and we didn’t talk since then. He looked a bit embarrassed also because we always said that sex between friends it’s something it shouldn’t happen. It’s been two days now and none of us texts the other. We usually keep in touch the whole day everyday. What do you recommend me to break this silence? It’s killing me. But I don’t know how to start a convo. I don’t know if he wants to hear from me..

[Wally48]

All alcohol is is a filter reducer. It allows underlying feelings to surface which might otherwise be suppressed. One or both of you have an attraction to the other, or you wouldn't have wound up in bed. My point is that you two need to communicate to see if it is mutual. Perhaps it was just a drunk fuck. Perhaps it is more. Who cares who makes the first contact?
This wouldn't be the first time that friends wound up as lovers.

[tenukitanuki]

Address what is keeping him from reaching out to you-- he saw you jet out of there like it was a mistake. Guy feels like you made a mistake and it was him. So... that's where the ball's at based on your report.

[Asker]

So I’m the one who should text him right?

[tenukitanuki]

Text him with the intention of following up in person, I'd say.

[Izumiblu]

Yeah. I’m betting he feels the same way. You each feel like you did something wrong. Which doesn’t mean you did. You just text him and maybe ask to meet up. Maybe what you want next from your relationship dictates what you want to say.

[lrichl]

he's not texting you because he thinks that it would be awkward. You made it awkward. Sex shouldn't be awkward between friends. It should be perfectly normal. Two people dont need to love each other to have sex. And yes, you should break the silence. Say you are sorry for leaving him.

[ecfresh]

If you want to keep him in your life, reach out to him. He is going through the same things as you are and one of you needs to break the ice. Doesn’t matter what you say really, just start the conversation and see how he feels.

[spartan55]

The horse is out of the barn now, nothing will ever be the same between you.

[Anonymous]

Depends if your feelings changed for him now, he might be wondering the same thing, probably better if you respond and let him know how you feel and if you want to take it further which he probably does

[vald9inches]

ask him if he wants to have sex again i guarantee you he will say yes!

[Gedaria]

Just say. it was just sex between friends that got out of hand. Sorry...

[Furuok]

Oooo sweetie who enjoyed it more should send the first text.

[arun934]

Just text him and talk normally

[Darkdragon79]

Text him and tell him that can't happen again.

[Jerre]

Just ask how he’s doing.

[DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999]

l don't know