I had sex with my best friend and he regrets it?

[Anonymous]

I had sex with my best friend, he performed badly and now regrets it.
I don t regret it, sure it was a bit cringe , but I belive that if it were for him to embarass himself with someone, best it be me, because I don t care, I don t judge. I ve always loved him and my feelings did not change.
I don t wish for our relationship to change. I perhaps hoped our friendship would grow stronger after this but it seems like it s not the case.
He does not want to talk about it anymore but there are things left unsaid.
I also want to keep talking to him about intimate stuff and get advice just like i did before but I also don t want him to be uncomfortable.
What should I do? Advice please...

[masterdm001]

Let him know how you feel but make sure you make him feel safe and that you care. Don't let it embarrass him, we all have flaws. If you can convince him and your willing to give it a second go. Try and help him. Communication is essential. Tell him your turn ins, help him find the right spot and teach him. Never be harsh and take it slow. Let him know it's okay and that the fact it was him is what mattered and that you can work on it.

[one1wild00]

Set down with him and tell him its ok that you were and are the best person for him to practice on as you will still care and be there for him no matter what and that you need someone to practice on and get advice from as much as he does, you never know things might change any you both are what each other needs.

[Anonymous]

You should tell him all of this. It doesn’t matter if he messed up, it’s true, if it had to be someone isn’t he glad that it’s you?
But if it makes him feel better then just pretend it never happened. Like at all. Completely block it from memory

[Anonymous]

Just act like it didn’t happen. You had sex. Big whoop. If he doesn’t want to do it again then just don’t do it again.

[Drumlin2001]

Sleeping with someone for the first time can be nerve wracking, it's not uncommon. He needs to get over himself.
You can either just drop it and never speak of it again. Or you can sit him down, get him talking and say what needs to be said. There are bigger challenges in life ahead of you both. If he's not willing to talk it through he may not be worth the effort

[coffeewithcream]

Do the Jim Carrey "just kidding" face. :D
After you say, "You suck in bed, buddy! You call that sex? I could have better sex with a spaniel! I'm gonna tell the world about how you suck in bed!!" Stare angrily then... give him a BiG SMiLe with the "just kidding" face. :D
That should make him feel better.
:D

[coffeewithcream]

:D :D

[Grkgod12]

Its very cool of you, trying to make him feel better about himself, even though sex was not good!
I have a suggestion, but it might be difficult for you to do. It really depends on the relationship you have with him

[Asker]

What s the suggestion?

[Grkgod12]

Well first, you need to get to a point with him that you can discuss intimate details.
Are you at that point with him?

[Asker]

Yes we were. I don't know about now...

[Grkgod12]

Are you still able to talk freely like that?

[Grkgod12]

And, what was so bad about sex with him?

[jalas4612]

The dynamics of your friendship (and this is a textbook reason why friends shouldn't sleep with each other) has taken a possible permanent shift for the worst. Nothing you can do by the way. Too late. Better luck next time.

[drsatan]

Why was it a bad performance and make you cringe?

Also, I agree with you, I think having your first time with a close friend is the best way to go about these things.

[Asker]

I don t want to get into details... also it was not out first time.

[drsatan]

Would you like to have sex with him again or do you just want to remain friends with him from this point?

[Asker]

Best friends!

[drsatan]

Maybe he feels like his bad performance ruined an opportunity for something more and it has hurt his ego.
If it was me, I think I would feel bad too and would probably want a chance to redeem myself, but that is purely just me, I really can't talk for him.
All you can do is try to communicate and be blunt with him.
Tell him you still love him as a beast friend, though saying that, if he was hoping for something more, that will only hurt his ego even more.
Tell him to quit feeling sorry for himself and go out for a drink with you, and once he's relaxed a bit with a few drinks, ask him what it is he wants with you or why he's been distant since sleeping with you.

[Asker]

I really don t think he wanted more out of this dell, anyway thanks 4 the input

[RemoErdosain]

So you had sex with him before, but because he performed badly this one time, you don't want to have sex with him ever again? Before this time, it was good?

[Asker]

@RemoErdosain no ! It was not out first time meaning we re not virgins. but the 2 of us just that once

[RemoErdosain]

Oh, I see

[jspl90]

Well do it again untill it goes well🤔 then it should not weigh on his mind and its either gonna advance to a relationship, stay as friends with benefits or go back to just friends

[mojikomi]

You both need to forget about this over time to be intimate with each other again

[LiamSawyer]

Just treat him like you always have and as if nothing happened.

[bulletbob555]

Well its not always perfect the first time. Eventually he won't be nervous and will have worked through his emotions and it should be better

[Romanwar]

Give it time. He'll come around.

[Miristheiss]

Give him a few more tries to get it right.

[BlackWidow93]

And that is why you dont have sex with friends.

[In_Trance]

I think you're gonna have to move on now