Why would a guy act like he hates me but then keeps checking me out?

[Anonymous]

I’ve seen him checking me out many times, but when I’ve attempted to make eye contact, to say hello, he always has this look like he hates me. He becomes serious and acts like he is forced to say hello. Why do guys act this way?

[i1T2daty]

Simultaneous fear of rejection- esp. if he's gotten rejected in the past combined with attraction. Perhaps, if you're interested in him, help him try to get over it. Often, though, it can be a potent mixture for sociopathology

[spartan55]

Stop assuming you know what he is thinking... YOU DON'T.

[Asker]

I’m confused! I assume he likes me but then he acts mean when I talk to him! 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Jamie05rhs]

You talk to him? Can you elaborate/ tell us more about the scenario?

[Asker]

He is my neighbor, when I first moved to my apartment he was nice. Then three days after that I had to do A LOT of laundry and organizing to do, he then asked me if he could use one of the washers and I said no. I know I was selfish and I shouldn’t have been. Since then he changed, and I don’t blame him. I baked a cake for him on Christmas “as an apology” but he never changed his attitude. Every morning when I see him, I say hello and he acts like he is forced to say hello. Sometimes I just give up and say nothing to him and next thing you know, he is checking me out so it confuses me.

[Jamie05rhs]

Ohh. Hmm. Interesting. Yeah, that's a tough spot you've got yourself into. I can understand wanting to get the laundry done, but sharing is also an important concept, especially when it comes to relationships. So if he sees you as selfish, then you no longer qualify as a potential partner in his mind. I would say the only way you could change that is to straight up apologize.

(Btw, I do understand that you had dibs and you weren't obligated to share with him. Technically he would have to wait. But it's just a nice thing to do.)

[Asker]

You’re right, the normal thing is to share but I had so much going on, I was under so much stress because I had just moved and had to inbox things and organize and work! I did try to make up for that day and I hated it that he had that impression of me because that is not the usual me! I don’t know how to apologize, he gets so serious and unapproachable 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[Jamie05rhs]

So explain that to him. Just tell him what you told me.

[Anonymous]

he’s just keeping his guard up so that people around him think he’s all hardcore and intimidating. bet he’s a real softie behind the face he shows. is he like this around a lot of people or just with you?

[Asker]

Yes he is always like that with everyone

[Opinion Owner]

then most likely he doesn’t hate you. he just wants to uphold his reputation or whatever

[Izumiblu]

He hates your personality but likes your body?

[Jamie05rhs]

We don't hate you. That look is actually a male version of RBF caused by anxiety of being attracted to you but not knowing what to do about it.

[No_Archons]

Some of us despise the power women have over us...

Also, we keep the high ground by acting this way, as soon as a guy shows interest, thats when he is able to be manipulated.

[sidvt]

Ask him directly only he can give u right answer...

[BigMash572]

Maybe he can’t face the fact that someone else is going to be texting or calling or slide in the DM !!!

[BeMuse]

You can suck ass but still be physically attractive.

[StaceyClark]

He probably wants to fuck you.

[slurreyboy]

Maybe he just thinks your hot

[Secret6620]

Maybe he doesn't understand his feelings 😇

[CrystalStarling]

Probably wants sex

[WhoDatGuy]

You can hate someone but still fancy them

[Abby79]

Cause he like you just chicken shit.

[PrincessGrail]

Fuckin weird