Guys, do you find older women attractive?

Question

For guys 18-20s for women 30-40s.
I’m curious as I’m reaching 30, I’m searching for guys around my age 30 and up. But what surprises me is younger guys hit on me. Especially 18-20 yr olds. That I question them why they hit on me and why they’re not asking younger girls there own age out. They’re response is usually they want a mature woman and younger girls are all the same. Which I don’t understand.

Guys, do you find older women attractive?

Is there a new trend or lifestyle of teens not being compatible?

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From reading the responses, next question:

Why are older women sexual flings and not potential partners?

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

When i was 17 to 22 i was all about the older women. I wasn't as confident and they seemed to be easier so it was easier to be confident. They also had nice cars and money of which i didn't have much of and they took me to cool and interesting places. They had accomplished things... all that is a brag. When i was 16 i fucked a state beauty pageant winner and she gave me a bottle of vodka. Imagine what i told all my friends after that.

I never was serious with any of them though. It was just to brag to my friends and experience new things. If you're 19 and you never I don't know fucked a girl in the ass then if you fuck an 18 year old girl who never did it its awkward. But if you find a 28 year old girl who is like i love it up the ass just get it, its easy and you can just go with it and get experiences.

Young men dont want relationships in general and they also dont know what they want. Its all about sex. I was 18 once and trust me all i thought about was banging hos and telling my friends.

So then now as a man in my 30s im looking to settle down and i want a family. So young girls are going to give me a family. Not girls my age. So now i dont talk to older women, just much younger ones.

Nachowedgie · Accepted Answer

40 is too old for me but I had a crush on a 28 year old a short while ago (Kinda still do) she's simply amazing and very beautiful, so nice to talk to, such a relaxing voice, very knowledgeable and positive but she tries hard and has accomplished some pretty impressive things, plus we relate with eachother on music as we're both musicians

xkildy · Answer

Women in their 20s are going to naturally look good. Everything is nice and firm. But if you can look good in your 30s, of course, your going to get hit
I enjoy women in there 40* 50 just cause they have a life already figured out and they want to have fun with a younger guy. You can do nearly anything and they will go for it. I have had more fun with them than I ever did with women my own age or younger, cause they are more mature and just take what they want instead of playing games and all the be

Bananaman177 · Answer

Men and women the same age have nothing in common. Different experiences, different opportunities, different expectations, different goals, different values.

college-aged girls are almost always looking for casual sex, not a relationship. They're all going through a "racking up numbers" phase, trying to complete their sexual bucket list before 25, and their phone gives them a constant stream of male attention and flirting and lust. Their life is like a fever dream of pleasure and excess and every love and affection being offered to them every day all day long.

The last thing they could possibly relate to is a college-aged guy, working hard and struggling and saving and sacrificing and looking for a stable relationship while the rest of his life is in a state of chaotic flux. They're fleeing from that as fast as they can. They'd rather tie a rock around their neck and go for a swim than waste a single second of their time talking to some weirdo loser creep like that.

Miristheiss · Answer

Some but a lot less of them.

The attractive ones are... women that were already attractive as 20 year olds and who have not changed. They look the same... only their skin has started to age and look like 30 year old skin instead of 20 year old skin.

The ones I don't find attractive are the ones I wasn't attracted to as 20 year olds or they've begun to transform. They look like totally different people, they put on weight and cut their hair short and start to get mom bodies. You look at a picture of them at 20 and they don't even look like they were ever the same person.

Egoless_M0rtal · Answer

Absolutely, really when im looking for a woman. I tend to really only look for older women. If a special younger lady comes by i might take a shot but older women 10/10 100% the reason you mentioned you get most of the time (younger women being immature) is partially true but for me its more they know what they want, they know who they are, they know ehat they are looking for, mind games are kept to a minimum or kept in tasteful fun and in my experience older women cheat A LOT less then the 21 year old girl who goes out every night getting trashed with her friends and just somehow ends up in bed with some other guy. Now at my current age its getting better but I have had a lot of bad experiences with women my age. And not so much with older women.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Girls between about 23-29 are the most difficult in my opinion. They've dated long enough to have been played/used a few times so are super distrustful and bitter about guys. They also get hit on the most so are the most difficult to attract.

Girls up to 23 are new to the outside world enjoying their independence and clubbing so aren't too picky as they just love the attention and benefits of being an attractive young woman.

And woman approaching and into their 30's haven't found the man to marry so have almost given up on the dream. So instead they just enjoy the experience of dating and hooking up if it pleases them. They are more prepared to put in effort to dates for the guys they are seeing and don't give a fuck about being slut shamed so more sexually open and confident so they are great to meet for a guy that is sick of girls expecting the world from him.

Anonymous · Answer

When you're a young guy you don't give a damn about the woman's age. That's why these guys don't care because ( sorry to sound crass but pu**y is pu**y). As guys get older they want younger women though. Partly to prove they still got it but also because all women cost. But why would you pay full price for something from the clearance rack ( i'm talking about older women obviously). Also older women tend to have jaded attitudes that younger wonen don't
Don't worry i'd say you got a good 5 to 7 years of marketability in you.

JayMichigan616 · Answer

I'm way into older women. Experience and maturity have a lot to do with it but lately I find myself more attracted to 30 somethings. An adult woman who knows what she wants and is all the way comfortable with her sexuality is far more appealing than a college girl who has no who she is or what she wants. Maybe it's just me.

Anonymous · Answer

Generally, women start to expire after 30.

The reason some will have flings but not see them as potential partners is that generally older women look for a male to "settle" with them after they have lived their youth riding the cock carousel and being "wild and free"... so when they hit the wall, they become desperate and pathetic.

Women don't get to be horrible and picky towards males in their youth and then get to have choice and options later in life when they are desperate.
If you were better people in your youth, you wouldn't be single in your expired age.

TripleAce · Answer

A bit young yes... id say primary reason for most... they wanna bang an older women. That's big time brownie points when you are a young guy... no matter how you see it lol

A few im sure would be more long term... but I mean as a women approaching 30 id say a 18 -20 year old boy is too young for... for the most part

Anonymous · Answer

When I was in my late teens and early 20's I was more attracted to older women. Even now I'm still attracted to women 10-15 years older than I am. Just now, women my own age are also mature and younger girls are attractive but I can't see myself settling down with a girl that's currently 18,19 years old. They're still trying to figure out who they are and we are in different times in our lives but I wouldn't mind having fun with someone younger. Same thing with these young guys who are attracted to you. They wouldn't mind having fun and even forming a relationship but realistically it probably won't last.

Haelaeix123 · Answer

I find some older women attractive yes. They are more mature and not as childish or shallow in a lot of cases as many younger people are. And I dont consider then sexual flings either, if I am ever interested in older women then its genuine interest not sexual interest

Surely · Answer

30-40 plus yo women are more career and goal oriented than younger ones. Most seem to know what they want and are not afraid to try to get it or at least ask for it.
As for the younger ones, they are still wondering around not having a direction to go in.

Guardian45 · Answer

I thought your Q was interesting. So I would like to add my 2 cents.

I have dated younger and older women than myself, but honestly, age is irrelevant. Some, not all, younger women can be more mature and attractive than the older ones. And vice versa.

Smoothing · Answer

The thing that attracts younger guys to women in their 30s is the maturity aspects of things. The older a girl, the more understanding they are likely to be. Guys get fed up with drama at some point in life and the younger a girl, the more drama you will face.

I certainly prefer women older than me specifically for that reason. I still date women younger than me, but I prefer ones older than me.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I'd guess they hit on everyone. Or maybe find generation x an easier demographic than generation y.
Their explanation sounds like a typical suck up, not to be trusted (they won't exactly say they struck out with younger women so opened up search criteria)

Bmories99 · Answer

A couple of reasons I can think of is they are tired of the drama that comes with girls/women of their age. Second maybe a desire to not have kids. Third they may have mommy issues, and or are looking for a sugar momma setup. Me personally I think it's more of the first thought.

AynonOMouse · Answer

The younger guys think the older women will be easier for them to have sex with, which is the primary goal of many younger guys when getting with a woman. The reason they think that is because many men around your age and older that want a relationship and not a hook up lose interest in women that pass 30, which leaves women in that group more available with less options.

Thatsamazing · Answer

Um... guys find *attractive* females attractive. Whether they are older or not doesn't really matter much unless she has reproduced, which is an instant boner-killer and "no thank you." If she doesn't have kids and she's hot and fun, then yeah sure we like them. It's natural biology for guys to prefer younger girls, but older girls can still be hot-- it just becomes far less likely over time.

Pejtu · Answer

Yes i do MILFs are deamn sexy and im saying that as 25 y old i did have one night stand with 34 y old women and deeeeamn son she was good even better then the hot teens girls , she was better at everything

Anonymous · Answer

I do have a thing for older women, as they know what they want sexually. They also have passed that 'Guys won't take me seriously if I consider sleeping with them' kind of stage in their life, as they are more concerned with more important things than that.

Plus, they aren't scared of actually having sex. :)

Mikael818 · Answer

Hai there.. Let me tell you honestly.. I like only mature aunties. I am not a pedophile to like girls below of my age. Young girls repulsive to me. I want woman. A girl became woman when she became 40 and above. The more you age, the more you became mature and the more you became sexy. Thanks for the question.

Shorrey · Answer

When I was 19 I dated a 28 y. o. woman. :-) Yes, it was attractive. If you don't want drama every other day and want someone who knows what they want from life - older partner is the way to go.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Yes I had a thing for older women still kinda do but when I was young it was ^_^ and I don't see why older women worry about being older it's not exactly old? I mean 30 out of 100+ years that's not old.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i've always had a thing for older women. i don't think there's anything to it. if you're attractive then we're gonna hit on you.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really. They’re not ideal for proper dating material. But they’re easier than younger women and there’s less investment. It’s just not as big a deal if an older woman doesn’t like you, but hanging out with them makes for convenient sex and monetary bonuses.

YHL6965 · Answer

Yes, to me, 30 is like the golden age for women, the best compromise between beauty, maturity, life experience and all. It's like the beauty of a 20 year old with the maturity of an adult, and no game playing.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

Older women are usually passed the stage where they can start a family. Most young guys want a wife their age to have kids.

ShadowofRegret · Answer

I find older women rather attractive myself.

As for the update, I think most men view them that way because of the age difference, personally though, I would like a serious relationship with one (as in marrying her.)

Anonymous · Answer

18-20's will bang a hot 30+. They won't see a future with a significantly older woman though. There is that whole biological clock thing that doesn't affect men.

Anonymous · Answer

Older woman are easier to sleep with cause their older and they know there options are limited. And guys just want sex and your the easiest to get it from.

Younger woman want money and wanna play around to much. Or focurf on their career

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