Guys, are women after 40 still desirable or attractive? Ladies, as you get older do you still feel attractive? Why/why not?

[Pinay_ako]

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Hey, my mom is 47 years old, she’s a real femme fatale, of course she is not in her prime, but it doesn’t stop her feel attractive and actually, lots of men find her very attractive.

She was always very pretty, in youth, she was compared to young Sharon Stone from the Basic Instinct.

Yeah, she’s a little bit older, but Even at 40, she turned more heads than I did at 18.

So yeah,

Don’t stop feeling attractive, because you are.

You are feminine, you are attractive, you are wanted and any men would still be lucky to be anywhere near you. Be happy, be positive, be careless, be lively, that’s what men are crazy about.

My mom’s like that and I feel like she’s got a secret code of how to be irresistible at any age.

My dad has never cheated on her, my dad loves her dearly.

No man ever leaves a woman like that, a woman who lovers herself.

So, love yourself every day. Don’t worry about extra years. You are very attractive.

[WhiteBoyChill]

And if you seen her picture yourself, she does actually look pretty good!

[Queen33]

I’m coming up to 40 in a few years and I feel more sexy and attractive and alive now than I did in my 20s. Even after having 4 kids. My body has grew life.

My fiancée (5 years older than me) tells me I look better now than when I did in my 20s which personally I think so too. I think he looks better now than when he was in his 20s. Our sex has even got better as we’ve aged together. I do look a bit younger than my age and petite 5ft and keep in shape size uk 6. I take care of my body, appearance and mind.

I still get male attention when out and about from men of different ages, younger and older than me.

[ManOnFire]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾You must be pretty damn hot.

[MementoMori777]

Yes of course, that is an example on why love is so powerful, you can grow such bond to someone's personality that looks and age can be completely invalid, love is more of that person's presence and existence being important to you because you grew a bond to wanting that person's existence so counting true love, not the petty new version people seem to thrive off on these days thinking that sex is the most important thing is a relationship, counting actual love a woman in her 40s are easily desirable if someone's intentions is love and they purely fall in love with that person, now I'm not saying looks can't play a part because looks can be a lure to attract someone and then when meeting the person, the personality hooks them.

[ManOnFire]

They sure as hell still are. They are my first choice.

[DermalPunch]

Why?

[ManOnFire]

@DermalPunch Older women really can be quite sexy. A lot are still attractive for their ages despite what men or the media might try to tell you. And the SEX with them is very good. They’re more loving and serious about the experience I would say.

[DermalPunch]

attractive for their ages

Why not just attractive?

[ManOnFire]

@DermalPunch Because people believe as a woman ages she loses attractiveness. So I would argue they're still good looking "for their age."

[DermalPunch]

But I was asking YOU why not people

[ManOnFire]

@DermalPunch Hey. Don't push it. They are my Loves and that's all that really matters.

[OlderAndWiser]

When you get older, younger girls are still beautiful, but older women become more attractive, also!

[AviatorTom]

Women over 40 are still attractive... and often more attractive... no worry about pregnancy.

[OlderAndWiser]

"They don't swell, they don't tell, and they're grateful as hell!" -- OlderAndWiser's father

[nolabels]

My grandma had her eighth kid at 50 years old. True story.

Be careful out there.

Lol.

[Shiningtempest]

@AviatorTom I don't see the logic behind woman over 40 being more attractive.

[OlderAndWiser]

Attraction is not based on logic. You’ll understand when you are older.

[Apple1996]

@nolabels yes many women are still fertile until they are fully over menopause. Women don't just shut down at 40 like so many people seem to think 🙄

[Staximus]

@Shiningtempest that's because you are still young and dumb haha. There's a lot more to it than just looks. You don't have to worry about baby fever unless they have no kids, most are much less superficial, have grown up mentally, and not looking for Mr Perfect anymore

[OlderAndWiser]

@Staximus Sums it up rather well!

[Shiningtempest]

@Staximus I am willing to pass up an opportunity to date 40 year old woman because my red flags & deal breakers means more to me than dating less superficial woman.

[YesterdaysChild]

You can still get pregnant after 40, don't kid yourself.

[Avicenna]

Lots of them are, but if they haven't taken care of themselves, by that point they probably won't be.

[sejla]

I hit a couple rough spots accepting my aging but I usually get over it. I have had the most attention after the age of 45 while I was invisible in my 20's.

[godfatherfan]

lol... WTF kind of question is that? Obviously the are. Women also get freaking sexually aggressive in their late 30's but most definitely in their early 40's. When I started dating after my divorce, I was 46. I was dating from 40 to 52 then. I actually thought "man, if this is the way us guys acted in our 20's, then props to women for putting up with us".

[Pinay_ako]

Obviously not for some 😂

[Sharkstealth]

As long as they don't enhance themselves un naturally. There is nothing that is more of a turn off to me than medical procedures to enhance looks. They need to excercise and eat right.

There is a reason most women will say that a dad bod is more attractive than aesthetically pleasing. It's because a guy with a dad bod raised a family and fixed the house and cars. An aestheticslly pleasing guy worked out and stared at himself in the mirror. I believe the same can be said for women also.

[DannyUk2017]

They are desirable, attractive because they are More Mature, more Experienced, and Know what they want from Life/Men, not like the Younger generation that knows only, high sex, sex parties, drunk sex, and after are crying left and right that they are pregnant or don't know who's the father or they got some STD/SDI and don't know what to do. 🤷‍♂️

[DermalPunch]

Exactly!

[DannyUk2017]

@DermalPunch Thank you 🌹

[Zatsuma]

I have my ugh moments, usually after I find the empty bottle of wine on the counter and wonder who drank it... Then I look in the mirror! 😱🤣

But I think we have more patience as we age, which is less stress and that puts us in a good place compared to a 20 year old. However if anyone asked me if I would like to be 20 again my answer would be hell yeah!

[Meropatrick]

I think you would want to have your mind and life experience with being 20 years old right? I think having a young mind angst and ignorance sucks

[Zatsuma]

Ahh but then maybe life would be too perfect with no mistakes made for learning? Nah..., I'm still making them in my 50's!

[Meropatrick]

we will always make mistakes we learn things every day. But i think young people have a lot of unnecessary worries that could be solved just with a wiser older mind

[YesterdaysChild]

I'm 56 and feel somewhat attractive. I can't compete with girls in their 20's, but I bet I have more knowledge and poise. Younger girls attract guys by wearing skanky clothes. I attract guys with my brain. Or at least I hope that is what they notice about me.

[Jerre]

You are a very attractive woman

[Angelo75]

The thing about being desirable/attractive is that there is a combination of looks and how you carry yourself and personality.

And the more mature you become, the better you will carry yourself and usually the better your personality gets.

That makes the total package at the end of the day more and more desirable.

Ask any men what they'll prefer:
A. A woman that has a 9 for looks but a 3 for personality
B. A woman that has a 7 for looks but a 9 for personality

A lot of men that has experience both will choose for "B"

[Pinay_ako]

Not always

[Screenwriter]

Women of ALL ages are attractive because of what they know and how well they take care of themselves.

If someone looks like a giant slug, NO, that isn't attractive and there's a lot of slug looks out there... But attraction is more than just skin deep also. Some who aren't physically attractive are some of the best people.

Everyone can't be fit due to medical issues, etc. Most of us do the best that we can.

[Rei13]

It all comes down to if you take good care of yourself or not, excluding reasons out of your control. I look better in my thirties than I did in my twenties. I’ve lost a lot of weight and I have always looked young for my age. I get attention from men both younger and older, and looking at my older sister and mother the same holds true for them.

[DarkCarousel]

When I was younger, I was insecure in my physical appearance. Looking back, I think I wasted a lot of time worrying. I think the way that I carry myself now has made me appear more attractive, especially when I see myself in pictures.
I have more confidence and I take better care of myself now.
There are certain aspects that I get frustrated with but I’m not going to dwell on them.

[YosiEl]

Really depends on the woman in my opinion. However, generally, attractive or not, her pool of potentials is smaller given that men generally prefer women of the same age or younger. Women also tend to prefer a man of the same age or older so naturally that reduces said woman's pool of potentials.

As a man who believes in God I also believe that there's more to a woman or man than what they have materially. The material things a man seeks in a woman tend to be her youth, fertility and beauty and a woman seeks a man's strength, status and wealth. However, religious people will also look to see how strong that person is in their faith as it can add value in terms of helping them practice as well as helping raise their kids whether they already have some or plan to have some.

[Simslover92]

There's tons of women after 40 that look stunning. Look at Jessica Biel, Jessica Alba, Eva Mendes, JLO, Jennifer Aniston, just to name a few. And I see women irl everyday that look stunning and youthful after 40. My boss doesn't look a day over 25 and she's in her 40s.

[cunnilinguist]

I wouldn't really date anyone under 40. They are all immature girlies that don't know what they want. No disrespect, and of course it's not black and white, and there isn't a magical moment when you turn 40, it's a slow process. But you get the idea. Unless you don't.

[andreasderjuengere]

I recently met a lady who initially stated that she's 33. After a few VERY pleasant meetings (😉 ) it turned out that she's 43. Disregarding the ''lie'' - I feel and felt relieved.

Hotness (to me at least) comes from life experience, not so much from -erm- youngness.

Just one request: stay in shape, please (I do the same)

[Apple1996]

Yes by 40 most women have found their sense of style and have lots of confidence compared to their younger years. Which makes them very attractive in my opinion. If I'm being honest I'm very exited to age because of those reasons 😊

[DermalPunch]

Yes. Thankfully my body isn't much different frim my 20s even after three kids because I put in the work. I *know* I am more attractive hitting 40 than I was in my 20s. Granted I'm probably pegged at 28-35 even still.

[whiskeyontherocks]

If a woman takes care of herself than yes I’m attracted to her regardless of age.
I’m 40 and if I wasn’t in a relationship I’d definitely desire a woman in her late 30’s to late 40’s rather than her 20’s unless a woman has zero interest in taking care of her self I usually have a broad definition of desirable.

[provokeesmokee]

I find many wome over 40 attractive. One of my first lesbian crushes was a woman in her 50s.

People who think after 40 is "sexless" don't have any idea what sex drive is really like, lmao.