Guys, are women after 40 still desirable or attractive? Ladies, as you get older do you still feel attractive? Why/why not?

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LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Hey, my mom is 47 years old, she’s a real femme fatale, of course she is not in her prime, but it doesn’t stop her feel attractive and actually, lots of men find her very attractive.

She was always very pretty, in youth, she was compared to young Sharon Stone from the Basic Instinct.

Yeah, she’s a little bit older, but Even at 40, she turned more heads than I did at 18.

So yeah,

Don’t stop feeling attractive, because you are.

You are feminine, you are attractive, you are wanted and any men would still be lucky to be anywhere near you. Be happy, be positive, be careless, be lively, that’s what men are crazy about.

My mom’s like that and I feel like she’s got a secret code of how to be irresistible at any age.

My dad has never cheated on her, my dad loves her dearly.

No man ever leaves a woman like that, a woman who lovers herself.

So, love yourself every day. Don’t worry about extra years. You are very attractive.

Queen33 · Accepted Answer

I’m coming up to 40 in a few years and I feel more sexy and attractive and alive now than I did in my 20s. Even after having 4 kids. My body has grew life.

My fiancée (5 years older than me) tells me I look better now than when I did in my 20s which personally I think so too. I think he looks better now than when he was in his 20s. Our sex has even got better as we’ve aged together. I do look a bit younger than my age and petite 5ft and keep in shape size uk 6. I take care of my body, appearance and mind.

I still get male attention when out and about from men of different ages, younger and older than me.

MementoMori777 · Accepted Answer

Yes of course, that is an example on why love is so powerful, you can grow such bond to someone's personality that looks and age can be completely invalid, love is more of that person's presence and existence being important to you because you grew a bond to wanting that person's existence so counting true love, not the petty new version people seem to thrive off on these days thinking that sex is the most important thing is a relationship, counting actual love a woman in her 40s are easily desirable if someone's intentions is love and they purely fall in love with that person, now I'm not saying looks can't play a part because looks can be a lure to attract someone and then when meeting the person, the personality hooks them.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

They sure as hell still are. They are my first choice.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

When you get older, younger girls are still beautiful, but older women become more attractive, also!

AviatorTom · Answer

Women over 40 are still attractive... and often more attractive... no worry about pregnancy.

Avicenna · Answer

Lots of them are, but if they haven't taken care of themselves, by that point they probably won't be.

sejla · Answer

I hit a couple rough spots accepting my aging but I usually get over it. I have had the most attention after the age of 45 while I was invisible in my 20's.

godfatherfan · Answer

lol... WTF kind of question is that? Obviously the are. Women also get freaking sexually aggressive in their late 30's but most definitely in their early 40's. When I started dating after my divorce, I was 46. I was dating from 40 to 52 then. I actually thought "man, if this is the way us guys acted in our 20's, then props to women for putting up with us".

Sharkstealth · Answer

As long as they don't enhance themselves un naturally. There is nothing that is more of a turn off to me than medical procedures to enhance looks. They need to excercise and eat right.

There is a reason most women will say that a dad bod is more attractive than aesthetically pleasing. It's because a guy with a dad bod raised a family and fixed the house and cars. An aestheticslly pleasing guy worked out and stared at himself in the mirror. I believe the same can be said for women also.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

They are desirable, attractive because they are More Mature, more Experienced, and Know what they want from Life/Men, not like the Younger generation that knows only, high sex, sex parties, drunk sex, and after are crying left and right that they are pregnant or don't know who's the father or they got some STD/SDI and don't know what to do. 🤷‍♂️

Zatsuma · Answer

I have my ugh moments, usually after I find the empty bottle of wine on the counter and wonder who drank it... Then I look in the mirror! 😱🤣

But I think we have more patience as we age, which is less stress and that puts us in a good place compared to a 20 year old. However if anyone asked me if I would like to be 20 again my answer would be hell yeah!

YesterdaysChild · Answer

I'm 56 and feel somewhat attractive. I can't compete with girls in their 20's, but I bet I have more knowledge and poise. Younger girls attract guys by wearing skanky clothes. I attract guys with my brain. Or at least I hope that is what they notice about me.

Angelo75 · Answer

The thing about being desirable/attractive is that there is a combination of looks and how you carry yourself and personality.

And the more mature you become, the better you will carry yourself and usually the better your personality gets.

That makes the total package at the end of the day more and more desirable.

Ask any men what they'll prefer:
A. A woman that has a 9 for looks but a 3 for personality
B. A woman that has a 7 for looks but a 9 for personality

A lot of men that has experience both will choose for "B"

Screenwriter · Answer

Women of ALL ages are attractive because of what they know and how well they take care of themselves.

If someone looks like a giant slug, NO, that isn't attractive and there's a lot of slug looks out there... But attraction is more than just skin deep also. Some who aren't physically attractive are some of the best people.

Everyone can't be fit due to medical issues, etc. Most of us do the best that we can.

Rei13 · Answer

It all comes down to if you take good care of yourself or not, excluding reasons out of your control. I look better in my thirties than I did in my twenties. I’ve lost a lot of weight and I have always looked young for my age. I get attention from men both younger and older, and looking at my older sister and mother the same holds true for them.

Simslover92 · Answer

There's tons of women after 40 that look stunning. Look at Jessica Biel, Jessica Alba, Eva Mendes, JLO, Jennifer Aniston, just to name a few. And I see women irl everyday that look stunning and youthful after 40. My boss doesn't look a day over 25 and she's in her 40s.

DarkCarousel · Answer

When I was younger, I was insecure in my physical appearance. Looking back, I think I wasted a lot of time worrying. I think the way that I carry myself now has made me appear more attractive, especially when I see myself in pictures.
I have more confidence and I take better care of myself now.
There are certain aspects that I get frustrated with but I’m not going to dwell on them.

YosiEl · Answer

Really depends on the woman in my opinion. However, generally, attractive or not, her pool of potentials is smaller given that men generally prefer women of the same age or younger. Women also tend to prefer a man of the same age or older so naturally that reduces said woman's pool of potentials.

As a man who believes in God I also believe that there's more to a woman or man than what they have materially. The material things a man seeks in a woman tend to be her youth, fertility and beauty and a woman seeks a man's strength, status and wealth. However, religious people will also look to see how strong that person is in their faith as it can add value in terms of helping them practice as well as helping raise their kids whether they already have some or plan to have some.

cunnilinguist · Answer

I wouldn't really date anyone under 40. They are all immature girlies that don't know what they want. No disrespect, and of course it's not black and white, and there isn't a magical moment when you turn 40, it's a slow process. But you get the idea. Unless you don't.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I recently met a lady who initially stated that she's 33. After a few VERY pleasant meetings (😉 ) it turned out that she's 43. Disregarding the ''lie'' - I feel and felt relieved.

Hotness (to me at least) comes from life experience, not so much from -erm- youngness.

Just one request: stay in shape, please (I do the same)

Apple1996 · Answer

Yes by 40 most women have found their sense of style and have lots of confidence compared to their younger years. Which makes them very attractive in my opinion. If I'm being honest I'm very exited to age because of those reasons 😊

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

If a woman takes care of herself than yes I’m attracted to her regardless of age.
I’m 40 and if I wasn’t in a relationship I’d definitely desire a woman in her late 30’s to late 40’s rather than her 20’s unless a woman has zero interest in taking care of her self I usually have a broad definition of desirable.

provokeesmokee · Answer

I find many wome over 40 attractive. One of my first lesbian crushes was a woman in her 50s. People who think after 40 is "sexless" don't have any idea what sex drive is really like, lmao.

justabuddy · Answer

So yes and no. I'll try to explain as best as I can. A girl in her 20s is in her prime. "Attention generally" comes even if she does not want it.

After that, you actually have to work for for it. But she is desirable as she has wisdom and knowledge. Dating becomes serious and not just fun.

DermalPunch · Answer

A young mango is nice but a soft, ripe juicy mango is way more delicious!

BlackJeep · Answer

Yes, however I would not date a women entering menopause years again without enough time to establish a relationship that is solid enough to get through it. My ex-wife was ******* crazy in her 40s and I'm not doing that again

dolemite58 · Answer

Sure there can be women that are still cute and age gracefully but they’re the very small minority. Are they as attractive as when they we’re in their 20’s? No, but that’s ok. Women know they have an unfair advantage in their youth and most think they deserve to have the upper hand over men their whole life.

Kaamraj · Answer

Women over 40 may still be desirable and attractive but can they compete with the 20yr old versions of themselves? Secondly the question of having children is almost gone so that's a big factor. Men irrespective of where they live, which culture they are from or time (cave man to modern) would prefer younger women than older women any time.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Oh you betcha they are, and they usually know stuff. They are independent, know what they want and aren't afraid to ask for what they want. No more guessing as to what you think they would like.

inhua · Answer

only a select few women past 40 are attractive. desirability is entirely different as the numbers do not dictate that other than for casual sex

SnowedIn · Answer

They are not only beautiful/attractive/sexy/etc., They are desirable. Very.

nastyb · Answer

Everyone ages differently. But people generally look worse as they get older. Both men and women. Prime is 20 to 30s for both genders. 40 is the age people tend to see a downturn

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

If they took care of themselves, sure. If they let themselves go and stopped trying in their twenties not so much.

Meropatrick · Answer

Honest opinion no

After 40 women really lose their youth quickly and all kind of wrinkles appears. U have this and then u have the new 20 Something year old still fresh and fertile. A 40 year old woman can't stand a chance with her fading fertility and youth unless she really have a good surgeon and still...

You asked honest opinion so thats is

Christoff92 · Answer

Yes sure. Look at actresse Jessica alba. 42 years old 😀

madhatters4 · Answer

yes. my wife turned 42 this year. still hot as hell to me. i certainly see plenty of beautiful 40+ year old women

sheikalana · Answer

I'm in my early 30s and I still feel very attractive. I actually think I look much better than when I was in my 20s.

exitseven · Answer

Yes I see some women over 40 and some over 50 at the gym that are still attractive. My wife still looks good too but I could be biased

Paris13 · Answer

I will Never be Ugly. lol!!! xxoo

RingOfFire · Answer

It's a mixed thing. Speaking for my self I find women under that age to be more physically appealing. But the maturity of women over that age is attractive in other ways.

soe11 · Answer

Very much so, personally I had experience with my girlfriend's mom whom she lives with us, especially making love is fantastic and stunning. So Isay yes

Jazzy54 · Answer

Yes. As long as I’m alive, I don’t have an “expiration” date.

Mariammhan · Answer

I’m sure they are age don’t matter if the heart is young and wild

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, lots of Ladies are attractive age 40 +, I see lots of Ladies in that age range are attractive.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

I find women who look after themselves in their 40s and onwards attractive. Beauty is in the eye 👁 of the beholder😍

ericclayton · Answer

Of course. Women who take care of themselves can very much be attractive, and they don't have the immaturity of younger women.

Billlewis · Answer

Of course they're attractive; in fact, I think a woman is sexier when she's in her 40's than when she's younger, because she'll have more fat on her butt and thighs. Sex is always better with a chubby woman.

serious_miss419 · Answer

At 31 I began losing the desire for intimacy and then on not craving touch or having an interest in others.  So I’d say it starts earlier than 40 for women.

Bananas83 · Answer

Oh absolutely! The thing about older woman is they're past the drama and BS, they're confident in who they are and know what they want. Yes they are very attractive

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

I would say yes, and you’re a perfect example 😘 You look very good and I honestly wouldn’t worry so much if that is what this is about. ❤️

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Yeah, of I were single I'd date someone over 40. My fiancé is 44, we met when she was 40

RavVid · Answer

Well they can be I think. I'm still distracted by 20's girls.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

attractiveness and desirability are not the same at any age.

zero444440000 · Answer

hell yes. women after 40 are still hot af. in fact i say they have a charm you can only get with age.

DextroShade · Answer

Yes, but only if they have taken good care of themselves, the guy is much older, and he doesn't want kids.

Staximus · Answer

I work the door at a live music bar. I see women of all ages and types. One if the hottest I've seen working there was 58.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I see many who are more attractive than many in their 20's.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Don’t listen to these assholes who say women hit a wall. Plenty of 40+ women are still very attractive.

TiaNour · Answer

You can never get a real answer based on people’s opinions, but I think you can be attractive after 40!

pierre7i · Answer

Women over 40 are still desirable and are often especially wonderful to be sexual with because they are more relaxed, know what they like/want, and in my experience have so much sexual skill

KatherineJ · Answer

Sometimes I feel attractive and sometimes I don’t. It’s still a trip that I’m 40!

marish01 · Answer

As long as she looks in her 20s and has beautiful features

crmoore · Answer

Absolutely, as long as they take care of themselves and still try invest timing in looking nice.

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