Guys, Are women over 35 less desirable than our younger counterparts?

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LunarEclipse433 · Accepted Answer

That totally depends on the individual woman. Age really isn’t a factor for me. Maturity, openness, spontaneity and the way she carries herself mean much more.

OtterMan68 · Accepted Answer

ever heard of the term "MILF"?

MrOracle · Answer

I'm 54, and my girlfriend is 37, and was 36 when I met her. Obviously I found her desirable, but there is context to consider.

Men in their 30s and 40s will overwhelmingly choose a woman in her 20s if he can (many can't - but nearly all who can, will).

Men and women value very different things in the opposite sex. When a woman is choosing a man, she tends to value his height, his fitness, his education, his career, his status, and his income. None of these things are important to men when looking for women. When a man is looking for a woman, he's looking for youth, purity, femininity, loyalty, friendliness, and peace.

Youth is absolutely something men value, and value highly. This doesn't mean that older women have NO value, but it definitely means that they don't have nearly the "market value" that they had in their 20s.

If "social market value" (SMV) was expressed in money rather than some hypothetical "points scale", we would say this: when a woman turns 18, she's like a billionaire - her value is astoundingly high, largely because of her youth and purity - but her ability to EARN more value is very limited, and even if she is perfect, inflation is going to severely deflate the value of her money as she ages, such that by the time she's 30 (roughly, on average), she'll have gone from billionaire status to only being average in terms of money - nothing special or out of the ordinary. It's also true that her own behavior very much affects her value as well - being promiscuous is like the wild spending of money - it's very possible to greatly accelerate the loss of value - and having another man's children is another way to severely lower a woman's market value.

The problem is that women become adults, and they're treated like billionaires on the dating market, because they're young, and they just assume that's how it will always be and, moreover, that's how it SHOULD be. Many behave as if they will remain this valuable forever, and they squander their opportunity to secure a life-long relationship with a quality man that they COULD attract, because they prefer to just "have fun".

By the time they hit their early 30s and start struggling on the dating market a bit (for the first time), and decide they better "settle down and take things seriously", a lot of women are shocked (or are completely in denial) that not only are they no longer a "billionaire", but their "net worth" may have fallen to what the average person has - or even less. And if you are used to shopping at high-end designer stores and eating at $1000/plate restaurants, the prospect of having to shop at Walmart and eat at McDonalds (like everyone else has always had to) is a huge shock. And to drop the metaphor, this means that a woman in her early 30s is not going to be able to attract the quality of men that she could easily attract in her 20s - but since it was so easy for her in her 20s, she feels ENTITLED to such men forever, and many are in denial about the fact that those men are no longer within her reach. In her mind, she is now being asked to "settle" for an "average" guy, and that's just unacceptable to someone who has had access to the very best. She doesn't realize that she squandered her value (her youth), and didn't spend it wisely when she had it to spend.

Men, by the way, start out life with a $0 bank balance, and they must BUILD every bit of value themselves, which is why men tend to put off relationships for a while, and why they date younger women - they need time to build their resources and status, because women today will not build with a younger man together - they prefer to wait at the finish line and only pick from the winners.

Avicenna · Answer

Guys' opinion on this can vary by age. Taking out fertility/desire to have kids, sure, plenty of women older than 35 are very desirable, even some between 50 and 60.

AviatorTom · Answer

Women over 35 generally have more experience. Some are more desirable than their younger inexperienced girls. But not all.

dolemite58 · Answer

there’s still women that are good looking sure but are they as physically attractive as their 25 year old self? No but that’s ok. Women should actually work on having a good personality that’s pleasant to be around as they get older. I’d rather hang out with a cute woman that’s humble in her 30’s than some super hot chick in her 20’s that’s acts like she’s a celebrity. I’ve noticed anytime you try to even suggest to women that their looks gave them a head start in life but It won’t last and they need to cultivate themselves in other ways they don’t like hearing it.

Staximus · Answer

I've said this before but I used to check ID's at a live music bar. One night the hottest woman in the place was 58 and there was about 200 people there, plenty of younger women too.

Lionman95 · Answer

Depends on what a guy is interested in. In terms of looks maybe but not in terms of intellect. A guy that says a woman is less desirable after a certain age is either younger or focused on sex.

Drew-1990 · Answer

Woman over that age can still be extremely attractive I won't lie I'm more into younger but it's more because I'm more traditional than they are undesirable.

Amur8711 · Answer

If they find them attractive, and they are attracted to older women, then to that individual they are more desirable. But this is a preference thing and varies person to person.

Decoded93 · Answer

No, there’s many attractive women over that age! I’m actually very impressed by older women who take care of their appearance

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Yes. She can be as desirable. But usually a guy that has his shit together and thinking about his future will go for a younger women that can bear him a lot more kids, then an older woman. Desirable usually parallels fertility

soe11 · Answer

My girlfriend's mother is most desirable then her daughter, experienced and exposure, no shy at all, play longer and smother sexier.

My girlfriend trained by her being sexy and fulfilling desires of men.

Some occasion I have to fulfilled her emotional sex drive.

RavVid · Answer

Between 20 to 25 is flowering of female hood. At 35 a woman is not going to have as good a body. But there is more than body.

DarkLegacy · Answer

yes they are. Women tend to peak at 23 and then go downhill after that. Most women are undesirable after 35 and a lot before that. Some are the exception to the rules though.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

It depends on a number of things such as her attitude, personality, is she going to bring peace or chaos to my life etc. We want a woman who will complement us.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Nope, I’ve met plenty girls that looked late 20’s and were mid 30’s. Everyone is different.

Tim2nice · Answer

No. I find mature women more attractive. They’re more interesting

renodnol32 · Answer

Can't speak for everyone. But in my opinion i have come across many desirable women belonging to the age range you've put out there.

msc545 · Answer

Some yes, some no. I don't think age matters as much as maturity and mental health. A lot of women under 30 are immature and entitled.

Likes2drive · Answer

Depends on her, if she takes care of herself then they can look just as desirable as younger women

Jerre · Answer

Not at all. I have dated and had sex with many women your age and 20 years older

Fuentes · Answer

I wouldn't have a kid with a girl over 35 lol I'd still fuck tho

nawtee_me · Answer

Not at all, you are not getting older you are getting better…..

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Yes of course. There are many attractive women older than 35.

Berethor · Answer

Yea women hit the wall around that age, the looks and fertility are falling fast at that age.

NadYdnaL · Answer

No depends on your genetics and if you look after your body

justabuddy · Answer

For a short term commitment yes. Long term commitment no.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Yeah, ask yourself why these 40 years old men are going for under 30 I myself will do the same when I reach that age in the future.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Depends if you still want to have children.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm not a douchebag...

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Older women are actually sexier

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