How do guys see strippers as?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so I'm a stripper but I go to college and that whole deal. I'm just wondering I usually don't tell a guy this but one ended up finding out. What do guys think of strippers?

[hellokittycat]

I'm a retired stripper. I did it pay some law school debts (I only went one year) and then to pay for my Master's degree. I enjoyed life in large cities, yet my degrees where all social science based and I knew I would never find a job that would allow me to live a descent life in a major city. So given the choice between getting job in my field and living a small town or taking off my clothes and living in a major city. I chose getting naked for strangers and keeping my little apartment in the overpriced city of Los Angeles.

Alot of men do have awful double standards when it comes to dating strippers. But usually the more judgmental he is the more likely he is to be a regular customer of both strippers and prostitutes. It's Red Flag that he's sexist, rigid, and believes using women for his pleasure is justifiable.

On the other hand, if the guy just asks if you'll be quitting soon, and if you'd want to be with just one guy someday, stuff like then that's okay. It just means it bothers him that you get naked for guys. And that just shows he's human and wants his girl to himself.

I wouldn't suggest telling the guy the truth if you think it would freak him out. I've known guys to get mad a girl because they found out she lied to him and told him she had a different job. They always say it was the lie that made them not trust her. But when I ask the guy if he would have stayed had he known he always says, "NO!".

If you really do want a relationship with a guy who knows your job I suggest you find a guy who goes to see you at the club. Now do this with caution, because it carries it's on perils. The guy could be married and telling you he's single, or he's a lowlife and just wants to see if he can charm the stripper into getting naked for him for free or wear her down to have sex with him for cash. But every now and then there is a guy that gets attached and wants a relationship. How do you know?

He'll come in to see you and won't dance with other girls. Sometimes he'll tell you, "I came here to see you," and what he means is that he's into you and wondering if he's an idiot for liking you. He'll do this for months, like 3 at least, and each time he'll go to see just you. And he won't be cheap about it, he'll buy your mandatory drink, won't haggle, etc. He might even throw in a v.i.p. if he has the$. Beware of regulars who throw around lots of money and act like they'r into you. Those ones have control issues and are closet misogynists. If you think you meet a guy at work and he seems like potential Boyfriend then have him take you out to dinner and don't sleep with him. But don't sleep with him. Do let him know you like him but are into finding a relationship. Be clear that work is work but on your free time your just girl who wants what every other girl wants. and will see him again if that's what's interested in. If he looks at you like your nuts then good riddance to him. If he's understands then he could be a potential BF

[MEDUSA]

My best friend is a body guard for a strip club here. All of the women who work there are scandelous and dirty, though its a pretty nice club. Most guys see strippers as being easy w low self-esteem, as girls who have no self respect of dignity, or just want them as a one night stand w no strings attatched. My friend goes at least once a week to buy multiple pregnancy tests for the girls because they sleep around. At other clubs I have witnessed some also get drunk at work because of all the guys buying them drinks or are on drugs and pop pills. strippers in general are just bad news.

If I was a man I would never date a stripper let alone sleep w one.

[hellokittycat]

I did work with a lot of bad news strippers. But there were others, like me, who were just there for the cash. I don't have low self-esteem, I have a lot of self respect and carrying myself with much dignity. In fact most men I met tell me that most girls are just fine with their looking at internet p*rn, not going to dinner too often, or going out with the boys. They tell me that I want too much. So apparently it's the non-stripper girls who are setting the bar pretty low for men's behavior

[blahhblahh22]

@hellokittycat don't them hoes got money to buy pregnancy tests filthy whores I feel no pity for them or w. e happen to them ew

[MysteriousLexi]

I know your asking for mens opinions most likely based on the fact that you want a healthy happy relationship with one in the future but your worried they won't respect your choice. Well obviously one day you hopefully/probably will, but lets face it most people find strippers to have no self respect and wouldn't consider them as "the one". Sorry.

[HatchetHunter]

Personally? Disgusted of the thought. Heard all the reasons for why they do it but even in the decent clubs Iv'e seen what the lifestyle choice does to those girls. Can't say i blame somebody for wanting more money but I'm a strong believer in holding onto your morals. Maybe I'm different but my parents always explained to my siblings and myself that our body's were private between ourselves or our spouse not for the public arousal. I divorced my first wife for stripping (which that story is different from yours). I can see it being an easy quick source of money but Iv'e seen plenty of women work hard at (no offense) 'decent' jobs and have very successful and fulfilling lives. Look at the media. How many times on a T. V show do you see where a stripper is considered a decent and no harm no foul job? As for as morality it really goes both ways. See if you were on a pay-roll making a percentage per hour and your job was to specifically strip then the morality would be obviously wrong and slightly disgusting. Instead so the question of morality is oblivious they made it a self'contracting labor where the question of morality is all in the person doing it. Win-Win right? You make great money and so do they and no laws broken! But I'm only just one guy that doesn't like the idea. I'm no fool but I analyze it the way i see it because of 1. My past divorce and 2. What Iv'e seen from it. Some people don't mind it but others do. Some jobs are like that for a lot of people. Here's my HONEST opinion. I think that it's wrong in some cases but it all in the person doing it. If your single and it's a last option to quickly make some money I think it should be a situation where it's as simple as "Do what you have to do." If your in a relationship (Let me specify also: 1. A committed relationship and/or 2. A serious relationship and/or 3. A GOOD marriage) I believe you should definitely consult with your partner on their feelings about as well. Dont subject them to torture.

[Techan]

Honestly? I have no respect for strippers as a profession and would never date one. You might be the nicest, most perfect girlfriend in the world, and I just would not be interested at all because I'd know that you essentially are selling your body every night.

I can understand needing the money, I'm a graduate student myself, and I'm not judging you, at least I don't mean to, I just don't have much respect for strippers. I feel like there are better ways to get money that don't compromise basic morals.

[hellokittycat]

Better ways to make money? Sure. Better ways to make the same amount of money? Really? What other jobs can a woman work 25 hours per week and make $1200? Please let us know.

I always think it's funny how men go off about a woman selling her body, yet men think of having sex with whatever is available as "just being a guy". So if a man uses a woman for sex and breaks her heart that's just life, but if a woman takes cash for showing her body she's a lowlife? What a twisted mind.

[HatchetHunter]

Wow I don't think you actually read his post rationally! Your right there's not many job's that make that much but to explain better for him he's saying there's "other ways" to make money and be more fullfilling in your life. And as for your comment about men having sex with whatever or breaking womens hearts thats twisted in itself. The man gave an opinion not an attack and you can't be mad at stereotypes if your gonna stereotype the ones who dont agree with it and state an opinion. ( And on a separate not that comment can both ways. there's plenty of women doing EXACTLY the same thing.)

[Blessedgal]

Exactly! There are other ways to go about making money. For instance how about becoming your own boss? I have been through many bs in my life. I have three kids and no need to strip because I don't feel the need to expose myself like that. I work hard yes but in the end I do not have to take off my clothes in front of strangers.

[tex151]

To be honest it would be cool to date one, but the problem is most strippers are bad news, they do drugs, they're usually insecure, get into relationships with guys that beat the hell out of them. I've never dated one but I had a friend who did and he said never ever date a stripper they are bad news, the one he dated was coked out of her mind all the time, she had drugs in his house, the people she hung around were drug dealers and all kinds of shit. He said she was insecure about every low self esteem, not a good type of girl to date. You could be completely different for all I know, but that is what lots of guys say about stripper, don't date them they are bad news.

[hellokittycat]

I hate to tell you this but a lot of women get into abusive relationships, and a lot of women are insecure. As for your friend's choice in women, it sounds like already had bad judgement. She probably showed Red Flags of being a cockehead that he failed to see. The thing about being "insecure", every night customers come in and tell the strippers the lies they used on their wives and girlfriends, or how they got away with cheating. Strippers aren't ignorant like most women. They know.

[tex151]

The girl he dated wasn't into drugs until she became a stripper.

[Blessedgal]

Hellokittycat if you want to continue stripping your whole life go ahead! No need to attack everybody who does not agree with your opinion. They are just that OPINIONS. Get over yourself huss

[NotSoBad]

I would date one . but It would be more about the thrill and the sex then actually seen as a serious relationship. I've been to strip clubs and I've seen what goes on. Yeah it's good money but I don't want to be walking around with a woman who smells like a bunch of dudes. Besides with all the practice she has making men believe she is interested in them. what would make her boyfriend believe he is any different? Her profession is to make men feel as though they are wanted. What makes the guy at home feel special? Most strippers will allow men to touch them for an extra few bucks. some will go even further.

So from behind the scenes can you tell me what it's like being a stripper? What type of women are in that field? What do you see? What are the personalities and attitudes of the girls that work with you?

[hellokittycat]

I think it's a double standard that you spend money on strippers but looks down on them so much. It's pretty sexist and show some misogyny. It is true that strippers have to be fake to make some 200lb, 50 y.o., bald man thing his king and spend lost of money on them so they make rent. This is exactly why the job is so exhausting and drains everything out of you. So why would anyone exert the type of energy on her free time? Your problems is you confuse the job for the woman. BIG MISTAKE.

[NotSoBad]

I've been to strip clubs.. as far as I'm concerned they're a waste of cash. The girls run around so quickly just to suck up dollar bills. Honestly, I can spend my money on something more exciting. And to defend myself against your rant, I don't mistake the job for the woman. I know its a job and I know they are their to make cash. Read the last part of my answer and tell me again that I confuse the job for the woman. I am clearly showing curiosity and interest in who the women are.

[Frances_Floyd]

Strippers in the end of the day are human and have other hobbies, interests, talents, characteristics and atributes. In the club you have your game face because you are there to earn money and pay da billss. However, outside of work I am myself, the way I act around men in the club isn't what I do in the real world, in fact I am very shy towards men in the real world and freak out if a really attractive guy starts talking to me. In the end of the day if you trust your stripper girlfriend and you have a good bond, she won't be doing extras for tips, that's illegal and if she gets caught she will get kicked out of the club.
Plus you can have free dances :D
in conclusion, strippers are awesome <3

[blahhblahh22]

@Frances_Floyd HOE for life skank lmao

[Whoknows87]

Most guys would never wanna go near that. It's true. You might make money for college and stuff, but you're basically sacrificing yourself...MOST people do not think highly of strippers because strippers lack self respect, confidence, and standards of living. Many are addicted to drugs, alcohol and other sh*t...that does not appeal to many people in the general population. It's kind of like a sub culture...that not many people believe in. It will take a very free spirited and open minded guy to really accept you for who you are if they found out.

[Ahma83]

Well stripper is just fine, somethings connected to it aren't.

I would be fine with it, but I admit I would go to the club she works in. Some day when she is not working and see if girls there are doing some "escort" side business. In case she works at club. Some do gigs I guess.

Ofc if some girls in club are doing it doesn't mean this one is, but I would not be kewl with it. I would start looking other way.