The guy I'm just talking to wants my social media passwords. What's up with him?

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We are just talking and are friends but more than that. He said he wanted my social media passwords. But we aren't going to date so why would he want that if we aren't going to be dating. Also he was talking about the type he house he wanted in a few years and mentioned stuff that I like and he doesn't. What is up with him?

oldawg · Accepted Answer

Uh Oh run away. Unless you want someone to control every part of your life. Because to be doing and asking what he is saying makes him a control freak and if you are not dating why is he saying those guys things. Also you must be careful because Guys like him can be extremely dangerous if they don't get what they want or even perceive they're not going to get what they want. One thing to watch for is if he has a jealous streak because if he does get the hell out of there because you will get hurt physically and emotionally. That's just my opinion but I've known guys like him and 99% of them are exactly as I said. I hope this helps a little bit but not knowing the type of person you are it's just an opinion. Take care and Good Luck✌

letssee89 · Accepted Answer

I'll use a NASCAR analogy here.
A NASCAR race has different flags that mean different things.
A green flag means all systems go.
A yellow flag means proceed with caution. No passing allowed under most conditions.
A red flag stops the race, usually temporarily. Cars often remain on the racetrack, waiting to resume.
A black flag tells a driver to go to his (or her) pit box immediately and stop racing.

What you have here is somewhere between a red flag and a black flag. I'd cut contact as soon as possible with someone that controlling.

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

It sounds like he definitely has interest in you, but almost on an obsessive, jump-the-gun level, and he seems very nosy at best and controlling at worst to be asking for your passwords (which is already inappropriate for a partner to do, but EXTREMELY weird coming from a platonic friend). If he's already asking for passwords and talking about getting a house together (I assume that's what he was talking about when he brought up the house, or was it just a discussion about what kind of house he'd like for himself?), that's coming on WAY too strong, lol. Just asking for the passwords alone would make me run.

_food_lover234 · Accepted Answer

he's being a jerk. he doesn't need your password, its not his account. frankly its not his business to know what the password is. its called a password for a reason. seems like he's putting you down and tryna sabotage.

Fatherhere901 · Answer

Yeah... It's like that!! Scammers will scam. They don't care who you are. Best thing to do. send them a special number as your own. It is to the local "Scam Office" report line. Best part of it, it's not a "800" number so they don't have a clue it will be traced since it is a law enforcement agency.

horsenrhinounicorn · Answer

If you don’t want him posting as you on your social media account then don’t give it to him. But do be friends with him on social media if it’s a relationship, it’s good to be transparent to each other with the exception of family matters which should stay off social media

MyHonest2Cents · Answer

Wow, the insecurities.

Even if I'm dating I wouldn't ask. I respect the privacy.

But will they cheat? Come on, there must be trust. Ans cheaters will cheat anyway.

Don't give him any of your passwords, no matter the reasons. If you already did, change it.

divzmaniax · Answer

Just run away from him. Even if you were in relationship why on the earth he would ask for password. If he does that means he doesn't trust you. Where there is no truat so no relationship can exist. I think he's some sort of psychopath asking weird stuff.

Adam1978 · Answer

You should never give others your password period. A person that doesn't accept your privacy shouldn't be in your life. You have no right to your partners devices or passwords. If you don't trust them don't date them.

Anonymous · Answer

Uh tell him to fuck the hell right off. (RED FLAG ALERT!) If he think its cool to be this controlling with a female acquaintance then I can't imagine what he be like as a boyfriend. Not to mention the creepy stuff about houses. If I was your big brother me and him would be having a chat.

HerLucidNightt · Answer

Run, girl, runnnnnn!!!

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Whoah, whoah, whoah. WTAF? Who the hell does he think he is? He has ZERO right to access any of your accounts. That kind of stuff is for married people, and even then a lot of couples do not even go that far. Your accounts are YOUR accounts and no one else's. What he is requesting is absolutely absurd! I would dump him on the spot for even suggesting it.

jason0559 · Answer

He just want to gain ur trust by saying that if he can't trust uu
Y he neded ur social media password...
Ok do one thing ask same thing from him also you shear yours and I shear mine. U will get to know his true colour..
House thing he is saying just too bluff you that you come again to him and you do what he said too you
Leave the guy who don't trust you bcoz you deserve much better
Not this jerk who has trust issues...

ArcadianBanks · Answer

there's no reason for anyone to want you're passwords even if you are dating. That's invasion of privacy, maybe he's getting a little too attached

darkcloud1945 · Answer

He is a snake in the grass don't give him the password can cause you a shit load of problems on line. Example read your reply to someone he does not like he can answers as you saying all sorts of shit even to go as far as to threaten them speaking as you. Also can read and alter anything you post so DON'T..

NineBreaker · Answer

I dated a girl once who asked for my password. I responded by: "Of course! I'll show you mine, if you show me yours." She refused, of course. Guess how that all ended up: It just ended.

aaliyah_loyen · Answer

Maybe he wants to date you. He may be thinking he has a shot with you, and wants to date you. I don't think he would tell you about the type of house he wants in a few years from now unless he wanted to be with you.

BusyLizzie321 · Answer

He has no right to have your passwords (dating or not) as it is your privacy that is being invaded. I wouldn't ask my partner for his or he mine, it would be werid

Bearzerk · Answer

He's an overconfident, paranoid twat with trust issues. Thats whats up with him. Cut ties quick with that monster

AmandaYVR · Answer

Huh? No way. Absolutely not. That's ridiculous. He seems to have trust issues. That needs to be addressed. (Unless you're cheating on him, then don't make him go crazy, denying it forever.)

StephenCF · Answer

Even if you were madly in love or married, the fact that he asked you means trouble. I’d never ask for my lady’s passwords and I’d leave her if she kept asking for mine because I’m against privacy invasion, no matter who’s involved

youknowbetter · Answer

Tell him that’s wrong than Ghost him. That’s completely unacceptable. I wouldn’t give that to anybody nor should you.

I usually tell girls never to ghost guys. But that’s a very sick and stupid request. That’s a fundamental problem.

sreeja98 · Answer

That's a red flag. If he is not in a serious relationship with you yet, but still asks for your password, he is rushing it and may even be a control freak.

Unit1 · Answer

Run away and don't look back! Reverse it with "Men looking through their woman's phone"

Thee1212 · Answer

It is either 2 things. He wants to build up a sense of trust with you. And will give you his password. Or he is caught by something and worried. Possibly you haven't messaged him a ton latley and wants to see if you are cheating on him. I disagree with these people who are on here. This dosent mean he is controlling. I would feel him out, if you have nothing to hide it shouldn't even be a big deal. Unless you arnet quite "official" yet or if you have trust issues.

MillieBrunette · Answer

Control freak. Stay WAAAYYYY clear! If you've just started talking to him, then what the fuck is he gonna be like once your together. Girl you are not his property! In any way shape or form.

genericname85 · Answer

lol doesn't matter "what is up with him". he's not getting the passwords and that's that. xD easy as that.

sockandshoes · Answer

red flag! you guys aren’t even dating yet and he’s already trying to pry into your stuff. run run as fast as you can!!

Jones_T · Answer

Ask his... Never give yours... Mostly guys get more possessive for little things... Then after there will be lots of explanation... It will ruin happiness... If he gives his password to u he is geniune person, and still you could found something… [ ]

spartan55 · Answer

Who cares what's up with him? Tell him no. Then tell him to kick rocks.

funride74 · Answer

He's either a jerk or a stalker... Worst case both. Honestly: avoid his presence

melanieeeB · Answer

Control freak, stalker and more lol Don't do that, never give your password away

btbc92 · Answer

The guy sounds nuts. Don't give it to him. Keep everything on private. Drop the guy.

MangoB83 · Answer

That’s a disaster waiting to happen. Does he want your social security number too? Guys use passwords after they’ve broken up to keep up with so I wouldn’t trust him.

Unicorns_exist · Answer

Hahaha I have never seen that before. Unless you are officially dating him that doesn’t happen. Even with fwbs. They would just say mind your own business.

DaveDavidson · Answer

You should never have to give anybody your social media passwords, ANYBODY.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I would be careful, I would never ask a girl for her password info to her Social Media Accounts

cicchis0 · Answer

I don't know. Maybe wants to do some identity theft or rip you off. Sounds like trouble to me.

likelyOK · Answer

that's not even appropriate for dating, he's stalkerish ditch him

Pejtu · Answer

Jealous stalker that got friendzoned long time before he knew that

andreasderjuengere · Answer

He's probing how it's like to be an adult. And gets it all wrong. He needs some more time in the greenhouse. Play with other boys.

Bluntz · Answer

As a male to woman advice I can offer you. The guy is highly insecure and low value. It will be in your best interest to drop him and generate new options. Especially if you are 18.

abdel636 · Answer

You really don't know? LMAO He's trying to take it to next level but I'd tell you it's too damn early to let your guard down now. You never know enough about his intentions.

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

How controlling smh.. He sounds insecure af. Ditch him.

leeyela12398 · Answer

That's a crazy red sign that he's controlling. Don't do it and block him.

Or maybe he is trying to hack you to get personal information and commit identity theft.

Either way. No bueno. Trust you gut that's telling you to run.

notaguycalledchris · Answer

He has trust issues. Say no, obviously. If he reacts badly, say bye bye and find someone more reasonable.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Maybe he's obsessed with Control Because even when he talked about the house he didn't ask about your opinion

theCobbler · Answer

To be nosey and then Controlling! I hope you didn't give them to him ! ?

scotcheggs · Answer

don’t give him ur password ok. periodt. 👏🏼

robertKugler · Answer

Makes for a wonderful addition to the he's so won't every fuck my best friend bring home to meet the parents ya did I mention hot list... ya dudes really messed up..

jestergent · Answer

He wants to be a woman for a day. Some men want to dress up.

MannySimms · Answer

What's up with YOU for asking? Are you like 9 years old?

TonyBologna25 · Answer

If you guys aren’t official or years into this, then tell him to fuck off lol

gmares85 · Answer

He's a control freak so if I was you RUN away, cuz this will lead to more craziness

NewZion · Answer

He's going mess up your social media account. Don't do it.

AmeenKA · Answer

Could be one of those identity thieves, could just be an idiot. Who knows, I would stay away

ttnnkkrr · Answer

run, he is suspicious because of his own devious thoughts

TheRealQuestion2 · Answer

Lol, screw that. You might allow your significant other access to your social media as a sign of trust. But just a friend that you dont want a relationship with? F*ck no!

Jackjohnson89 · Answer

Leave him. My girlfriend knowns all my social media passwords but never gos on them. Even reads out my messages on my phome sometimes for me 100% truest

MountAverage · Answer

Umm, it means he's a psychopath. Get away from him ASAP.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds controlling. Don't do it. My sister fell for that trap with her ex and it was hard for her to shake him. He kept hacking her social media accounts and blocking her guy friends.

douride2 · Answer

Be very cautious with this guy. Better yet cut all contact.

Anonymous · Answer

What was it for? Was it for facebook? Instagram or gag? That's usually a bad sign though , run girl, run 🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️

Lunatic1 · Answer

He either thinks there is more to your relationship than there is, or he wants to date you and is checking for competition.

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