Why does my friends with benefits always says he's tired of waiting around for nudes when I go quiet?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

Since you say "waiting for nudes", I'm guessing you mean that he says this during conversations via text? If so, this is very simple to answer: you are NOT in a relationship with him, and he has no obligation to have text conversations with you, nor do you have any right to expect that from him, so his motivation to have those conversations with you is because you send him nudes to keep his attention. And if you stop sending the nudes, he's going to stop having motivation to text you.

It sounds like you don't understand what a Friends With Benefits relationship is, because you seem to be treating it as if it was a romantic relationship. It isn't. The whole point is that it isn't. It's SEX, without any of the other obligations or expectations that normally comes with a relationship. And so if you've "convinced" him to have these conversations with you by providing him nudes as motivations, it shouldn't be surprising that he's expecting these "payments" to continue as long as the conversations do.

Note: if my assumptions aren't correct, then my conclusions may not be either, but you didn't give us a lot to go on here, so if the shoe doesn't fit, then ignore it.

[Asker]

He also wanted me to move to his state and he tells me I'm only allowed to have a bj with guys

[MrOracle]

So this is long distance? In other words, he's ONLY getting nudes out of this, and you're surprised that he wants the nudes? That's like you taking a job you don't really like because you need the money, and then your boss doesn't want to pay you on payday. Of COURSE he's tired of waiting around for nudes - that's his "payment."

Do you not understand that long-distance relationships are just a huge waste of time? Dating is something you should do LOCALLY, and ONLY locally. If the person doesn't live close enough to you that you can get together at least 2-3 days a week, then they're too far away, and you need to end it and find someone closer. Long-distance is a complete waste of time and energy.

[Asker]

Will he did ask me to live closer

[spartan55]

Tell him you are tired of him being a disrespectful fuckhead too.

[Iron_Man]

Those things never last