I don't believe him when he says he likes me?

[Anonymous]

He doesn't even know me that well, yet he likes me so much, and so quick. I think he just likes the idea of having a girlfriend. Every time we hang out I get hints that I shouldn't trust him... He is new to my town and came from another state where he has a shady past and had trouble with the law, I also have a deep feeling like he hurt/or killed some one. I know I should just stay away from him, but I am really attracted to him and we have some of the best times together and the same sense of humor. How can I figure this guy out? Should I tell him I'm worried about his past? How do I know if he is being honest with me?

[HopeIessRomantik]

Usually your instinct is right. I would stay away from him. I had a similar situation where there was this guy I barely knew who literally has fallen for me and will NOT stop pursuing me no matter how many times I've told him not to bother. I also got the idea that he's pretty much REALLY lonely and needs a girlfriend pronto, but I'm not planning on being that girl. And with this guy, Id be wary if I were you.

Guys who have bad pasts, or at least a past that they want to keep from a potential girl, WILL lie, and usually if you like them, you won't be able to tell either so that they won't ruin their game. I've been there. You can ask him, get a mutual friend ask him similar questions, then you guys can compare. Obviously if they're different, one is a lie :P Good luck!

OH. and PS. remember if he has to lie to you about who he really is, he's clearly not good enough for you. Even he knows that.

[SashaSilent]

If it were me I'd ask him, like UtterlyConfused said. Tell him that you're worried about it, and that you'd like some more details about what happened.

Yes he may have had a dodgy past, but people can change...esp if he was younger when he did whatever he has done. I know plenty of people who have had a past with drugs, or getting in trouble with the law, but that doesn't mean they're dangerous people. They just made bad decisions and are aware of what they did and most regret it.

Having said that...if your gut honestly tells you that something is wrong, then its best to go with that, but I think you should give him a chance to clear it up first.

[sailors_girl]

This is kinda scary. You don't know what he is capable of. What happens if you start dating and the relationship goes bad? What do you think he would do to you? Can you defend yourself? I would stay clear of him. It is better to just miss hanging out with him, then fall in love and put your self at greater risk. Just my opinion.

[Asker]

yea I know.. but It's just a feeling I have.. I have nothing to back it up. Though he admits he's been shot (he's got a bolt wound) and admits he's been arrested for drugs. The only reason I feel that I can trust him is he is friends with my friends and they like him. I think I'll just keep my distance.. but I wish I had reason to other than suspicion

[sailors_girl]

Just remember the old daying birs of a feather flock toghether. If he did somtheing bad you could get in trouble by association. Let me give you an example You are riding in a car he has drugs on him you get pulled over for a simple traffic viloation. The police decide to search the out of suspsion he slips the drugs in your jacket pocket. And the police find it. You go to jail and it wasn't yours! Just don't get too close. Listen to the things he says they usually tell on themselves.

[Asker]

very true, he is still doing illegal things and I feel like its none of my business to tell him to stop.. but I could be affected by it. I usually give people the benefit of the doubt.. but he is obviously doing bad which makes my assumptions seem real.

[sailors_girl]

Listen to your intuition. If you have a bad feeling don't ingore it, you will be sorry. Don't stop talking to him but limit your contact and involvement with him.

[imnotsorry]

Why would you hangout with someone you think is homocidal? You should get some mental help. And I'm not trying to be mean. What you're saying just doesn't make sense.

[utterlyconfused]

It only takes a heartbeat to fall in love. ;-)

You can't know for sure if he is being honest. You should ask him though. Make sure you tell him that it doesn't matter what he's done (even if it does) but that you have to know anyway so that he is less likely to feel it is in his advantage to hide anything.

[Asker]

If I asked him "have you killed someone?" I wouldn't expect an honest answer.. He will only tell me certain things.. should I just except the past as the past? Or hold on to my suspicions and not trust him?

[utterlyconfused]

:-p Don't ask him like that! Ask him if he was in trouble with the law. Then ask him why.

Realistically, if he had killed someone and was in trouble with the law he would be in prison...

[Asker]

I probably seem so dumb but I'm thinking he ran away from his state to dodge the cops. love is truly blind! I will keep prying him about his past and if he gets mad about it then he's obviously got something to hide.

[Anonymous]

Just trust him, you could be missing out on something wonderful because of fear.

[AmberChick]

I don't know if this question is serious or not, but "he has a shady past and had trouble with the law." Do we really have to tell you this guy is bad for you? Seriously?

[MrEM4N]

Sounds mysterious and dangerous. No wonder you're attracted to him. As long as he treats you right, that's all I'd care about.

[tmlsmurfs]

NEVER DATE ANYBODY WITH A CRIMINAL RECORD