Why does he do this? ? Calls me pretty but doesn’t like my instagram pic?

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He tells me how he is sexually and physically attracted to me, and when we met he couldn’t keep his hands and eyes off me. he kept on calling me pretty. So it is long distance with him and I don’t think he wants long distance. He kept on talking to me like he wanted to see me again and I can tell he was attracted. However he never likes my Instagram pictures I post but he’ll like other girls and he doesn’t text me much or sometimes would ignore me. Why wouldn’t he like my pic I post if he is so attracted to me? And he also agreed to meet again he was keen on staying with me.

torgor67 · Accepted Answer

Well I think one of the main reasons is because when a person is closer to the opposite sex I feel that since the object of affection is close to them then they crave and lust after you intensely because the object of their affection is right in front of them. However when long distance even though they still may be able to communicate with you online and texting for some people since their desired love one is not with them it can make them more less interested as its not the same as talking to their real desired one. It would be like if I got a job and then the boss was watching over me which makes me want to do more work but then when the boss is gone we may feel inclined to be more lazy in our work. I personally feel that sometimes in long distance relationships since the two people are not close together and bonding it lessens the bond between them which I know is not your fault because of the lockdown. The reason he may not like your Instagram pic is because if he looks at your pic it may remind him that he isn't with you which could lead to painful lust which he can't have since he's not with you causing him frustration. Now all of what I just said could be debunked if he's just a man that maybe just wanted you in the moment and was sort of on a high when with you but when he's separated from you he may have decided that he won't want to put in the effort. Honestly there's many reasons but I would suggest messaging him about it with a serious tone and then confront him on why he's acting lukewarm and what the reasoning is behind him not being as active with you which it may turn out he was busy or something so basically the best way of dealing with it is going to the source of your problems. I wish you luck!

Cortaine · Accepted Answer

I understand that you may feel threatened by the other girls he likes pictures of. But you have to ask yourself, what's important? Him liking my pictures and only mine? Or would it be fine to let him like pictures of other women, as long as he doesn't dp anything with them? Faithfulness is incredibly important when it comes to a relationship. But YOU set the limits. If it bothers you so much, talk to him about it.
About long distance - who really wants long distance relationships? I certainly don't, but I've been in one for almost a year and a half. Because we are working on getting her to move over to me. Longdistance is temporary.

YourGirlGigi · Accepted Answer

He's a toy and not potential. You have to decide if you want to play or find someone that reciprocate your desire to wanting a serious relationship. If you want a casual relationship, he's probably your guy. You can have a preference of who you play with too. He's not interested in you the way that you desire. But, he is interested in his attraction towards you. If a man wants to be with you, he will call, text, come see you, etc. Remember the guys that liked you. You did not have to wonder or second guess their advances towards you. You knew they liked you. He likes you but not the way you like him. Nothing wrong with him being attracted and wanting a sexual encounter with you. It's human nature. It's wrong when you manipulate or seduce someone "Try to appear interested in wanting a more meaningful relationship but only want a sexual/casual one". You are the determine fact. You stay to play or walk away. He's not what you're looking for. If it's only attraction that's being reciprocated from him (I assume you are attracted to him too) and nothing else. You gotta let him go.

yolo18 · Accepted Answer

Girl, he sees you as a friend with benefits. He's interested on sleeping with you, but nothing serious. That's why he's always so exited to see you 1 to 1, because he knows what's going to happen in close doors. He doesn't want people 2 know you 2 are talking to each other that way, so he ghosts you on the media. If you realise, he's always all over you when you two are together alone and nobody else that knows you is there. Something like that was about to happen to me as well but I stop talking to the guy as soon as I realised what game he was playing, and he was butt hurt lmaoo. Girl, drop him

jemismyname · Answer

here's the deal: instagram (and facebook) are a load of shit. don't take anything you see or here or experience on there are anything close to reality. it doesn't make any difference AT ALL whether someone likes your picture or somebody else's picture.

You are not your picture. You are you. if the dude likes you in reality and wants to go out with you, then it's all good. you are with him in reality. don't get reality and shitty social media apps mixed up. that shit can ruin your life, if you start to believe it is real!

canadiancoloursky · Answer

If he is a instagram aficionado then it might mean something (if he's on it everyday and constantly liking other chicks pages)
Though maybe he's insecure over liking your photos, doesn't want to creep you out or has sexual tension with you.

Some guys like me go on instagram once a week and rarely place my feels and desires on there because well I didn't grow up with constant internet so it isn't important to me.

My advice would be to ask him straight up what his intentions are, place your cards on the table. Dont act desperate but communicate clearly, dont fall in love and not figure out what's up

goodgirl82 · Answer

It could be for some reasons like for example. If he thinks you are tol interested, he might not want you to be too excited about him. The other reason is harder to accept, but he might be doing it intentionally, like he only does it to get girl’s attention, so why would he invest his likes on you if he has your attention so much? Better to give you little so that will keep you interested. So this second one is like a way guys play games, specially fuckboys. when a girl is too interested, they play to give a little or nothing. But love yourself girl. Why would you want a guy who don’t appreciate who you are as a person? I mean, just sex is fine, as soon as you read dont care about him, but it is hard for us you know? Unless you are very used to have friends with benefits. I dont like these dynamics. You will never going to love yourself better, than the day you realize that friends with benefits is never a win win.

Apope16 · Answer

I think this is representative of everything wrong with our society. Rather than taking at face value what a man says, women are ego tripping for the validation that they get from social media likes. None of that matters. What matters is what a man actually says to you and more so how he actually treats you. Don't worry about the likes you get on some instagram feed or snap chat. Be better than that girl! Have more meaning and value in life than what is on Insta!

dmvgirl16 · Answer

Ooof this is typical of guys just I hate to tell u this but the guy is playing with ur feelings because a guy that would be attracted to u would like ur pics on instagram and would message u so i suggest u ask the guy what he wants with u and to like ur pics on instagram and if not just move on

Tyrael · Answer

So he's definitely attracted to you, is interested in coming to stay with you, and compliments your often. But he didn't click like on your pics so he must not like you? Fucking hell. It's social media, stop putting so much weight in it. Just because someone likes your pics it doesn't mean they're interested in you, and vice versa.

SHREYASH007 · Answer

multiple reasons: 1) Either he doesn't want to get other friends attention about him dating someone or have a crush.
2) Maybe he is trying the human psychology of ignoring a person to attract more.
3) he wants to show you that you there are also other girls who are prettier and just have a look that he has other options also so don't be hard (well quite negative thinking then)
4) he gets nervous while looking at you even at pics (maybe)
5) maybe he is jerking so forgets to like... lol.. this one was a joke.
hope it helps

spartan55 · Answer

Are you fucking serious? This Instagram shit is out of control.
How about he likes your pictures and then just ignores in person. Would that be better? Because you seem to value stupid Instagram more than real human interaction, which is so fucked up on so many levels.

FreyaRed · Answer

You can't buy much for compliments and temporary affection of a guy who is so horny that he will takes everything that isn't fast enough to flee on a tree.
If they care only in moments when they "need" you, it means they don't care for you at all.

BeingAnzalKhan · Answer

I use insta profile to view other people and I dont like their pics or any activity as such. I just view them and dont respond to them.
So, he must be having the same as insta shows the recent activity of your friends. What they did in the past.
So, thats the reason people dont like pics or any activity so that no one can view what I did in insta.

mikebeckers · Answer

Usually it's possible that someone just doesn't use social media but considering he liked other girls pictures he clearly does.
Adding this to him not texting much it seems to me that when he was with you he was thinking with his d. Just physical attraction to someone he thought he could get to.

Bhavin2184 · Answer

There is high chances he is just attracted to you not actually like you or think about some serious relationship
Because you mention that he doesn't text me and only desperate keen on staying clearly shows some red flag
About instagram thing may be forget about it or some different reasons.

Anonymous · Answer

That combination of him liking other girls's pictures, not texting you much, and even ignoring you, tells me he probably doesn't want anything serious, and isn't really interested. I can understand it if he doesn't like your pictures on instagram, but ignoring your messages is a bad sign, unless he has a really good excuse for it, or maybe he isn't really ignoring them, but just sees them late, and then replies? I don't know. If he just ignores them, that's bad

AustinMan · Answer

Give it a rest. Find some sense of security in how he reacts to you in person.

Anonymous · Answer

You've mentioned it before. You're long distance and it's not what he wants. I've noticed men can't handle long distance relationships as good as many women can. I guess men prefer physical proximity more than women.

anonbrunette99 · Answer

either your posts don’t show on his timeline, he doesn’t want to seem thirsty or make he sees liking pics as a way to get a girls attention and he doesn’t need to get your attention anymore because you guys are texting etc

Anonymous · Answer

Get this through your head... SOCIAL MEDIA MEANS NOTHING.. Some guys simply do not care about it.. If it means that much to you, find someone else. you need to see a counselor about social media addiction honestly if it effects you that much that he doesn't like your pics.

grimlochV · Answer

Because he doesn't want anyone else to see or any other girls or a girl to see him liking your pictures because obviously he's got some other one girls lined up talking to them or dealing with them and you're just something secret is pocket he don't want anyone else to know about obviously hell.
girl I'll tell you how beautiful you are openly publicly

supercutebutt · Answer

Maybe he wishes you had a penis? I don't know for sure. But transgender porn is very popular with gentlemen these days. They like a person to look like a girl but with the added bonus of a stiff, throbbing peen.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

He probably has a busy working schedule happens not to have enough time. Some people aren't really into social media. I wouldn't worry about it. Just get to know him more in person.

0bada · Answer

Tbh, liking instagram posts shouldn't be a problem, because maybe perhaps he's not a very social media type of guy... And honestly that's a bit too much worrying. Just be cool about it and have a talk with him personally if it concerns you so much.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I find it really strange.
If a guy likes a woman and know that she likes him back, he'll naturally like your pictures you post on social media.
Maybe he's trying to tell you something. Or maybe he's using it as a seduction technique to keep you thinking about him and give more attention to him

Anonymous · Answer

He is pheromonally attracted to you. This matters more than aesthetics. You don't get the biological component from pictures. He may not like the aesthetics of your pictures, but he's obviously attracted to you.

theguyghail · Answer

I really hate when people follow abd instantly invite me to give an opinion to their question. I dont care i didn't even read your question and i still have an opinion. "I dont care"

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Since he told you how much he likes you and finds you attractive in person he sees no reason to like your pic on social media.

genericname85 · Answer

he told you he likes you in person. why do you need his clicks on social media if you have his personal word for it?

Kaneki05 · Answer

If i like the girl or especially if i am keen on her i always like her photos if she post's them. So i am betting this guy don't really care. Or a fuckboi

Yahgurl · Answer

That's lust girl.
He doesn't mean what he said. I believe if someone is attracted to you, they would always wanna keep in touch with u and compliments u everywhere, not only whèn there's no one else but the 2 of u...
He's playing games

Lost_Spark · Answer

Sounds like he is happy for you to be his secret fall back girl...

ItsKhushi · Answer

He is jst sexually attracted to you and wants nothing more grl so dont dwell on him so much

yenofed840 · Answer

long distance is good. why are you thinking about him. Stop chasing him. See that who like your every picture, so folllow that person who likes your every picture.

shepardmaddison · Answer

To be completely honest: he just don´t care much about instragram, and don´t look a lot in the app. I´m sure he still likes you a lot.

SpiritBear · Answer

Not liking your photos doesn't mean he doesn't like you. It's fucking social media. I don't know whats going on exactly, but he can think you're pretty without "liking" you in your insta.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

You'd have to ask him. Maybe he doesn't want to look like he is internet stalking you, maybe he doesn't want to come on to strong.

wankiam · Answer

sounds to me like he is just keeping you on the sidelines incase he has no luck elsewhere... benching

BeachBabe96 · Answer

Sounds like he just wanted to get his dick wet and then keep you entertained enough to string ya along sis!

Requ1m · Answer

I think it would be because he'd rather appreciate your beauty in a more private setting, such as texts or dms.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

Why does he need to like your photo? He told you he's attracted to you in person. I think if he goes further then what he has then he's just going to look desperate.

Caunsos · Answer

If he doesn't give you the attention you want. Talk to him about it and if he can't give it move on.

JimboGB · Answer

Personally, I could have done the very same thing. You clearly place a higher value on an Instagram like than he or I.

Jandojo · Answer

He thinks you are pretty. Not everyone is that active on social media, also I don't think a 24 year old adult should worry about whether someone likes your pictures yes or no.

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

Maybe he has a girlfriend who he is hiding this from

Anonymous · Answer

Because having internet “likes” does ‘t mean shit to men. He doesn’t feel the need to give you nonsense internet currency that women use to give themselves value.

Browniev · Answer

Well thank u for folowing me n instantly inviting me to this question lol.. And hey.. not everyone is into pressing the like button.. i never do that on insta... just find it useless

Lambastus76 · Answer

it's odd how he really likes you physically and emotionally yet he only likes other girls' Instagram pics. You should ask him.

SenseiSeptred · Answer

Instagram is a tragedy waiting to happen, that is why I only use that site to keep up with YouTube personalities beyond YouTube.

ccal28 · Answer

Maybe he wants you but doesn’t want to claim/have people know about you and him?

Anonymous · Answer

He doesn't want his main chick to find out about his side chick (this would be you).

Anonymous · Answer

Would you rather hear someone calling pretty face to face or type it and is completely quiet while you hang out?

sri90 · Answer

Might be he's just sexually attracted to u and don't want anyone to know

OpenNudist · Answer

I Like your Instagram Pic. So Now He's Just Being A Dick Lmao l just couldn't stop Laughing.

TallAnon · Answer

Probably didn't think of doing it or doesn't want it public.

michael1469 · Answer

He has a main chix already... unless you wanna be hos side chix.

Regularguy1893 · Answer

Maybe he's just telling you what he things you want to hear

mattl338 · Answer

Because not everyone likes pictures on Instagram?

SarahNiemann · Answer

He’s just not that into you! Sorry sweetie!

Freddy78361 · Answer

I think he wants sex.

gaygod_19 · Answer

Just dump him already

N17RV · Answer

He's not looking for anything serious

Sevenpointfive · Answer

does he like other girls pictures?

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