Why are so many guys disloyal especially when they have a prettier girl?

[Anonymous]

many of them dating someone for many years later married with different person after knowing her in a few months. what made guys did this?

[LolaMexico]

I will share an opposite experience. I had a long term relationship (8 years). The relationship was not bad, but at some point our paths were truly different: he apply to a phD in Europe and I was studying my postgraduate programm. I really loved him, I even forgived him when he cheated on me (we were together three more years after that) but at the end what really hurts me was that when he was speaking of the phD he was taking for granted that our relationship will be ended and does not even tried to make an effort for us being together, like, "let's do something crazy, let's get married and live together while I'm studying (we were living together for a year, in that case, that would not be the craziest) but no. At the end I decided to break up with him.

I started to date this guy I meet through a dating app and guess what, he just asked me for the same plan my ex never tried: he asked me if I will be willing to marry him next year so we can live together while he is taking his master's degree in the States.

Such is life: you can be years with a person and just realise sometimes is not matter of time but a matter of desire. If they want to be with you they will do the inimagible to be with you, same as we. I'm 8 years younger than my current boyfriend and I'm willing to take the risk of loving him even if there is always a chance that he broke my heart, but if he is willing to commit for something he thinks it's special, it does not matter we just being dating for a year, many years less than the relationship with my ex.

So, as a respond. It happens that because sometimes there is no true commitment no matter how long the relationship was going on.

[RiJox]

I Was married and found out my spouse betrayed me. I never gave him any reason not to trust me. I used to do what I wanted to do (I moved continents for love and while I was waiting for my residency status, so I could work and study and drive, I was getting distracted with hanging out with friends, I party a little and stuff)


He kinda got tired of me being dependent and started cheating on me. He wouldn’t make efforts to entertain anymore and even the sex was shit.


Right before my birthday I found out he gave me STD and I demand him to explain wtf. Until today I haven’t received a proper apology. He’s a complete asshole, I waisted my life doing this marriage shit so young just to be cheated on.


The friends I had and hung out with, one of them was interested in me, there were messages between me and him that he thought were inappropriate ( he went behind my back, went through my phone while I was sleep) he then felt like “he wasn’t enough” and kept sneaking around on me. Others guys were being the kind of man he couldn’t be. So he’s the insecure one and a cheater, I hate to say all men are the same, I don’t think that’s true but being pretty is a curse when they don’t trust in you and go behind your back with assumptions.


I’m over it, really I’m too young to be carrying this horrific pain. I wish to find someone who’s right for me and no more of this bullshit fuck boys

[mikodanco]

you black women have temper on black man 👎

[RiJox]

@mikodanco
Why you saying that?

[destrosio]

Women use risk management strategies when looking for a man. In such strategies, a man pre-selected by other women increases his worth. If the women in question are attractive or more attractive than you, you value men more. Therefore, when a man is not single and is having an affair with a woman, other single woman come on toward him. Advances that if he was single, no one would do it. This number of advances grows as the attractiveness of the woman with whom the man has a relationship grows. So, when a man has a relationship with an attractive woman, he is more likely to betray her, a probability given by the greater of woman that come on toward him.

Usually women who are recognized with greater value by other women are people worthless in themselves. Because in their life they never had to invest in themselves to improve themselves. At most they had to remain aesthetically pleasing. In a relationship, aesthetics is like CV in a job, it is essential to get an interview, but it does not determine job performance. The woman in question who, like all women, will receive a huge number of approaches, compared to those received by the male counterpart, will rarely test herself by trying to improve her behaviour and becoming something more than a person to fuck with. Therefore, the man with whom you are having an affair will have a greater incentive to look for another when she claims something from him.

[ManOnFire]

A woman I follow on Facebook posted something recently about this herself. I think partly it's because these guys figure that since they already have the "hot" girl it's easier to try messing with any other ones. But I also think it's because deep down these guys are bored with very attractive women. Myself included.

Often times very attractive women are arrogant, make men feel like they should be lucky to have her or have sex with her, act like a bitch because they think they have to, and act as if men are at their mercy and she can easily find another guy any time she wants. A lot of guys do get bored with that. I've been with a woman all men wanted before and she ended up being a user who literally did think men should be the ones to care about her and never vice versa.

My S/O is not a beautiful woman, yet I'm crazy about her and get very aroused by her. She respects me, actually wants me around, and never has ulterior motives.

[ThisAndThat]

I have had two serious relationships during my life, one lasting a year and the other lasted 9 months. During the first relationship, she went behind my back telling how she had plans on replacing me once something better came along and she constantly had guys at her work flirting with her. She called one night to tell he she was breaking up and I agreed. She didn't say it, but she was wanting to test the waters with the guys where she worked. I only assume that all else failed because she called wanting to get back with me and I refused. She even showed up at my house and I was with the other girl I had met after we broke up. And the girl I had met after we broke up was my girlfriend for the next 9 months. Correction: she was the towns girlfriend for the next 9 months. She was out sleeping with all kinds of guys while I was working and I caught her doing it more than once, too. I had several chances to sleep with her friends which were way better looking than her and he friends would tell me how she was messing around on me, I still refused to mess around with them, I would actually try to defend her instead. During our relationship she had slept with a then friend of mine that found the guts to tell me, get it off his chest. I never ever messed around on them, they messed around on me. And now I'm reading why so many guys are disloyal? I think this question belongs in the reverse.

[Asker]

I'm sorry to hear that. but I'm asking this based on what I see. the girl really likes him even tho he's not a good looking person then he went married with other girl during coronavirus. i think it's like they split for a moment and he running into other bitch? isn't that irritating?

by the way you chose wrong person since you were not investigate their background first. they probably are naturally cheater.

but the couple that I mentioned wasn't a cheater but then became a cheater

[JustTheTrue]

If it was me, I would had screw with all her friends. You just missed a lot of opportunities after knowing she was cheating. I wouldn’t had mind cheating too and still do it with her. I would had count all those experiences as my adventure stage lol. I always see the positive in every situation lol

[Asker]

@thisandthat did the right thing. hooking up with someone else won't make any difference between him and that woman. he didn't do it because he value his pride and in the eyes of God, he's much better person than you, Donald

[JustTheTrue]

@Asker doesn’t matter. If she started cheating I would consider that an open relationship lol
He wasn’t best person or let’s said he didn’t make the right choices. He was blinded by loved I assume to defend her when people told him, she was cheating. He didn’t want to admit the stuff she was doing and I can understand that it was because he was in loved.

Trust me, if I know you cheating it won’t matter how much I love you. The love will die in that moment and I won’t defend you from anyone as you are a shitty person.

Also, someone as racist as you can’t question me. I mean you were racist to the other one in the other thread, so your opinion is invalid here. Lol

[ThisAndThat]

@JustTheTrue You are referring to me as a raciest? Now you can explain how I'm a raciest.

[JustTheTrue]

@ThisAndThat re-read my comment I was talking to the Asker. You know the person who made the post in which you reply.

[ThisAndThat]

@JustTheTrue OK thanks, fair enough.

[Anonymous]

It's like other guys said here. 90% of girls often go after 10% of guys. But those 10% of guys have a 80% to look on to if they feel like it, and is in fact on women to see that and change it, not men.

Also, when that 90% gets screwed over, hurt, etc or somehow cross negative roads with that top 10% of guys, That's when finally, they even consider talking to the next next top 30%, and maybe, eventually will settle to anyone one not in some sort of upper tier, once they got exhausted enough, or, they just swear of men for good and that's how you get the several time divorced and ultra cranky Karens and eventual crankier cat ladies.

This all in all wouldn't be an issue if women could realize they do this, and become a lot more open minded to guys out there who would balance things just fine between the two and probably be a great dad if that kind of thing were desired. They are routinely ignored or ONLY sought after with ridiculous amounts of sacrifice and risk on their part.

TL;DR: Want a guy who'll be loyal? Don't date upwards so much. Try dating down a bit, open your mind. YOU do the approaching. YOU do the work. Cause honestly, some of the best guys that you so desire are not gonna be found at the club or bar, but perhaps grocery shopping or maybe at a quiet cafe, using wifi to work and make money. Many of the best ones will be decent but very cautious, as girls are around some guys, so be ready to prove you are worth it or can at least relate to some of his own issues, or else little to no chance to find loyalty. Just truth.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Those percentages are absolute crap. They came from a study from OkCupid.
You really think that only 10% of guys on this planet are getting laid? Do you really?

[Opinion Owner]

@ThisIsMyOpinion I forgot to add to that the stats aren't exact, BUT, I think there are surveys and research beyond OKCupid that have said similar.

And actually, it IS in fact a high possibility that a majority of women go after a minority of guys, or settle if it's not achievable, given that like 80% of the world's population live in shantytowns, shacks, areas of homelessness, awful poverty, etc. With little education and survival on the line, do you REALLY think the billions of women in those situations DON'T want to sleep with higher status men in order to have a minimal chance of leaving that life behind?

We are talking about THE WORLD population, and not just that of western countries, are we not?

[Opinion Owner]

@ThisIsMyOpinion Especially if communist countries like China and Russia have such huge populations, you forget what happens if there is maybe a barely more moral values for people besides basically just sucking the dick of the gov't in addition to a sugar daddy for many girls. Think about it.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

We all want a high valu attractive partner!
Of course wen on those regions want guys that actually have something going for them and so do the guys who want those well tanned Instagram models.
Everyone wants a partner that has it all. Money, looks, personality, status etc. Yes because don't think that men don't marry for status and money too. If they are poor and have the chance with a rich girl do you really think they will say no?

[Opinion Owner]

@ThisIsMyOpinion Dude, when was the last time you, me, or any guy you know got hit on, asked out by, or had any indication at all of attraction from a self made rich girl? Have you not noticed that A) Prostitution was the first job, having been/still is dominated by women and B) Since many media reforms and such of the 60s, little to no sexualization/valuing most men for their penis has been popularized, anywhere, any time. Wake up.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

My father.
He cheated on my mother while she was pregnant of me for a women who was from a very rich family.

[Opinion Owner]

@ThisIsMyOpinion That can happen. But my response to those kind of statements, as rough as it may seem, is, why was your mom with him in the first place? This was the 90s they were in, so women already had first wave feminism by the time you were born. So why was your father chosen as they one to be fucked? There wasn't anyone better?

[Opinion Owner]

@ThisIsMyOpinion Rule to think about that applies here: if a key unlocks many locks, it's a master key key. If a lock is opened by many keys, it's a shitty lock. Unless raped/kidnapped or the like, your experience like most of that kind, applies within that rule.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

My mother has admitted that at the time her love for him blinded her for his flaws. People make mistakes I guess.

But anyway my point was that both sides do want a top notch partner. To only blame women for wanting high quality marriage material is kinda hypocrite.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

What is the logic behind that analogy? No really I have heard it before, but I have no idea how that applies to people.

[Opinion Owner]

@ThisIsMyOpinion Basically, girls have locks, aka, they're the safeguard of their often overvalued vaginas. Guys 90% of the time somehow have to work to get the key for the lock. Meaning, especially in modern times, guys can't just stick their penis in any vagina, just like not all keys, can unlock all locks. Just like the guy usually has to have the right amount of charm, money, etc, to get to the pussy, they gotta have the correct key to unlock the lock.

In your case, the guy that cheated on your mom was a shitty key. But despite that, he got TWO different locks to open anyways, meaning, two gals that opened their legs (locks) to a shitty guy (shitty key). Shitty keys need quite a bit of luck to unlock a lock, but two locks, means maybe the locks weren't made to be to be very protective in the first place...

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

You make it sound like only men need to put on the work to get sex and that their virginity is something to be valued. Neither is true.

[Opinion Owner]

@ThisIsMyOpinion First part? 90% of the time yes. Second part? No not what I meant. Historically, who's been the one paying for dates? Child support? Been front line in army? Drafted for service? Expected to do the harder labor? Open doors?

Men have 90% of the time ALWAYS have had to work in order for girls to be attracted to them. Average men flat out are 1000x less likely to be liked due to looks than women. Therefore, they have to do something extra besides post a selfie or two to get positive attention. This is not something you deny.

I think honestly you sound like a male feminist. Break out of it dude. I was that once too. I got burned. Bad. Man to man advice? Save yourself. Absorb what I'm saying. Stop worshipping the pussy. It's not special.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Paying child support, going to war and tough labour are not things men do for women to be be attracted to them. Open door and pay for dates yes, but I don't see an issue with that. They have to spend hours in front of a mirror getting ready, they also have their share of work to do to conquer us.
I agree that women get attention more easely then guys do. But I blame thirsty guys for that who can't see a pair of boobs and mantain rational tought!

I am not a feminist. There are things about the movement that I don't want to be a part of. I don't worship women. I just think that men bitching about women this and women that make us look really weak. I even made a Take about it. I actually agree with you, it's not special. Not more than us anyway.

[Opinion Owner]

Look, of course we agree on SOME things, because we're both guys in the end.

I'm more than willing to let women have any right she wants. But that also means responsibilities.
I'd like women to value men EQUALLY as much as men have valued women since the beginning.
If nearly any average gal can post a pic of boobs and have hundreds or guys telling her how hot she is, than that means that average gusy should be able to take pics of themselves topless, and have just as many women telling them how hot they are. But even guys that "look good" STILL don't even get a TRICKLE in comparison.

Unless that changes, gender relations are bound to continue deteriorating. I've so many times come close to being another parody Instagram account to mock the female models because if I just post a pic of myself topless or of underwear that show the outline of my penis, I'll be called weird and such. Am I wrong?

[Opinion Owner]

so therefore, if I'm not a bodybuilder, I have to be a parody account or else I'll be shunned. Prove me wrong*

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

As someone that has pride on his physical shape I would love that I could post one single pic on Instagram and have tons of girls upcoming it.
But we sexualized the female body so much that we are at a point where the guys give girls so much attention that they don't have the need to give us.
Tell guys to stop being so thirsty.
Trust me it actually makes me sad. I wish the world would give men more credit as sexual objects.

[Opinion Owner]

@ThisIsMyOpinion Good we are 100% on the same level with this. I don't want any of sexualization of anything anymore either. That's the #1 ideal. But the #2 ideal is the sexualization of the average man and this would likely lead to #1 anyways. Especially in a capitalist free market that I strongly stand for, I do not want anyone to deny anyone, male or female, to sell their sexuality, even if I do not agree personally with doing so. That's also why #2 is perhaps the best and most realistic ways to lead to #1, unless sex bots or something becomes extraordinarily mainstream and normalized.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I would vote for number #2! I would love to see it happen.

[Opinion Owner]

@ThisIsMyOpinion You can start helping immediately. Several ways to do this
-Act sexy as a joke, until men's sexuality is taken more serious.

-Encourage "gay" things. Like saying you love rainbows. If you aren't gay yourself, just make sure people know it's a joke. Or, smash the stereotypes, and make a instagram page dedicated to death metal fully pink.

-Mock guys for being so dickish about masculinity. FInd ways to call conservatives, especially homophobes, gay. Example: If a guy likes "traditional" stuff, but has the newest iphone or listens to beiber, poke fun at them. Make gay jokes. Don't make them feel bad, but just try to get in their heads a bit

-Know that there are likely far more closeted guys in the world that anyone wants to admit. Trust me.

-Acknowledge what metalhead comedian Steve Hughes once said:

"Gay man are not tough? THEY FUCK MEN! Unlike the straight guys who want to screw a women all soft, frail and feminine, gay men can take it in the ass." "straight is the new gay"

Also, if you really have to, remind people that gladiator men screwed each other to build character. I doubt anybody could claim gladiators were weak or overly feminine. Logic wouldn't work.

"In fact – sexual acts between two men were often seen as signs of masculinity. According to the website, Ancient Origins, men were inculcated to take the “top” position to prove their manhood.

Failure to do so could result in a loss of family stature (see link).

It is worth noting that it wasn’t until 390 AD that homosexuality became outlawed, thanks to Christian emperors. But prior to this time period, the term “homosexual” didn’t exist."

mensvariety. com

[Opinion Owner]

To me, that means that Christianity may have theoretically weakened men. That's huge contrast to today that "traditional" men are most manly. Again, logic check.

[Asker]

@anon that's weird to support LGBT. in reality doesn't make guys weak. it's supposed to see guys strong. mentality strong which able to hold emotional especially when gets angry. no need to be a mad man

[Opinion Owner]

... ok, 1. what... kinda got jumbled... 2. Nothing weird about LGBT+ If I like men, I like men. Religion, tradition and etc. can suck a dick if they "feel" or "believe" otherwise. Feelings and beliefs are often weaknesses. Facts.

[Asker]

well it's not right to make someone else became gay. you might be gay. but don't make others became gay

[Opinion Owner]

pssssh, lady, you misunderstood. I'm not forcing anything on anyone. I'm just encouraging. The more accepting of being gay that guys are, the better, as then they are less scared to be either masculine or feminine and that serves one of the pinnacles of humankind which is freedom. Additionally, it brings down the amount of sexual worship, because then if guys don't like girls much, they simply just chill with each other.

[Opinion Owner]

chill with each other without fear of stigma*

[NamerOfStars]

Beats me. If I had to guess, I'd say it's because they think "If I can win the affections of a beautiful woman, I can win the affections of an even more beautiful one", and they're constantly seeking the new and novel, little realizing how poorly their own disloyalty reflects on them.

[likelyOK]

excellent answer

[CuteNerd9]

Cheating isn't reserved just for men. Woman can be just as guilty of this. I think people cheat for various reasons. Relationships can't be built on sex appeal alone, so the fact that the woman, or man, in the relationship is physically attractive is irrelevant in most cases of cheating. Cheating typically occurred because one partner isn't getting something they need from the other person in the relationship. It can also happen due to immaturity and general disregard for the other person they are in a relationship with.

[DiegoO]

Lol, I ended with my ex after 3y, and some months later she "started liking a guy". A year later she confessed it, only to tell me things were getting serious between them.

All that happened 2-3y ago. First I felt extremely dissapointed, I believed she was gonna give her self some time, I also had anger because she acted like she was still single. Now, I couldn't care 2 fucks. If been in a relationship makes her happy, good for her. I honestly believe I dodged a lot of bulletes with her. Even today, something tells me: "don't know her in person". It was a LDR, we communicated everyday, trough text message, v. m, video calls... You name it.

[DiegoO]

My point! There are people who really don't know what they want. Their insecurity don't even let them consider the idea of being single and maybe dying single.

[Asker]

it was your fault ended the relationship. you don't need to get angry since she tried to move on with someone else.

[DiegoO]

I didn't leave her for someone, I even told her the exact reasons. One year later she said she thought I was seen someone else.

The anger was because she lied to me for one entire year. When we started our LD relation, we agreed that we were gonna be honest and breakup for good, if we ever started to develop feeling for another person. She did that after our breakup, Ok, but after our breakup we were still flirting. So she had that guy she met online, and then in person (they live in near cities) and me, the fool. The courage to tell what was taking place never appeared. I practically make her spit out the truth.

[Asker]

ah I see. that's bitter thing.

[DiegoO]

Yeah, when she told the truth she was hiding/lying for one entire year, I wondered (I don't wonder about it anymore), what else did she lied about? My final words to her: "I guess we never knew each other".

Wile I thought she was not dating, and actually giving her self time, she thought I was having fun with another girl. Beside the lye my biggest surprise was to know she was dating someone she met online, online? If it was someone she met in person, without the online crap, I would understand that I can't beat that, that she really found a right match, but she "felt attracted, again! To someone she met over the internet". From there on I understood she have issues, and understood that if I traveled to her country, just God knows in what mess I would be in.

The old school dating is the best school.

[Asker]

that's pain experience but it could guide you in future :)

[Shezadi]

They used them and dumped them. Simple! Pretty girls are objectified. They never had any plans to marry them. A lot of boys use pretty girls for their bodies without any remorse but hey karma will get eventually, when the same happens to their pretty sisters and pretty daughters. NEVER trust MEN!

[mmv99]

Perhaps the woman counts too much on her looks. To quote some Bruce Willis movie "No matter how attractive a woman is, there is somewhere a guy who is tired of #$@* her".

Looks alone can get you in the door but cannot make you stay. Develop some substance and work at the relationship.

Also, be careful of a man who is very much into a woman's looks, he might be superficial and then there no winners here.

[Sarahloves19]

They become proud of themselves after they get a beautiful and loyal girl.
So they take you for granted and their ego shoots up and they believe that they can get ANYTHING they want. I loathe these kind of guys.

[JustTheTrue]

Some guys and some don’t. I myself got my ego through the roof just by having this heaven defying looks of mine. I wouldn’t cheat on a girl that I’m dating, but if she cheats I will pretend that I don’t know anything about it so I can still do it with her and at the same time pursue other girls. That’s if she cheat and if she doesn’t, I will stick with her no matter what.
Anyways, this won’t ever happen as my instinct knows how to pick loyal girls and not those insecure ones that tend to cheat to feel validated.

[Sarahloves19]

@JustTheTrue Wow great.

[VanillaSalt]

Well first off... I’ve had one sexual encounter outside a relationship and it was after we broke up... second I’ve been in 4 relationships with 3 dif girls... with 2 lasting 5+ years...


In my relationships I’ve been “cheated” on in all of them and when I was with my other person I think she was cheating...


Seems like men aren’t the only problem these days...

[winterfox10]

Speaking as a guy who once dated the prettiest girl that most people in her life have ever met; I can tell you that a lot of physically appealing women forget that they need to bring more to the relationship than their good looks. I was a very loyal boyfriend, but I left because I was tired of being treated like an afterthought.

[Shiningtempest]

@winterfox10 This is why dating prettiest woman is equal to playing Russian Roulette.

[winterfox10]

@Shiningtempest I feel like dating any woman is equal to playing Russian Roulette. There were a lot of other things going on that I won't speak about (she wasn't cheating, don't worry), but suffice it to say that I would rather date a hottie than a Plain Jane.

[Anonymous]

Same reason so many women are disloyal. It's not a guy thing. Women cheat just as often as men do.

https://abcnews.go.com/Health/women-cheating-men-study/story?id=13885519#:~:text=June%2021%2C%202011%E2%80%94%20%2D%2D%20Although,though%20often%20for%20different%20reasons.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

because beauty is only skin deep, and better looking people are, the more shallow they tend to be, speaking generally of course. So the guy is with a knock-out beautiful girl, but she's high maintenance. He meets someone attractive to him who isn't knock-out material, but she's awesome in other ways, so he realizes that she's the one and marries her before any other man realizes it and snatches her up.

[silvermoon84]

She can be pretty, doesn’t mean he likes her personality. If that’s the case just dump her rather than cheat (because that’s just low no matter what the reasons are), but to be fair women cheat just as much as men. It’s just as wrong when women do it.

[CubsterShura]

What I heard many guys explaining is that they just wanted something 'different'. Even if he's satisfied with his current wife, finds her pretty and all it's the thrill of experiencing something else.

Of course, that doesn't justify things, but this is the explanation many guys give.

[Bananaman177]

90% of women go after the same 10% of men, what do you think is going to happen in such a scenario?

Women do all of this to themselves and then they sit on their fat ass dreaming up ways to pretend that it's somehow men's fault.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Haven't we talked about this?

[NarutoUzumaki007]

it's not just a guy thing. Girls do it too for money and looks

people are just shitty in general

[Paul09]

First, f these disloyal guys. Second, not all men are like this. Hard to say how many are and aren't. If these guys want to fuck around, then they should stay single. But! A lot Women love "bad boys", and these types of men, will cheat on you.
What about when some women look for guys with a high paying job. Isn't that shallow?

[djmzes]

Simple

[Anonymous]

I really get tired of women suggesting men are the ones who cheat when women cheat at least as much as men do. In my family and circle of friends I can count 14 cases of cheating and in 11 of them it was the woman who cheated, not the man. Please stop perpetuating this false and sexist stereotype.

[egarcia1360]

I suppose some people just care more about the excitement of doing something forbidden than about the actual pros and cons of the situation (a few fleeting moments of fun at the cost of an entire relationship).

[OlderAndWiser]

That behavior is not unique to men. Some women do the same thing.

[JustTheTrue]

They won’t admit it. I met one who excuse was, “I didn’t know what I was doing, it was just mistake that any girl can make.” She was 24 lol

[OlderAndWiser]

@JustTheTrue If she says that she didn't know what she was doing (obvious BS,) I reply, "Are you telling me that you aren't responsible for your own behavior?"

[JustTheTrue]

Lmao I did told her that. Good thing we weren’t dating. We were on the talking stage lol. Also, she knew I had more options than her because a lot of girls wanted me and the guys that wanted her just wanted to have fun. Lol
I was reconsidered dating her, she ruined her chances with me. I didn’t mind and didn’t care as I didn’t have feelings for her. I was just mad that I wasted a month with her lol

[OlderAndWiser]

@JustTheTrue The next question is, "If you can't be held responsible for your behavior, should your parents have you declared incompetent?"

[JustTheTrue]

Lol she would had avoided answering that. Trust me, you couldn’t use common sense on her. I mean one day my friend was making fun of my major then I told his major was so easy because she was doing the same major as him. Then he was like, “you right, you got me good.” He didn’t like her either lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Some people don't do well with logic!

[JustTheTrue]

Oh trust me. I had see that a lot in college. You can’t reason with them, but they learn from the way I treat them. As most guys these days suck up to girls and let them walk over them. I don’t and girls are attracted to guys who don’t let no one walk over them, but is respectful and caring at the same time.

[bluetoblack99]

Well at least men don’t try to justify cheating with “oh my boyfriend wasn’t there for me” or “I just got caught up in passion” or some other bullshit. Seriously if a guy said that he would get excoriated.

[tiajoka]

No, they just act like there's nothing wrong with what they did and pretend to be confused on why you're mad.

[bluetoblack99]

@tiajoka then you are dating a POS to begin with. You like “bad boys” well this is what you get.

[tiajoka]

Lol I’ve never dated a bad guy in my life. Only the cute dorky nerds who seem like the nice guys. But truth be told there’s no such thing as nice guys, only good guys. And these ain’t it chief.

[EriksonJ]

It's just that guys out number the girls in terms of population so you feel that many guys are disloyal. Infact if you try not to run behind some stud, funky looking guy then you can probably find quite a few gentleman out there. The probability for girls and guys being dishonest, unfaithful and not loyal is same.

[spartan55]

You are talking about very specific circumstances with one guy you know, or knew. Not the case with most guys so I'm not sure why you used the generalization.

[modelUN242]

There are so many temptations for men, porn, IG girls, etc. so I wouldn't be surprised if they were emotional cheating. I think girls can control themselves better when it comes to temptations.

[errorgoodnameunfound]

Highly depends. I know of plenty of situations where guys are beyond awful to their girlfriend or wives, but they don't learn, sometimes, even after he comes out of jail. How do you think the Joker became who he was towards Harley Quinn? But then how popular is that fictional relationship nowadays? I can't imagine how many of hundreds of "Harley and Mr J" fanfics there are out there, to go along perfectly with Twilght, 50 Shades of Grey, and Ted Bundy.

So saying "girls control themselves better"...

First lets see that kind of material I mentioned depopularized en masse. Then we'll talk.

[Venky25]

Not to be rude. But if the prettier girl u referred is a reference to yourself then i probably have some idea why he might have lost his interest in you. Sometimes some people we like aren't actually how we imagined there personality to be...

[JustTheTrue]

Lmao you just went to the point. I knew she asked this question because it does reflect on her.

[Asker]

@JustTheTrue hey mad Donald duck, I'm still single, and i just annoyed seeing guys treating women like a toy. I bet you'll leave your wife when she gets wrinkles, ugly, white hair and run into other young girl.

[Venky25]

@Asker if u are single why are u so concerned about this? Speak with ur own experience, random people can lie too. Not every guy is the same. If i was in ur place and if i said that girl is a whore and considered everygirl, while i myself was never in a relationship with her, won't you be getting triggered and try advicing the same what i said to u rn?

[Asker]

did I ask you to answer this comment? is being single not allowed to voice on how bad the guy is? can't I complained about guys on how they treated the women? are triggered when I say that you'll cheat and leave your future wife because she's becoming uglier and you think that you're ageless in fact that you'll be more uglier as you get older? sad. you and the Donald got mentality ill.

[Venky25]

I dont need ur validation to have the back of those who dont do that. You said "guys" that includes every guy... I am sticking up for those who stay loyal to their special people. It's probably the fault of girl itself who looks out for fuckboi types. The rest 80 percent guys just get ignored over the fucking 20%, and then bitches like you bark for no reason. You have the tongue of a bitch... I can just here you bark, all that what it's worth...🙃

[Asker]

I'm not interested to bark at immature Indian like you

[JustTheTrue]

@Asker why so triggered? I have a friend who had been used by girls multiple times and I also have a fiend who had cheated on his girlfriend.
My point is that you don’t have to be so salty, not every guy is like you portrait to be. The thing that makes a guy stick around is you showing affection that you care for him and you also respect him. If you can’t do any of those and shows toxic traits. They will leave you no matter what.

As an super attractive guy I had met attractive girls. One was so crazy and because of that I avoided and don’t talk to her. She called the cops on me multiple times. I got tired so I told them the cops where were they so we could talk. She got scolded for making false accusations. And why she did that? She wanted my attention and didn’t like that I avoided her.
Another girl I met really hot, was saying I was begging for her number to her males and females friends and one of my friend. It was her who asked me for my number because I liked her so much, I avoided her and you should had see how sad she was after that and the face she got after she saw me with another girl lol.

The thing is don’t be an insecure girl who wants to feel validated. Learn to trust the guy you with and don’t question him as to much questioning can lead to cheating. Also, why question someone you decide to date in the first place? Didn’t you trust him before dating him? Or you just assumed he was a good guy from the get go? Lol

[Venky25]

When u are referring to a community refer the sub categories as well... I judge people after my own negative experience... I ain't judging any girl because "I AM SINGLE AND HAVE NO EXPERIENCE IN THE ARENA."

[JustTheTrue]

@Asker this just show your maturity level. You are being racist and I bet you are one of those SJW that are support the BLM aside from being racist yourself.
Growth up, the guy is being civil and you are being too emotional. Lol

[Asker]

@JustTheTrue lmao nothing wrong to be single. he's Indian. can't I say that he's Indian? should I call him Chinese? Aryan? if you want me to call him that , then I'll call him as you wish. lol. is it racist to call Chinese virus? no right?

[JustTheTrue]

@Asker yes you were being racist. You were stereotyping his race. It is like someone saying, “I’m not interested to talk to an immature black guy.” It is racist either you want to admit or not. If it was someone else saying the same thing. You will say he/she was racist, but because this time it was you. You will find an excuse to hide your racism. Also, you claimed him to be Indian. If you didn’t know there are Hispanic and Arabic people who look Indian, but you assume he was Indian base on his skin color and facial features. Which make you racist and you are racist.

[Venky25]

@JustTheTrue dude i didn't take it as a racist comment...🙄 Leave that. @Asker

[Venky25]

It wasn't racist comment as for me... I am Indian.😗

[Venky25]

Also dont make this a racist issue now😑

[JustTheTrue]

@Venky25 You are too used to it then. Any Indian that goes to my university would had been upset at this point. Lol
Last time someone said something like her was banned from the chat, but got attacked left and right for that. Lol

[Asker]

@JustTheTrue Hispanic and Arab sure has similar darker colour, but from his facial , I can see where is he coming from. I learnt a lot about ethics. so can't I just call him Indian? is it ashamed to point out someone by referring that person by its own ethics? why people nowadays afraid to be pointed out by its own ethics? are you insecure? why would you need to be insecure? you feel like you wish you're born to be white? lol. you think being white is the greatest thing? and black is the worst thing? then that's sad to be insecure. lol

anyway you're pathetic. no wonder no one who are mentality healthy happy talking to you due to your mentality ill since you're great at manipulate everything by trying to tell other people that I am racist. sad

[Venky25]

@JustTheTrue its not that i am used to it... I am indian thats my nationality. So i hv no prob with that. The indians from ur university get offended because they either dont like India or are really sensitive with the issue. Rn can we not make this racist issue?

[Venky25]

And @asker please dont go on making this racist issue now... The more u reply the more its gonna be a racist issue.

[JustTheTrue]

@Asker I’m not insecure, I’m not you lol.
If I’m arguing I don’t point racist comment. If you immature, I’m not going to call you an immature white, Hispanic, or black girl. I’m just going to say your an immature little girl. That’s all lol
Also, those questions seems to be irrelevant to me. I love who I am, by the way I’m neither white or black since you are already assuming that I want to be white lol.

Lol don’t talk about yourself like that. I know you pathetic and mentally ill, but don’t be so hard on yourself. You just being petty at this point lol

[JustTheTrue]

@Venting25 actually, that’s probably too. I know there has been some issues in my university between the ones who were born here with the ones who are born over there. I get you point 👌

[Venky25]

@JustTheTrue yeah🙂

[Torari]

The cold hard reality of dating is that it's about finding the best possible partner you can. Unfortunately, that means dumping when someone prettier or more fun or both comes along. You do it to, even if you don't admit it.

[Mroz75]

A cheater is a cheater and a loyal is a loyal pretty simple, not looks nor status or any other thing would prevent someome from cheating!

[sensible27]

Don't know where you get your statistics... i Am not very sure... .

[amyba]

Its not about looks... some people want to fuck everyone even when in a relationship. Therapist call them narcissus

[Liam_Hayden]

The same thing that makes girls date a guy for years and then marry another a few months after a break up. The need for validation.

[bamesjond0069]

They weren't ready before now they are. Plus girls are dumb. Men won't buy the cow if they can get the milk for free. As much as y'all say that was for your grandmas day it still applies now.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why so many girls are disloyal specially when they have a richer boy.

[Asker]

that's seriously weird. well most women are hornier than men. one girl able to handle 3 guys at one time. by the way, what I meant is why the guy stayed with the girl after so many years and out of sudden left her and ran into other girl which he known her only for a few months

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Do you not know what "same reason" means? Ok so you're a girl, I assume you know why many girls are disloyal specially when they have a richer boy?

[Asker]

so both are ungrateful

[Aiko_E_Lara]

If you think so. This is what happens. A stupid answer backfiring your stupid question.

[Asker]

nope. it's not stupid. in my question the girl was so loyal and they guy out of sudden married with someone else.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Being one sided is. Actions speaks louder than words tho and Im just doing exactly what you're doing

[asshole_]

Actually, women are more likely to cheat, than men

Better at the cover up

[AmeerX]

Because a girl who didn't understand a guy in so long time probably wasn't interested in him to make him aware of her feelings

[more_than_a_guy]

This is shallow and superficial. Most guys who loves you will see you as the most beautiful woman.
Your statement is exactly like: Why women are disloyal when they find richer guys with abs?

[XandraD]

Y always must me the "richest with abs"? Y not only "the richer " or just "with abs"? ( As I am thinking personally not need someone looking better.. but just richer ). Xd XD

[more_than_a_guy]

@XandraD even so, being disloyal by being with richer OR with abs, is still superficial. Just like your statement as for guys with prettier girls.
In both genders there are disloyal people, stop making it a "guy thing".

[ColHathi]

Date someone because of their appearance, and that's what you're gonna get, I figure.

[Hypnos0929]

Because despite the stereotype men aren't just in it for looks. We will put up with a lot but at the end of the day we want personality and looks.

[In_Trance]

maybe the guys you're around are like this, but generally speaking they're not

[Asker]

well many Asian guys are like this even tho they are ugly

[myhaiva]

Infidelity happens pretty much equally for both genders.

[Ifriqyan]

Is this backed by statistics? Genuinely curious

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Ifriqyan so am I.

[JustTheTrue]

@Ifriqyan girls had used me to cheat on her boyfriend. Mind you they claimed to be single and that her boyfriend was just a friend lol

[myhaiva]

Multiple studies have proven it. They mostly come from the most egalitarian countries, like Norway. If you look in the countries where women are oppressed, you'll find out that more men cheat there. But no one would consider these countries as reliable data, since women there aren't treated like women.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@JustTheTrue and I have cheated and played with girls emotions before.
Yes both sides can cheat, still doesn't mean that we don't do it more often.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@myhaiva show us this studies you talk about then.

[JustTheTrue]

@ThisIsMyOpinion because you weren’t a real man. You were an insecure manchild lol

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@JustTheTrue I did fuck up. Yes. I have no pride on what I did.

[myhaiva]

Nah, what you don't get is that I won't argue if you don't believe me. I don't wanna spend an hour looking for them in my computer and even if I did, you wouldn't believe them.

You're free to search for them. I had to do a project about gender equality and infidelity in college for a sociology class. They weren't hard to find.

A thing you should expect on the internet, people will never give you the proof you ask for. They don't wanna waste time looking in their bookmarks and don't care if you believe them.

[Anonymous]

Women bring such pathetic deeds into mens life, that is why!

[Ciel66]

Because he is with you for his benefits and once a better one show up he go after her

[Anonymous]

Partly because most women go after unavailable guys. Partly because almost all guys want to have sex with as many women as possible. And partly because some women forgive/overlook cheatering.

[Cryptic-Game]

Because it isn't always about her beauty. A man wants a woman who treats him better,

[InkRat]

Why woman lie about paternity and cheat? Same reasons, some people are just shit.

[Meenejieiw]

Because white women slowly shrivel and die when deprived of BBC

[Anonymous]

Be glad that as a woman you don't have to be confident or escalate anything on your part

[Anonymous]

Because all women are gold diggers and gold diggers don't deserve loyalty.

[Anonymous]

Cause they want more. Or your the side piece.

[McKellar]

Believe it or not, not every guy is like that.

[JamesBlackDragon]

Some people are just cheaters

[blondfrog]

Yea I have no idea. Some men are so ungrateful.

[Goodwifie]

Men cheat down where as women cheat up.

[Oram52]

what makes you say that I'm curious? :)

[Goodwifie]

I'll give you two famous examples.
Hugh Grant and prince Charles.
My husbands friend was married to a woman who looked like Catherine Zeta Jones, cheated on and left her for a woman who I'd say looked pretty average. That relationship didn't work out because she cheated on him.

[Hanzyxw]

Because ugly women complain less

[_SOARER]

Lust it's pretty easy to understand

[SunnyCaliGirl]

Because those men are asshole dirtbags

[Alexandrubaschet08]

Same question for you girls.

[Anonymous]

New pussy is new pussy

[Mrhuman]

You are not meeting the right people.

[Juxtapose]

Same reason why women cheat.