I asked my classmate for nudes and she lashed out at me. I said " we started off on the wrong foot , forget what I said , lets start again"?

[Anonymous]

So I like her and we have only talked a few times and I asked her for nudes , she said no , so I said okay sorry , let's talk then and she is not willing to talk either

I don't understand girls. If she doesn't wanna give nudes fine , at least talk then wtf.

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+1 y

I just wanted to see tits. She has a huge rack

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Why do you think she is ignoring me and what should I do now?

[ElDiablo666]

First off, how old is the girl? If she is under 18, possessing nude pictures of her is a sexual offence (as that is child porn). In fact, when she takes the pictures and sends them, she is creating, possessing and distributing child pornography. Something that most under 18's don't seem to know about, despite the fact they are told this SEVERAL TIMES.

Also, you should never ASK for nudes. It's a big problem nowadays, especially among teenagers, that they always want naked pictures of a girl. From my own experience, all they want them for is to show their mates how big their girls rack is or it's something to crack one off to. Its pathetic.
If the girl wants to send you some, she will, you don't have to ASK for them.

I am 32, I have had many girlfriends, and I don't ask them for naked pictures. If we have been together for a while, and I've already seen her naked, I may ask if I can take a picture of her myself. Most agree in this situation, but the only person who sees those pictures is ME, I don't show them around.

This whole "asking for nudes" thing is just total impatience on the part of the asker, and it really just tells the girl that you only care about her body (and sex) and that you are probably not interested in a proper romantic relationship.

[Asker]

she is 18

[ElDiablo666]

Ah, legal then.
Still, never ask

[dantetheexplorer]

Because you were completely, 100% inappropriate.

If you were in the working world, and you did this at work, you could be easily be sued for harassment.

And it is harassment.

It would be the same thing like me meeting a client for the first time and she went "Okay, before we sign the agreement, can you whip your dick out and let me have a look?"

Also, you asking that question doesn't speak well of your character.
If I were your classmate, I would consider you a total degenerate.

Did you know that most people take just a few seconds (or was it 10 seconds) to come to a conclusion of your character based on how you present yourself?

And that respect for someone, once lost, is extremely difficult to get back?

Yeah.
That's you.

Welcome to the adult world where actions have consequences.

Try to be a better human being the next time round.

Look up the word "empathy" in the dictionary.
And try to have some of that.

Women's aren't some separate species or some insane puzzle that no one understands.
They're just people.
Like me.
Like you.

If you can't even understand a fellow human, well, that doesn't speak well of your ability to connect and empathize with others.

Cheers.

[Asker]

I agree with everything except harassment part. It would have been harassment if I stalked her and pestered her again and again for nudes despite her telling me no.

I just "asked" once if she would like to and she said no and I accepted that no. I said sorry in return as well. It's not like she is a total stranger , we have talked a few times and we help each other out in class often.

A guy friend of mine was showing me nudes of another girl and I asked him how he got it? He said just ask for it , if she doesn't want to then say sorry.

That's what I did

[G3tAClue]

No dude, asking for sexual favors or making someone uncomfortable is 100% harassment and you would be EXTREMELY lucky to get out of this with your job and reputation still in tact. Don’t be surprised if you get fired soon.

[Asker]

@G3tAClue I am a student. I am 18 year old

[G3tAClue]

It’s still harassment whether you are a student or not.

[Asker]

Good News guys : I thought about it a lot , she already thinks I am a bad guy so I decided I might as well be one.
One of the guy in my friend circle who is really experienced in these matters came up with a really really brilliant plan.

I used that and now she has forgiven me and has agreed to talk from now on and gave me the pic I asked for. Everything's good now

[btbc92]

You are a really disgusting man. She can have you reported for sexual harassment. You did NOT get off wrong. That is perverted and it shows you have 0 respect for women. You need to get your head out of the gutter that is what you need to do and have respect for a woman.

[Asker]

I said sorry okay? what else should I do

[Asker]

is there any way to repair the damage?

[btbc92]

Not unless you want to get reported.

[Asker]

So I will leave her alone. I really didn't mean to offend her

[Asker]

Good News guys : I thought about it a lot , she already thinks I am a bad guy so I decided I might as well be one.
One of the guy in my friend circle who is really experienced in these matters came up with a really really brilliant plan.

I used that and now she has forgiven me and has agreed to talk from now on and gave me the pic I asked for. Everything's good now

[G3tAClue]

Goddamn you don’t even realize what a colossal fuck up you just made. She will NEVER talk to you again because she is probably deeply offended that you wanted to treat her like a piece of meat in the first place. Jesus Christ, what the fuck is wrong with you?

[Asker]

I miscalculated I guess

[MissDawn7961]

G3tAClue - the Lords vengeance is upon you now

[G3tAClue]

😂😂😂

[Asker]

Good News guys : I thought about it a lot , she already thinks I am a bad guy so I decided I might as well be one.
One of the guy in my friend circle who is really experienced in these matters came up with a really really brilliant plan.

I used that and now she has forgiven me and has agreed to talk from now on and gave me the pic I asked for. Everything's good now

[Regmorus]

You should understand that what is "not a big deal to you", can be a big deal to someone else. Our society is polarized, so it is actually on every corner that some group have their standards and the other group have much differing ones. Next time you consider doing something like this remember this episode and ask yourself whether what you have in mind will be perceived as appropriate BY THE PERSON you are interacting with. And in this case obviously it was an insult to her and an unexpected reaction from your side. After that not talking to you is very natural. If you really want to apologize, do something nice. I don't know, buy flowers or write a letter - no idea. Try to apologize respectfully and regretfully using some words of higher language.

Wow, Sometimes even me has to say... what animals though I genuinely try to consider everyone equally. I couldn't imagine such situation irl in a school! although I knew that online something like that happens.

[Asker]

it's okay , I got what I needed. She agreed to forgive me and gave me the pics I asked for

[Regmorus]

O_o, ook what you not say...

[Asker]

A friend came up with a really genius plan. I would rather not discuss it here

[Regmorus]

Okay, well, cool for you. I guess o_O

[SamB2012]

You dont just jump in and ask that, you have to build rapport with them and become a close friend before even considering anything like that as it generally doesn't end well even if you do get what you want.

My go to used to when I was in that sort of game was using truth or dare, asking genuine questions to get to know them then slowly dialling it up once you are getting on well with them.

Get close with them and gauge whether you like them intimately before risking that approach, as I found out later on if you get to a comfortable point where you feel confident going through with that chances are they'll feel mutual, that's how my girlfriend and I first got close.

If they're so hot that there's no substitute you'll put the work in to get them to warm to you and feel comfortable with sharing that type of content.

[yeetyskeety]

Women get traumatized by both this AND receiving unwanted/unexpected nudes. You sir are a lazerbrain and are in for a challenging life. (PS when you want something to cum to there's a whole website for that. Don't try to use a real woman who wants her body to be respected)

[Asker]

Good News guys : I thought about it a lot , she already thinks I am a bad guy so I decided I might as well be one.
One of the guy in my friend circle who is really experienced in these matters came up with a really really brilliant plan.

I used that and now she has forgiven me and has agreed to talk from now on and gave me the pic I asked for. Everything's good now

[Snickermarstwix]

Bro, what's the secret of your friend, SHARE IT!

[yeetyskeety]

Retard.

[Jess1812]

I can't tell if this is trolling, but I'll bite. Don't fucking ask a girl for nudes when you first meet her, have known her for a week, or even a month. Unless you dating her, you don't get to see her like that. Google tits if you want to see some.

[Asker]

it's okay , I got what I needed. She agreed to forgive me and gave me the pics I asked for

[Anonymous]

So you don't understand how asking someone you don't really know for nude pictures is both rude and insulting? They don't want to talk to you because you acted like a creep and offended them. I don't know what's hard to understand about that.

[Opinion Owner]

That's literally human social interaction 101. Don't be an asshole to people if you want them to like you.

[Asker]

So I made a mistake. is it really so bad that it cannot be forgiven?

[yucychan]

Wow, you are a grade A creep. Now only should she not talk to you, all other girls should also not talk to you. You are a pervert.

[Asker]

it's okay , I got what I needed. She agreed to forgive me and gave me the pics I asked for

[spartan55]

Dude, don't ask girls for nudes. You think they like that?

[Asker]

some do. I guess she wasn't one of them.

[spartan55]

You're an idiot.

[Chunkysalsa90]

She doesn't have to talk to you at all, so you should be happy she even did before you fucked it up.

[Asker]

okay

[Drumlin2001]

She thinks you're a creep. You made a mistake, learn from it and move on

[Asker]

okay I will keep that in mind. thank you

[Dragonstarterplus]

Once I am elected president of the world im getting rid of stupid classes like music history or whatever and replacing it with a class on how to talk to women

Vote for DragonStarterPlus guys!

[magiusX26]

you should not have asked for nudes anywhere near that early into things, if at all. now you have creepy player vibes coming off you.

[Wise4myage]

You blew it dude. Next time, take a more subtle approach and you might get lucky.

[Asker]

it's okay , I got what I needed. She agreed to forgive me and gave me the pics I asked for

[Snickermarstwix]

Those women are crazy lol
Not like you insisted 🤣 it's not even harassment, when she said no you agreed.
Anw, I just wanna know the brilliant plan you used

[Anonymous]

So. You asked her to produce and distribute child pornography? And you wanted to possess child pornography. Each of you would become felons. This is a crime.

[Asker]

both are 18

[Asker]

and I got what I needed. so it doesn't matter dude
everything's good

[Anonymous]

She is ignoring you because you asked for nudes. Seems obvious enough

[julsblanc05]

You said one of the worst things you could say lol

[Asker]

yeah it seems that way

but don't worry I will tell her again I am extremely sorry

[Asker]

a friend of mine suggested this method to me of obtaining nudes. That asshole gave me the wrong advice. I will deal with him later

[asshole_]

God you're a fucking idiot

[Asker]

it's okay , I got what I needed. She agreed to forgive me and gave me the pics I asked for

[OddBeMe]

Is this a joke?