I met this guy on YouTube. He replied to my comment I made about dealing with Virgo men. I commented about being involved in a sexual relationship with my coworker along time ago and how he was kind and affectionate towards me. We both enjoyed the relationship and parted ways amicably. I replied to the guy on YouTube and we connected. He asked for my email address in which I gave. Once we started talking, he never asked for my number or to meet in person. We exchange pictures which he asked for. Well, I recently asked him why he hasn't asked for my number or invite to meet in person. I'm use to men asking for my number. He replied why didn't I asked him and that I said I wanted to get to know him first when he asked to view my Facebook page. Yes, I could have given him my number and invite to meet in person, but like I told him..."You initiated this rapport by asking for my email and I accepted and gave you my email address thinking you would ask for my number. You asked about everything but my number and to meet in person, why?" I believe he would like to have a sexual relationship agreement with me because I asked why did he reply to my comment he said he could relate and he was turned on by some of the things I said. Ok, I had no problem with his honesty and felt that was the reason why he developed a rapport with me. I have no problem with that. Ok, help me figure out what is wrong with this picture. If he's interested in having a sexual relationship with me, why won't he ask for my number and to meet in person? Why does he want me to initiate? Why won't he be upfront of his intentions? I'm confused. I plan to just put it out there what I think he wants and let the chips fly. But, I'm not sure if he's a good candidate. I feel the way you start is the way you will deal and finish with a person. I enjoy taking with him and think we could have a sexual agreement of sorts, but this is the only thing that stumps me about him. What's your thoughts GAG?
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I'll like to mention he keeps coming back after I tell him what I'm noticing about his actions towards me. I'm going to just directly tell him he needs to move on. We're not on the same page. If he returns, he needs to step up. I told him from the first email sent to him if I wasn't interested in getting to know him, I would not have given him my email or attention. I know there's other females that will gladly entertain his non-aggressive approach. So, I have no problem moving on.
You are wasting your time and I completely disagree with every response from social media being the new number, his ‘maybe’ being shy, to his maybe being lazy because is aware he is attractive. That he initiated conversation at all for the reasons you suspect... yeah, he’s not shy. That he decided to ask for your email rather than your phone number is a total lack of momentum on his part. If I were you at that moment I wouldn’t have taken him seriously from that point forward. In reading what you have shared you are already headed in this direction. Wisely so. All this seems like to me is “e-pals”. Nothing more.
I think you simply have a different perspective on how to approach things than he does. What that says about a guy is all up to you to judge.
Are you in the same region? Is he in a relationship? I would say go ahead and be up front with everything. Like @Gwenhwyfar said, if anything he wants you to initiate.
Yes, we do. Like. Literally 45 to hour away. He said he has family where Iive. It's funny when he found out where I lived, he quickly emailed me the next day. We basically email each other here and there. Once I told him where I live, he was excited. LOL! Just crazy. He came on strong and now he's showing weakness. Like you said the approach. I like a guy to follow through with his interest. If he's feeling the vibe from me, go ahead and shoot your shot. I told him if I did not want to talk to him I would not have given my email address. If he needed a push to ask, I figure I gave him one or several. I dunno.
Damn, yeah. You sound like my kind of chick with that. I don't know what his deal is if you've said all that to him and still get nothing. How long has he been ignoring the elephant in the room?
We have been sending emails back and forth here and there since November of last year. How is it you keep at me yet you want me to enter in a sexual agreement with you? SMH What you do in this little meet and greet tells me how your going to in the relationship agreement.
» Asking for someone's number is old-school. » Most people don't ask for a number because social media is the new phone number. » Also, he is sending other women messages/comments just like he did with you.
I understand that. No problem with his other interests in women. I'm not looking to be serious with him. Just casual. Yet, I do have my standards for what I desire. I actually thought I got rid of him. He keeps coming back. Yet, not being upfront of what he wants. He started out strong and now he's treading water. I'm trying to give him a chance because I am feeling the attraction but not delivery. I like aggression. Say what you want and I'll take it from there. Just curious why one would intiate and now can't seal the deal.
Incompletely disagree with social media being the new number... it is my contention that social media is nothing more than an added ‘layer’ for those who meet one another via the internet. It reminds me of digital speed dating. You read their blurbs they choose to post for the world to see then you get choose if they are a fit for you or not. A damn lazy approach to getting to know someone. Them again, exchanging emails only is what you do to keep someone at an arms length. Momentum ceased the moment he requested your email and not your number instead.
Too many pensive people online which only serves to drag out figuring out whether one another even really like one another or not. All this build up towards maybe one day meeting which in the very moment all the build up usually falls flat meaning you both wasted your time. This is why meeting conventionally is so much better still. You see them so that question in your head is out of the way. You strike up a conversation - or not - and then that question of your dynamic gets immediately put to rest. If you hit it off... you exchange “phone numbers” and not effing instagram or facebook or whatever ridiculous social media layer... It is ALL about momentum and email or social media is the move by the pensive... No one gets their juices going exchanging an email address or their instagram to merely ‘message’ one another via the ridiculous app.
The excuse of proving an email or social media because of being safe doesn’t hold water either since more damage can be effected via social media than by a phone call. Hell social media is the new way in which bastards torment...
Shy or lazy because he is attractive and used to women doing all the work as another suggested... Again I say bullshit. Whereas I can maybe say, ‘sure’ on the shy side, but judging by his initiative and over the context, he’s not shy, so I doubt he is shy. Lazy because he is aware he is attractive... definitely no.
Yeah, you're right. I like someone aggressive. He's use to aggressive females. Not that I can't be aggressive once an individual initiates. I'm just turned on by a manly man.
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