What does I’ll text you when I’m ready to talk mean?

[Anonymous]

We had a fight Friday and I said something wrong and have been trying to apologize ever since. He just ignored me. I tried apologizing. Finally today he messaged saying you need to stop with the apologies. I asked if he wanted it to end then could we at least end on good terms. He said let it go. I asked him to please talk. He said nothing to talk about. I asked if he really wanted to end things over a stupid statement that was made. I would respect his decision if that’s what he wants but that’s not what I want. He said when he is ready to talk he will text me. So I said okay.

He’s blowing you off.

He will talk when he’s ready.

[Anonymous]

Listen drama queen. He told you what he meant in plain English.
You are the one swinging between apologising multiple times when you've been told to stop, and prematurely accepting a breakup that he never initiated.

Calm the fuck down. He didn't dump you or break up with you. If YOU want to break up, then do it and don't be a fucking pussy and try to blame it on him.

If you DONT want to break up, then leave him alone and stop annoying the shit out of him with texts when he told you to give him space to calm down.

HE WILL TEXT YOU WHEN HE IS READY TO TALK. jesus christ...

[KrakenAttackin]

He is tired of your disrespectful bullshit. He is seriously thinking about dumping you.

[Asker]

How do you know it’s disrespectful bullshit. You don’t know what even totally happened.
I actually do care about this guy. When he got upset after things were said I did genuinely apologize and accept responsibility.
He is the one who started the silent treatment instead of communication. If you want things completely over then say it. If you want to work through it then work through it. If you need space just say I need space right now.
No I don’t want to lose him but I’m letting him be like he told me to. But I am worried that “when I’m ready to talk, I’ll text you”, actually means I never want to talk to you again. Just saying. So for your information I do care about him and his feelings.

[KrakenAttackin]

You either constantly say/do things to really piss him off to get a drama fix, or you are one of those women who needs to "compete" or "assert herself" constantly. You can't know how exhausting it is to be around women like this. Yes, you apologized... for now, but he knows the next conflict is just right around the corner.

[Asker]

I’m sorry you feel this way. Look I really didn’t mean for what I said to come off the way I did. I would never want to make him mad. If I could go back and take it back I would.
No I don’t like fighting with him. You might not believe me but that is the truth.
I guess there probably are women like this but I’m not one of them.
I will say this I’m not a perfect women. I do make mistakes and sometimes I even say the wrong things and hurt people. I do own those mistakes. I try to make them right.
If a guy is looking for a perfect woman or a relationship without problems or fights... Well no woman is going to live up to those standards.
I hope you understand that in all your relationships. Not trying to start and argument.
This is the first time he’s gotten mad at me since we started. There is no pattern here.

[KrakenAttackin]

So, what was said?

[Asker]

He’s in a job that moves him around a lot. His job is talking about possibly moving again in January. I asked him how he saw us working out. He said in all honesty from his experience long distance doesn’t work. He sees us working out at the beginning but as his schedule gets hectic he sees us maybe having issues. His other relationships ended because of this. I asked him if for him it was a different location a different girl. Or the girl for a moment. I didn’t want my relationship to have an expiration date. I was also kind of upset about the thought of him leaving. He got mad at the different location different girl comment. I just want to get dumped when he left. Maybe so worded it wrong. I really wasn’t trying to make him mad. But I do have concerns what’s going to happen when they send him somewhere else. He got so mad. Then there was no talking to him or apologizing.

[JoyGirl]

Damnnnn, all these men are coming at you. O. o

Either way, just give him a little bit of space and time. Yes, it is hard. Very hard, but your relationship needs that, rn.

[darkcloud1945]

He is on a power trip and it will only get worse as time goes on. Have an exit plan in place so your not caught flatfooted when you have had enough of his shit