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We’re not even dating. He keeps saying we’re just friends. Even though we have sex and cuddle when we sleep together half the week.
Why would a guy go through your phone?
When a man goes through your phone it can mean many different things.
1. Insecurity- We have such a lack of confidence in ourselves that we can't help but think, am I really that great? Is there somebody better? Does she really like me? She's pretty great too could she find someone else? We may not think we are good looking so we begin to wonder why you would ever want to be with us and not someone else. SO then the I security builds and it begins to spiral out of control into the next thing…
2. Paranoia- We begin to get influenced by these insecurities that they create some overwhelming fears…. even if they are delusional or impractical which is why I'm calling this paranoia. In this you'll notice he will be very defensive and perhaps go from emotional highs to emotional lows. He will become possibly abusive verbally and lash out. He will make absurd or false accusations. A paranoid person will begin to think something you did that could be extremely minor, was an attempt to deliberately and intentionally hurt them. Example would be…You are on your way home from work and maybe on some days you call him on the way home. Well this day you grab food to go on the way home and forget to call. No worries right? And how sweet you grabbed food to go for us babe? Welllll not to a paranoid man. The first thing out of his mouth will be…. "you know I can't believed you didn't call me I was waiting here for you and you didn't call. Were you on the phone with someone else?" It will become very accusatory over something that a normal man would be understanding about and just happy you are home.
3. Distrust- He doesn't believe or trust you in situations that can range from very casual things, such as a cocktail at a friends house for girls night or even having male co workers. Or a situation where there could be some potential for risk, and what I mean by that is situations such as 'a party or nightclub where there are guys who may approach you'. Maybe you have done something that broke or severely damaged the trust he once had for you. Did you become flirty with another boy or man to the point where it was inappropriate for a woman in a relationship. Most people will say "If you wouldn't behave that way with your partner around, you shouldn't behave that way when they are not."
4. HE is the one with the problem- he may be the one that is cheating himself, and because he is doing it he assumes "If in cheating I bet she is too". After that he will begin questioning it all, and this is tricky territory because some men as well as women can be sly dogs about it. For those of you who don't understand that American slang. It means they will remain as if nothing is wrong and that your relationship is without problems and there could not possibly be any kind of cheating going on. On the other hand some men and women will go snooping through phones, tablets, texts, emails, social media, pictures, videos, in hopes of finding something that will validate their behavior and snooping. It could be a text from someone else, a photo with someone else, a like of another mans photo, someone you follow on Instagram or someone who comments on one of your photos. They will seek validation so that way they can think because you are doing it too that it's no big deal that he is doing it. Or it will give him the ammo he wants to end the relationship right there or to cause a very ugly fight and argument. Which is what he wants, no matter how ridiculous it may be.
To end this, you cannot love someone if you first do not love yourself. When we are not comfortable with ourselves and who we are mentally, emotionally, and physically some of the above things I mentioned happen. As a result it makes us not be comfortable with others.
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when someone goes though your emails, texts, photos, etc. without permission.
- typically means they are insecure about the relationship you have together
- or they believe you are cheating on them with others.
- regardless of if they are male or female.
He's insecure about your relationship. It could be from previous bd experiences or because you have given him a reason to not trust you. He shouldn't have done that though, it's a violation of your privacy.
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cos he's the type who is controlling and manipulative also untrusting of you... if they can't respect your personaly space and/or right to privacy then you clearly have the wrong company to keep...
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Maybe he wondered about your past or didn't trust your present. Maybe you aren't very open with him and he chose a poor method of trying to find out about your life/family/etc
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Why would you allow that?
You are getting used for sex by the way. -
why do girls go through guys phones?
same sort of thing.. they're allowing you to - 625 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
To find out if you are fucking around on him. And you probably are.
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You are either cheating or he's just a jealous jerk.
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Because he wants to see how many dudes you’re sleeping with
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Jealousy and insecurity.
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No reason. That's overstepping the matk
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He wants my super secret phone games
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To find out your secrets
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Same reason why a girl would go though your phone
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to see what guys you're screwing around with
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he is not the guy you want
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looking for nude pics
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He is jealous or doesn't trust you.
- 616 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Insecurity
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