I don’t know much about men, I am curious if I can get some insights for this:
This guy is my coworker, although we are in the same company but we only see each other in the company bus when get on or off work. We talked occasionally, at the beginning, he was quite engaged in conversation and stared at me quite often, but later on become more and more passive. I had a small crush on him, i think he is shy and gentle. I thought he was single because he seems a bit clumsy, he even say his mum still buy clothes for him. He only talks to a few people in the bus, he always initiates and engages in their conversation but when with me, he is passive but doesn’t seem he dislike to talk. Today I am very surprised to know he is married and has a kid at 3, I heard it when he was talking with a female coworker. He never even mentioned a bit about this during the last 10 months even if there were so many conversations he could have mentioned about it, with my other male coworkers or any men I know, unless they intend to lie, otherwise, they always talk about their wife/girlfriend or kids. He talked about it with other people but never talk with me. I know he doesn’t like me but when I thought it back there were some occasions I thought it was quite improper for a married man, e. g. sometimes he would stare at me, he seems to enjoy to help me, sometimes when we sat together, we would lean close, most of married men in here always set a distance with women, or they don’t even care to talk at all. even if they talk, they will do it very openly, without any hiding.
It is quite a hurtful feeling since I had a crush on him but I would never have crush on any men who are in a relationship. I think I sent some small hits that showed I am interested also.
Why does he do that? I don’t understand why they have to keep total silence about their relationship status. Actually most men I know like to talk about their wife or kids in front of people or me. I never met someone like this before.
This guy is my coworker, although we are in the same company but we only see each other in the company bus when get on or off work. We talked occasionally, at the beginning, he was quite engaged in conversation and stared at me quite often, but later on become more and more passive. I had a small crush on him, i think he is shy and gentle. I thought he was single because he seems a bit clumsy, he even say his mum still buy clothes for him. He only talks to a few people in the bus, he always initiates and engages in their conversation but when with me, he is passive but doesn’t seem he dislike to talk. Today I am very surprised to know he is married and has a kid at 3, I heard it when he was talking with a female coworker. He never even mentioned a bit about this during the last 10 months even if there were so many conversations he could have mentioned about it, with my other male coworkers or any men I know, unless they intend to lie, otherwise, they always talk about their wife/girlfriend or kids. He talked about it with other people but never talk with me. I know he doesn’t like me but when I thought it back there were some occasions I thought it was quite improper for a married man, e. g. sometimes he would stare at me, he seems to enjoy to help me, sometimes when we sat together, we would lean close, most of married men in here always set a distance with women, or they don’t even care to talk at all. even if they talk, they will do it very openly, without any hiding.
It is quite a hurtful feeling since I had a crush on him but I would never have crush on any men who are in a relationship. I think I sent some small hits that showed I am interested also.
Why does he do that? I don’t understand why they have to keep total silence about their relationship status. Actually most men I know like to talk about their wife or kids in front of people or me. I never met someone like this before.
