My boyfriend admitted to jerking off to my friend in a pic of us together. Should I drop him?

[Anonymous]

He told his friend this when he was drunk and I was in the next room
i wondered why he acted weird whenever I told him I went to hang out with this girl he’d be like “ohh yeah... *long pause* did you have a good time?” I didn’t tell him I overheard but I asked him what he thinks of her and he was like “she’s a cool chick I guess” Then started constantly referring to her as his “homie”

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OKAY so I won’t drop him... after reading the comments I guess my friend is just one of the many woman my boyfriend has and will jerk off too... got it

[Kaneki05]

I am probably gonna tell you a secret that guys don't want you to know we jerk off to many women lol. Normally it means nothing. And yes sometimes it can be a friend to are girlfriend.
However yeah it's weird the way he is bringing it up. Wouldn't bring it up if it was nothing. So i probably would see that as a fair red flag right there.

[Asker]

They jerk off to many woman whilst in a relationship? I mean I’m confident enough to not care if he is attracted to any of my friends they aren’t ugly so it’s normal for him to be attracted to another attractive person but if he’s imagining sexual situations with someone close to me, it’s a bit uncomfortable...

[Kaneki05]

normally in a relationship it is much less of course, but one night alone with nothing better to do sure. Just kinda who ever is attractive gets us going don't normally matter who they are. But it's not really a proud thing to do over a someone who is close like that yeah. Which is why we wouldn't mention it especially knowing it could make are girlfriend uncomfortable like you are now. So him bragging about it is kinda confusing but people do, say dumb stuff while drunk. But afterwards he should of be like sorry or something not just yeah she's cool.

Cause he's either oblivious to your feelings and super casual or into her.

[Kaneki05]

Also him acting weird around her is a bit of bad sign too sorry.

[Anonymous]

Seems pretty normal to me. I think you should just assume that guys will have jacked it to most even half-way attractive women. It's just an regular everyday interest in variety.
Men do this while having health long-term monogamous relationships, I really don't see the issue.

[FictionalCharacter]

I remember a guy told me this about my sister. From a pic of us together and I dropped him. It made me feel insecure and uncomfortable by this. Lesson learned.

[Poppykate]

He is young... and a little dumb. I would give him a pass, and be thankful he isn’t checking out your guy friends! Lol 😂

[Asker]

He actually did once say one of my guy friends are a “pretty boy” hahahah

[Jmmmfi4]

I'd be more worried about that then the other thing

[Carterarder]

You definitely shouldn't drop him solely because of that. What you should do, if it really bothers you of course, is bring it up whenever you both are open and talk about it. Express how you feel and why you feel so but also listen to what he has to say. You should only drop him if he doesn't care about your feelings or is more interested in your friend than you.

[NoHopeSoldier]

100% no.

If he cheats or beats physically or emotionally, 100% yes.

Otherwise, if it's bothering you, talk to him about it. A relationship is about communication, without that, it's dead. Being vulnerable is the best part of a relationship. If you can't do that, what's the point really?

[sixtyeightplusone]

you better dump every man you ever meet then before you meet them. This is how men roll. It doesn't have any relation to him being a cheater or not being turned on by you. Her boyfriend is jerking off thinking of you as is your boss, your friends dad, grandfather and and some dirty ugly dude who sold you some shoes last week.

[answerALLquestions]

Girls: if you have a hot friend your boyfriend will jerk off to them. No he doesn't want to be with them

[Jmmmfi4]

exactly

[bowenw]

I suggest telling him not to give you any details about his jerking off or who he fantasizes about, and you will do the same.

[BUNroaster]

Its fine, just frisk to some of his friends. he does seem fishy that he told your friend even though he's drunk, not a good excuse and seems like he may be onto something

[007kingifrit]

people who fantisize about cheating are less likely to cheat. its normal to fantasize about other people

[Caliguy88]

It’s probably pretty normal but not sure why he told you. Lol

[always_og]

Hahah what a muppet, don't drop him coz of what he did, drop him coz he was dumb enough to do it

[Jmmmfi4]

so what? He didn't actually do anything. Guys will jerk off to anything.

[Mangospacho]

Don’t be surprised if he cheats on you.

[Asker]

Wait really? How does that indicate cheating

[Mangospacho]

Sometimes it does. Not 100% of the time. But if it bothers you and he doesn’t care how you feel, that’s a red flag. Don’t listen to the people who say “all guys do it” and then assume it won’t ever be a problem.

[Wise4myage]

Sorry, you should have dumped him.

[oncpl]

He is only fantasizing about her.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Drop him.

[pokenstroke]

No reason to

[Anonymous]

She must be hot