Why do good guys usually end up being friend zoned?

[RJJ33666]

I have seen this many times that a good guy helps his female friend everytime, but always gets friendzoned. They confess their feelings but they aren't accepted as boyfriends. What is it that leads them to being friend zoned eventually.

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If a guy has most of good qualities, like being sweet, understanding and always has your back, then why are they always ending up in friend zone. If I am not wrong, these are some of the qualities women want in a man. I get it if a woman already has a specific preference for men, but what about those women who are trying to find good men with the respective qualities but friend zone the very men with the same qualities that are around them.

[Lazi-boi]

They don't create excitement and intense emotions in women. They are the balanced diet to cake.

Western society has no respect for providers and women will get their hands on their money with or without their consent, so all you can do is escape this society and refuse providing your energy to it. Love for yourself.

In other countries where women aren't coddled, there is still some appreciation for good guys, not in the west tho.

[RJJ33666]

So you are saying that since they act pleasant and nice, they don't bring the excitement needed for a relationship. That actually makes sense.

[TheFlak38]

because the sexual marketplace is rigged in favour of women. The role of the good guy is to get friend zoned until the woman has been replaced by the new generations of fresh young sluts, so now she needs the emotionally available good guy to lock him down with marriage and kids. If he's rich as well then even better for her. It's life in tutorial mode.

[SnakeBoop]

Probably because they're already "friend zoned", and having those traits are great friend material... also the whole no one is obligated to date a person regardless...

[doopayo]

just cause you’re nice to a girl doesn’t mean she’s obligated to want to marry you or something?

[RJJ33666]

I am not talking about marrying, it's simple dating

[doopayo]

Yeah I know but just because you help a girl doesn’t mean she’s going to like you in that way

[RJJ33666]

That is true, but what about when a woman is finding a man who has the exact same qualities but still friend zones someone

[RJJ33666]

I am sorry, I got a bit defensive, I just feel a little bad for those who remain pleasant but never get the girl

[boggboss]

Becausse they think being nice or a "good guy" will get them a partner and just throw out that some level off attraction is needed

[Bee-Hatch]

If you behave like a friend, why would you expect to be treated as anything other than a friend.