Insteado of blaming the women for not wanting to date you how about you take the hints and leave her alone instead of trying to pressure her into dating you and move on with your own life. I am so tired of guys complaing of how they were friend zoned when she probably motioned in the beginning that she didn't want you to be her boyfriend or for you to take her on a date. Also why not just move on instead of hopelessly and creeplely hanging around and being "her friend" and don't say "well she shouldn't get mad that I don't want to be her friend. " I can guarantee that she is not mad if you drop her as a friend and probably relieved and thrilled if you drop her as a friend. I am so sick of guys complaining of the friend zone. Do yourselves a favor and get out of it and don't get create it in the first place and leave her alone.
What’s your definition of friéndzone? For me it’s when one person is interested and the other knows but isn’t interested yet they don’t say anything for their own ends. It’s not when the disinterested person straight up says “they just want to be friends” and the other person agrees to it like a pathetic moron vs just moving on. There is a difference.
Anyway I have a basic motto that attraction isn’t a choice but respect is.
It’s totally fine if a girl isn’t interested in a guy no matter how nice he is to her. But she can’t just play dumb (and a lot of women conveniently do) because she wants to milk the attention and favors off him. She has to speak up but a lot of women selfishly don’t.
It used to be so much simpler years ago. A guy could be direct and/or make a move. If she turned him down then the guy had to bow out gracefully. I know some guys sadly don’t but most will. But #metoo really screwed everything up. Especially if a man approaches a woman in the work place.
Also the shoe is on the other foot for guys on this too occasionally. We got to be straight up with women when we aren’t interested.
I’m actually dealing with a very uncomfortable situation right now when it comes to this. An older married (and rather overweight) woman strongly hinted to me last week that she had a crush on me in a recovery group I lead and she attends.
I tried to laugh it off and chalk it up as innocent. She’s a sweet lady and it’s okay if she likes me but she has zero chance I mean absolutely zero chance of making any of it with me. She’s no Jennifer Anniston when it comes down to it.
So now it’s my turn to have the uncomfortable direct conversation with her if she keeps it up. Not looking forward to it and an older married woman really should know better (especially in an anon group).
But again I have show respect and communicate. I sure as hell won’t “friéndzone” her for attention and benefits or some other crap. But a mature adult will speak up vs ignoring the obvious.
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Never go shoe shopping with her just move on lol
I always tell men what I’d tell my brother, if you like a woman, don’t accept being friends with her.
Well, my brother has never been in a situation like this, but to imagine that had he not been as hot as he is, some girls would try to friendzone and tag him along, doesn’t feel good to me.
Girl is a girl, she’s biologically wired to get as many men around as possible, because a loyal man equals more resources and higher chances of survival, so she’ll have a hard time refusing you as a friend, unless she has a very high moral and a conscientious, even then she might find it hard to refuse your friendship, because it’s BIOLOGICALLY beneficial for her. I don’t blame a girl for that.
However, she obviously doesn’t consider you the best fit for her, that’s why she’s keeping you in a friendzone. So, I am telling something I’d tell my brother or a son, if you like a woman as a potential romantic partner, don’t you undervalue yourself as a friend.
If she wants your resources and your protection, she’s got to be your girlfriend.
I've said it a million times, just because you ask to go out with someone or you are nice to a woman, it doesn't mean she has any obligation to you. If you have no desire to be a friend, walk away. Go find someone who wants what you want.
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That what you do when they try to put you in the friendzone, you leave. You don't have time to waste on that shit.
I went one step further and droooed any unnecessary contact with women.
I talk to my mom and the women at my job, the rest are a waste of time
The "friendzone" does not exist and neither does god.
There is NO friend zone.
There is no obligation to be friends, either.
Because guys are dumb
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