Why do most girls’ think it’s ok for her to do certain things but not ok for her partner to do those things?

[Finchie40]

Every girl I was in a relationship with barely ever wore my shoes , the same way she expected me to wear hers , when it comes to making decisions. It will always end up in double standards between us. Even after we set boundaries with each other , she will still be selfish and think she is right and never wrong. That’s usually when I throw in the towel on the relationship and move on and realize she is a selfish person , that only wants things her way. Why do females’ have a hard time being on the same page as their partners do? If my girlfriend does something that I feel is wrong and disrespectful , I communicate with her and express my feelings of concern to her , as to why i am feeling the way that I am , she will usually lash out at me and say I don’t trust her or I am being insecure etc. I just laugh and shake my head and say , so it was ok for you to do this to me? but not ok for me to do this to you? Hmmmmm. Usually this occurs when my friends ask me to go places with them , without her , but the thing is , I never exclude her from joining us what so ever , I don’t want to be in a relationship with a girl that we don’t experience and share things together , she becomes my top priority in all my decision making. But when she is asked to go places with her friends? I no longer matter to her , she immediately excludes me. And doesn’t consider my feelings what so ever , her friends become more important to her than I do to her. So instead of arguing with her and fighting with her about it? I just let her go do her thing and I go do mine. Why no longer jump into relationships with girls’ anymore , because
Most of them lie and cheat and try to leave Sucker written on your head while they go out with their toxic friends , they are all Selfish people.

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I will not commit to a girl that has selfish qualities in her , if she doesn’t wear my shoes the same way she expects me to wear hers , she isn’t the girl for me. Does that make me selfish? When this is things that we addressed to each other in the beginning of our relationship with each other? I consider myself a very honest guy and and tell her the truth the same way I hope she is telling me. Sadly it is never the case , why I choose to no longer jump into a relationship with a girl.

[LaurenM1997]

My ex always met with hai friends and put them before me and we used to fall out because of that and the lack of communication also the lack of respect he had for me it’s not ok for him to treat me like that and I would never treat him the way he treated me he used to go mental at me for calling him “without his permission” but he can phone me without my permission 😤🤦‍♀️

[Finchie40]

Yea he sounds like i a selfish POS as well that only cares about himself , I usually end up with the same kind of girls’ Selfish

[LaurenM1997]

He also emotional abused me too that’s another thing why we broke up

[Sarisalive]

Honestly, it stems from being selfish and not having consideration for another person. I feel that in a relationship one should be allowed to do what the other person does and that there should be fairness

[NathanDavis]

because it can be okay...

that's how preferences do work

case by case scenario... though

[DrPepper12]

You seem very angry. Keep trying those dialogue tho

[Juxtapose]

It's the weakness of man that has allowed this to happen. If more men set these kinds of boundaries and stuck to them this would not happen.

[Finchie40]

Why I only desire submissive girls’ these days , a girl that stands by her man and looks up to her man , and understands the foundation of a relationship, she prioritizes her man the same way he prioritizes her. I will not commit to a girl that tries to be dominate over
Me , that doesn’t wear
My shoes the same way she expects me to wear hers , if she wants me
To be loyal and
Faithful to her she needs to do the same
For me in return. It’s not about being right or wrong , it’s about respect for each other , if she can’t respect me, I will not respect her period. If she can’t remove selfishness for me, I will not
Remove it for her.

[Anonymous]

You need to be in therapy. You sound like a loose cannon.