Why do most girl’s think it’s ok to ask her partner if they are cheating on them but when her man asks her he is insecure?

[Finchie40]

I witnessed this and experienced this with Girls, It’s ok for her to ask her partner if he is cheating on her but if he suspects her cheating on him , and asks her , automatically he is an instant piece of shit insecure bastard? Why do girl’s do this shit? Me personally feels if a girl gets defensive about that question I pretty much assume she is cheating on me because why in the hell is she getting so defensive and mad about it? Most girl’s assume men don’t have feelings and that it’s ok for her to be insecure but not ok for him

[CA4444]

I quite like a bit of jealousy and possessiveness tbh, I find it normal and a sign that he cares about me and so would try hard to make him the center of my attention… I know jealousy is not good in itself but everyone is jealous otherwise why are you even in a monogamous relationship… maybe it’s toxic a little bit I don’t knwo but I like it, and I’d rather know if he is feeling jealous rather than him being grumpy and not say anything

[Finchie40]

Sadly it is toxic if you try to make your partner jealous , it’s a sign of insecurity and low self esteem and a selfish decision, in a relationship you both should be doing your best to keep your commitment going , removing selfishness for each other and making each other your priority , we all go through ups and downs in life and we all experience emotions , as a partner you should make them feel valued and wanted not jealous and insecure , What most girl’s don’t realize is most men are territorial of their girl , it’s how we were raised , when a girl starts pushing us away and doesn’t want to be intimate or affectionate with us anymore we start to think the worst case scenario , why isn’t she kissing me , why doesn’t she want to be in my arms? We start assuming the worst case scenario, And yes Girls do the same shit The difference between guys and girls is We know what other men are thinking just like Girls know what other girls are thinking , so when a guy gets upset with her about her wanting to go out with her girlfriends to a club or a bar and makes it clear he is excluded , he is stuck in the middle of thinking what should he do , Does he be a man and just let her go out with the girls or put his foot down and say you know you got mad at me for going out with my friends without you and I stopped but now all of a sudden it’s ok for you? A girl will say he is insecure and jealous and doesn’t trust her , And the truth is it has nothing to do with trust it comes down to respect , The truth of the matter is you can only get jealous of wanting something that is not yours , Territorial is protecting something that already is , Everyone has some type of insecurity whether they say they do or not , And everyone has selfishness in them , the only way a relationship will survive and love to grow is when you can remove selfishness for your partner the same way they do for you , If you can’t do that for your partner, you are best not to be in a relationship at all

[CA4444]

Oh that’s not what I meant at all I would never try to make him jealous, it’s just if it happens once in a while (from the man or the woman) it’s normal I would say… I like a man who is territorial, I agree with you

[Finchie40]

So yes a little bit jealous is good , but when a partner constantly withholds intimacy and affection from their partner they are destroying that relationship because they are only thinking of themselves and it becomes one sided , If your partner has a higher sex drive then you and you aren’t in The mood there are other ways you can please your partner to keep them satisfied , a girl can give her man a hand job or a blow job a guy can finger his girlfriend or go down on her , it isn’t hard work it shows you appreciate your partner even if you aren’t in the mood , when a partner doesn’t do anything that just tells your partner that you are selfish and that you are more than likely up to no good , even though you might not be physically cheating on your partner you are still cheating on the relationship because you are only making it about yourself , So this is why so many relationships go through break ups or affairs because 1 partner decided to be one sided only caring about their wants and needs when it’s convenient for them, making constant excuses why they don’t want to be intimate or affectionate with their partner , I have a headache , I don’t feel good, you didn’t take the trash out, you didn’t wash the dishes lie I told you to etc , those excuses you are holding over your partners head is damaging your relationship and it’s selfish of you to hold that over their head , you are best to just step outside and let your partner meet someone that doesn’t only think of themselves

[Guy13]

When they tell you’re insecure that’s when gently grab there hair, get on your knees, and etc…. If they refuse…See, you are cheating 💪

[Anonymous]

Because women are hypocrites. You didn't know that? If a woman feels it then to her it's justifiable.