How do married guys act when they like you, but they know you are taken?

[Anonymous]

How do married guys act when they like you, but they know you are taken?

So, I think a coworker of mine might be into me, but I am terrible at reading stuff like that. I also have a husband which he knows about. I don't think he is the type of guy to break up a relationship, so I think if he did like me he would be subtle about it.

What should I be looking for? Guys, how do you act around a girl you like but who you know is already taken? Especially a co-worker...

[MrCommodore]

I'd usually be really friendly, but also distant in some ways and try to avoid situations (drinks, hanging out after work etc) where things could escalate.

[Asker]

why would married man do that?

[MrCommodore]

Because his marriage might privately already be over, and he has fallen for this female colleague, but can't act on it because she is taken. So he tries to avoid getting too close, to reduce the chances of getting hurt.

[Asker]

he has fallen for this female colleauge you mean he has feelings for her and love her? and he avoids her to avoid getting hurt

[MrCommodore]

Yes, that is correct, he has feelings for her and avoids seeing her outside of work as he knows it's an impossible situation and will likely only result in him getting hurt.
The only exception to this would be if she is in a similar situation, and secretly likes him too, but if both keep their stories secret, nothing will ever happen.
He is likely a good decent guy, so he wouldn't make a move on her if she is taken.

[Asker]

the guys is taken too, what if he knows the girl likes him too? what is that mean when you said he hsd feelings for her like what kind of feelings?

[MrCommodore]

When I said he probably has feelings for her, I mean he is probably falling in love with her, despite his best efforts to avoid her.
This does not happen a happily married man or woman, it happens people who are usually unhappy with their current relationship and now found a more suitable partner.

[MrCommodore]

If he knew the girl liked him too, he might make a move, but he might also wait until she confirms her relationship is over, so that they do not cheat.

[Asker]

so he is willing to break up or divorced her wife if he knew the girl like him too even they are both married

[MrCommodore]

Maybe or maybe not, I assume his marriage is already broken if he is liking another woman.

[Jlegacy]

What you want to know is a dangerous information. You have a husband, be content with him Darl.

[Asker]

i dont plan acting on it either, im just asking how do married guys act when they like you but they know you are taken

[Jlegacy]

I know you mean it now that you don't want to act on it but if you knew and you came across a truly amazing married man that was your kind of irresistible, you would be angry with me for ever giving you the secret code to knowing or being aware of his subtle likes and hotness for you.

My advice is "dont know!"

[Asker]

why would i will be angry with you lol

[Jlegacy]

I guess human nature. We don't like being blamed for stuff. I just think you should forget about it and love on your man.

[Asker]

and yes thank you

[Jlegacy]

Sure thing Darl.

[Jlegacy]

Thanks for the MHO

[caring__1]

It sounds like you are looking to have an affair. If not, this wouldn't be a concern of yours. If you want to move on from your husband, file for divorce. You'll only end up complicating your life if you stray before doing this.

Also, if you cheat on your husband, the guy you cheat with won't stick around, as he'll figure you'll also cheat on him. This whole thing sounds like a no-win situation. Think it through and then think it through again before doing anything.

[Asker]

i dont plan acting on it either, im just asking how do married guys act when they like you but they know you are taken

[caring__1]

That all depends on whether you are showing signs of being receptive. If you don't plan on acting on it, you probably don't want to start nurturing the fantasy. The fantasy can draw you in, and you might find it hard to fight your urges.

If he cares about your feelings, he'll be looking for signs from you and be careful about what he allows. If he only cares about himself, he'll probably come across stronger and less sensitive.

[Asker]

what do you mean by hell probably come across stronger and less sensitive

[caring__1]

You'll see signs of aggressive behavior or insistence or single focused behavior, without showing consideration for your feelings.

[Asker]

can you give examples

[caring__1]

It sounds like you don't see what's going on around you. Start off by becoming observant. Then you can see what behaviors show consideration for others and which minimize the other. There are a lot of users out there. Sometimes, two users will use each other, but there is no true connection. They're only looking at what's in it for them, and this isn't uncommon for both males and females. My spoonfeeding you won't help you understand. Observing cause and effect will give you an understanding. It's up to you to determine what is or isn't respectful. Having others think for you will never help you.

[FilmGuy93]

Because they're using you for attention.

[Asker]

why they do that for using you for attention?

[FilmGuy93]

Boredom, insecurity. Married men want to feel desired too. if you want to keep your man faithful, make sure he always feels wanted.

[Asker]

so they are just using the girl for attention not because they likes her or attractive to her or crushing on her?

[FilmGuy93]

He might be attracted to her physically, but the side chick has to meet a lower standard than the main chick.

[Asker]

what do you mean by that

[FilmGuy93]

The side chick is there to make up for whatever the main chick is lacking. So she doesn't need to be as good as the main chick, because the main chick is already taking care of most things the guy needs. She wouldn't be his main chick if she wasn't excellent.

[Asker]

taking care of most things teh guys need like what?

[FilmGuy93]

His emotional needs, taking care of his kids; that kind of thing.