How does that work, like what was there point or goal here?

[Erica686]

So my friends with benefits of 8 years finally had the balls to walk away, and left me for someone else. So I get it, he used me, and I pretty much allowed it and let him. So I can only really be mad at myself. But my point is, why did he tell me Early on that he liked me, Why would he share certain personal information about himself and his family with me, Why didn't he keep it a hundred percent with me and tell the truth, Why would he tell me that he loved me, Why I get mad to each and every time I tried to walk away and he wouldn't let me, Why get upset, when I decided to date others and not him, Why did he get territory and jealous over me, Why share all these different emotions with me, if he isn't or doesn't feel the same, why tell that he cares, but then not show me, Why would he agree with me on being just friends. But yet, still wanted sex with me. Why fake to be my friend, Expecting me to give you some later. Then when I tell him NO, HE stops all Communications me out the blue. And lastly but not least, why tell me he's not going to leave me. But he did for someone. Why would he tell me all of this. I mean. $Like I get it he's an F boy and wants to be so-called player but seriously though. But Why would You tell me all these things. When he left in the end? :(

[SnakeBoop]

"had the balls"? He was completely free to leave at any time, nothing to do with "having the balls"... Same as there's not really a "i allowed it".
but anyway, controlling red flags aside. firstly, feelings can change. And you seem clueless on what a friends with benefits set up is meant to be. It literally is some friendship and sex, hence telling you some stuff (the supposed telling you that he loved you is a no no tho) and wanting sex. He was literally being that friends with benefits you said he was.
So chill, and stop expecting it to have been a serious and traditional relationship when you literally said thats not what it was.

[Erica686]

I agree with you 100%. But my goal was to never sleep with him. back in 2014. Then after that one time that was supposed to be it. But it continued for years. And I know exactly what friends with benefits is. And in the beginning thingsWas more hot and heavy on a more emotional side with him. And I get that I blocked him off of Facebook back in 2020 just last name year. But he also told me many different things and when I finally had the courage to tell him, how I felt. He still try to pursueHe still try to pursue the sex instead of saying Ok let me leave this girl alone. Smh

[TwinkleLily5]

I went through the same thing with an ex from the past some men just want you for themselves even if they don’t plan to commit to you. You have all the knowledge you need about him their shouldn’t be anymore questions as to why he behaves like this. Accept it for what it is with this loser and move on for good- I’ve been in the limbo with my ex for 9 years on and off because I kept allowing him to come back even though it never went past a text-I was still entertaining him. I learned my lesson last month and I will never allow such a person in my life. I hope you move on as well, Do better and make better choices rather than let some undeserving loser waste your time that you could be spending with a man who actually appreciates you-it feels a lot better with a real man lol

[noohair]

Does a toilet as why is there shi! t in me. You were playing games and you lost. Respect your body and know this. The whole friends with benefits was invented my men to fool women. If he was stealing money, would you wait for 6 years?

[Erica686]

No. Remind you that this was never supposed to happen from the get-go he pressured me. I'm back in 2014 I didn't just give it to him easily I had him wait four months before we had sex. But he definitely took advantage. And that 1 time, was supposed to be the only time. 😩😩. Like I get people change and all. But, just seen a whole bunch of stuff to me that's just crazy.

[Wise4myage]

He told you what he wanted you to believe and you did. And I say you both used each other.

[Erica686]

Yeah!' But I actually like him, When I run back to him it was for Comfort. When he run back to me, it was mainly for sex. Like he is still around, He's just done talking to me. Instead of him saying That he's always busy, He could have been like hey. Him: Sorry if it seems like I've been a little bit distant. But I have been talking to this girlAnd I really want to see where things go I like her. Or mentioned to me how he was talking to someone else. I do that with him, it's no need to hide And to keep someone else a secret. Then he was trying to shoot his shots And wanted some from me, but I wasn't giving in, So eventually he stopped bothering me, then went to next best thing. Like how can someone, just like Get up and just leave and walk away like that. Like we got along really well. And just because he couldn't get sex from meSo he decides to leave and find it elsewhere. He's a single manHe's able to do whatever he wants with others. But if sex is the only thing that interested him. This man has a serious problem. Smh

[Wise4myage]

Sounds like he is a lousy communicator.

[Erica686]

He is. Now I kind of lied to him and told him that I had a boyfriend. Lol

[Wise4myage]

lol. I say move on from him altogether.

[Erica686]

Facts and I'm really am trying!! 😩😩💔

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

friends with benefits is for pathetic losers, with no lives