He still wants me, when he has someone else. Why?

[Anonymous]

So maybe someone can help me figure this one out. So my friends with benefits had lots of history with one another The Good, The Bad, and just absolutely CRAZY. BUT! Nowadays we are much better and we have grown and mature, we learn how to work together and put our issues and problems in the past. Anyways, I met this dude back in (2014) so it's been a total of 8 years that we known each other. But sex between him and I has gone on for 7 years. And no matter how much, or how many times I cut him off sexually he keeps coming back for more. Now, here's my thing, him and I aren't hooking up. Why, well because I need more, then just sex, and I like him more than words can describe and he can't give me what I want neither am I willing to share my body. So, yes! But moving on. I am very much tapped into his energy. And, I do feel like that there is another, female around him. Who he is more emotionally and physically attracted and involved with. But there's definitely Sparks and a connection between the too. And every time I meditate on this one picture to whom I think might be the other girl, I feel that there is that connection there. Now lately she's been posting and seem to be in better moods. And lately he's been posting and I notice their times are usually the same. Now who cares right, that's their business. But from her most recent photo she seems really happy, she got dixk down real good lol. And it seems like there's a possibility that she even likes the same dude. Read updates a question to continue..

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And of course the guy that I know, who I'm talking about. He wants to be a so-called player and trust me, he will really sleep with anybody. But he's just being him. No I'm not sure how these two interact with each other then again like I said who cares.

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And if that is the chick then Bingo. But he most recently told me. How he still wanted me. And this is where I get a little confused not saying anything romantic or special about me. But if someone is being more open with sharing themselves with you in that way. And if you too are connected. Then why is he still asking me for pu$$y? 😫🤔.

[spartan55]

Wow, you are seriously psycho. I've told you OVER AND OVER why he keeps coming back.
So you are stalking some woman that 'you think' he is seeing? By meditating over her photo? Do you understand how crazy you sound right now?

[Asker]

🤣🤣🤣🤣😂 I have psychic abilities lol. I can feel things that I shouldn't. And how did i know that you was going to pop up. Hehe. And what was your reasons again. But no. I'm not giving him sex. I'm not- I just feel if there is a connection with him and another. He should just maintain and that connection. But again, he is a single guy- just doing what he do. I guess why I'm asking.. Bc this has been going on for so long. And usually for all of my friends with benefits are cut off. And I'm not sure to why I'm keeping him around like this.. When there is a big chance, that he would never get any more sex out of me. And I'm like.. If I'm getting my freak on with some hot guy that was willing to. Then personally I was. Wasting my time, on the other dude that don't. 👉🤞🤘✌

[Asker]

And it's like no matter how many people he's done it with or with now. Each and every time I try to get rid of him. He comes finding me. I mean, he already mentioned and said how he wasn't leaving, and I DON'T want him too. But this girl that I know she's been married for about six or seven years now. Like how can he just want settle and keep fucking me. Like there is never an ending with him :(

[Asker]

This one

[Lliam]

I don't have an answer. It doesn't make sense to me. I think you're right. All he is interested in is pussy. He likes having a stable of chicks. It probably makes him feel more virile.

[Asker]

7 years is long enough. I mean I know people who has been married for 6-7-and 8 years. And I have known him for 8 years. 7 years on and off sexually then 8 years of knowing each other. And I'm not saying that he has to be with me. But if we aren't fucking or dating. Then why is he here. And if he is getting off else where. Shouldn't he be satisfied enough I should be the thing from the past a person from the past. I asked him, why do you like or want to keep having sex with me. And he told me that I was wetter then the others but he also says. Having sex with me is just different. And I get it, he's a single and able to do what he wants. But, I guess my thing is, I'm not trying to have sex with him a anymore. No matter how many times I tell him. He'll try years later or ask months later. And I mean, yea he'll ask someone else. But shouldn't be be happy with the ones he has or have. I mean I get that men like to explore multiple women. But he's 31 and I'm 30. I'm grown to keep having a friends with benefits type of shit. And so should he. I mean I'm not in his brain and it seems like he wants to be a player and may not be ready for an actual relationship but he needs to stick with just one chick and go from there... Right

[Lliam]

Right.

[Asker]

100%

[Ironic_Method]

Sounds to me that he likes having sex with you. The other woman may provide other things he wants, but if you're always ready to fuck why wouldn't he take advantage?

[Asker]

That could be what it is. But, 7 years is long enough. I mean I know people who has been married for 6-7-and 8 years. And I have known him for 8 years. 7 years on and off sexually then 8 years of knowing each other. And I'm not saying that he has to be with me. But if we aren't fucking or dating. Then why is he here. And if he is getting off else where. Shouldn't he be satisfied enough I should be the thing from the past a person from the past. I asked him, why do you like or want to keep having sex with me. And he told me that I was wetter then the others but he also says. Having sex with me is just different. And I get it, he's a single and able to do what he wants. But, I guess my thing is, I'm not trying to have sex with him a anymore. No matter how many times I tell him. He'll try years later or ask months later. And I mean, yea he'll ask someone else. But shouldn't be be happy with the ones he has or have. I mean I get that men like to explore multiple women. But he's 31 and I'm 30. I'm grown to keep having a friends with benefits type of shit. And so should he. I mean I'm not in his brain and it seems like he wants to be a player and may not be ready for an actual relationship but he needs to stick with just one chick and go from there.

[Ironic_Method]

Variety is the spice of life.

[Asker]

Lol 😂😂😂

[whito]

U have him sprung lol is my guess he's lucky guy lol

[Asker]

Lmao

[whito]

I'm guessing I have offers all the time to get into relationships as well righhhhhhttttt

[whito]

Correction. (you)

[Asker]

I wouldn't say, that. lol... But he acts like he hasn't had any in years

[Anonymous]

What?

[Asker]

Read it again. Some words may be off. Sorry

[Opinion Owner]

I have, it still doesn't make sense.

[Opinion Owner]

He asks for pussy because he thinks you will give him pussy. Guys want sex with as many women as possible.

[Asker]

Okay. Meaning. My 7 years of friends with benefits still wants to hook up. When I don't, but he has someone else that is willing to. But still wants to f me. And my thing is. If he is getting off with other. And to someone who he has more of a emotiona physical connection with. Shouldn't he be good with that.

[Opinion Owner]

Should be and are aren't always the same.

[Asker]

Each and every time I do and try to get rid of him. He comes finding me. He Already mentioned to me, how he wasn't leaving

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he loves you and doesn't want to admit it to you.

[Asker]

I mean. He has told me that he loves me. But after when I usually tell him. It's just I know people who has been married for 6 to 7 years. And he just wants to settle to keep fucking me. Like frfr. And his head I should be the thing from the past for the thing of the past. But my friend said. In his eyes you aren't. She's like, he will stop I'm sure. But not now. I'm 30 and he's 31. Like I can't keep doing that. Like he's not trying to build with me as far as a relationship or commitment. So why keep wanting sex. That shit gets old real fast. It's just weird, and I'm a bit uncomfortable because the more I think about it the more I feel like this is some sort of relationship. He don't want to date me, but feel some type of way when I date others. 😫😫😫😩

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you should be direct with him and ask him what he wants and what he is willing to do for it?

[Asker]

He says if things are meant to be later, then it will be. He admitted and said I'm sorry that I can't give you what you want right now. 🤔🤔. But later.. I will end up dating and being with someone

[Opinion Owner]

Okay, then tell him goodbye and cut him out of your life for good. He just wants you to be his side piece in perpetuity.

[Asker]

That's what I'm saying and that just doesn't make any sense. I'm not saying that is his real reason. But I need more and want more and I will get more. Just not with him