What does it mean when he says he misses the old times? Does it mean he misses me or?

[Anonymous]

[SueShe]

"Missing the old times" is too much of a broad spectrum to single out one specific event or person.

I can miss the way the family was together when we all lived under the same roof before everyone moved his/her own way. The old times encompasses more than just a memory but it is the sum of a number of things that do not happen anymore or that are forgotten.

I miss the old days when I had no worries other than to play, get fed and sleep.

If he would have said "I miss the old days when you and I were talking all night long", then he would hint that he misses you.

[Anonymous]

He could mean both. Sometimes people romanticize the past. But you or him have to be more descriptive or specific.

[caring__1]

Missing the old times isn't saying anything about you. It's saying he misses the feelings he used to have when life was different. You can always ask him to share his memories of the old times. From what he shares, you'll have a deeper understanding of what is meaningful to him. If you're interested in him, you can share similar experiences with him now. Don't ever attempt to copy what happened in the past, as a copy only makes us more aware of the fact that we can't have the original.

[Asker]

I did think it didn’t mean he missed me. I just asked I winder if he missed me as it’s been ages and that’s when he said that he does miss the old times and it’s been a while and how I haven’t been replaced.

[Asker]

And that he hopes to meet up soon.

[caring__1]

All he's shared are vague generalities which you are using to feed your fantasies. You'll like the results better if you discover reality and learn to deal with that. Getting together to reminisce about the good old days doesn't mean people want to relive them. It could be just like a high school reunion.

[Asker]

His my ex, He wanted to remain friends and we did and it’s been over a year since. However it’s been less texting more recently as his had more work and family responsibilities lately.

[caring__1]

Maybe it would be helpful to discover his definition of friend, so you don't set yourself up for disappointment.

[Asker]

his told me in the past he doesn’t want to lose me but I just don’t know. And then he obviously sent the message about I haven’t been replaced it’s just his been busy and that he misses the old times as it’s been a while and he hopes to meet up soon. Like I knew missing old times meant different to I miss you. Just thought where he said I’ve not replaced and he wants to meet up might’ve meant he misses me. (His 22 and I was his first)

[caring__1]

It can be hard to let go of one's first, but it is important to understand all his definitions before investing again. Possibly work got in the way, but he wants a healthy relationship some day. It's still important to learn how he pictures a healthy relationship. He could think it is keeping you at home taking care of the house and kids while he does his own thing. Without clear, open, honest communication, from both of you, it would be a mistake to travel down this path again.

[Avicenna]

You need to give some more info than that. Can't tell just from what you said.

[Asker]

So we was messaging so I asked I wonder if you miss me or not as it’s been ages.. he then text back and said i do miss old times it has been a while,

[Avicenna]

Sounds like he misses you and wants to see you again

[Asker]

Do you think so? It was just where he said he missed old times and not that he missed me that made me wonder if it was me he missed if that makes sense.

[Avicenna]

I think that's parsing it a bit much. It's implied that he misses you, and he'd have specified what he missed if it wasn't connected to you.

[In_Trance]

Or... what?

[Asker]

Or not