Ex says he misses us. What does he really mean?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I started talking again a while ago. I'm trying to be friends with him. My boyfriend knows that we're talking, and he told me that he'd support my decision, but he doesn't want me to get hurt again. My ex is with someone else too.

Here's the point: my ex has told me that he misses us. He misses being a thing, apparently. He says that he regrets how things when down, and he's still upset about screwing up the best thing that happened to him and not being able to fix it.

Why is he telling me this? I don't understand what the point of it would be.

[rxchl02]

Most likely he's having relationship problems and wants to cause relationship problems for you and your boyfriend. Don't let him try to sway you away from your current boyfriend. From the fact that he's ok with you talking to your ex, is concerned for you, and really trusts you shows he's a good guy. Your ex is just trying to cause trouble if he can

[Asker]

I love my boyfriend more than anything, and you're right in thinking that he's a good guy. He's a wonderful man, and he happens to be my best friend.

Do you really think that my ex would try to sabotage my relationship with my boyfriend? Why would he want to do that? He's with someone else. Why does what I do with my life even matter to him?

[rxchl02]

I really think he's trying to sabotage your relationship. I think that even though he's with someone else that doesn't mean he's happy and he either thinks he can get you back or sabotage what you have.

[Asker]

That’s disgusting! If that’s his intention—what a jerk!

[rxchl02]

I agree. You're lucky to have found such an amazing boyfriend. :)

[Asker]

Definitely. 😊 He makes me so happy.

[rxchl02]

I'm glad!! :)

[Asker]

Aw! Thanks! 😄

[Anonymous]

He doesn't miss you. Sorry to break it to you hun. He misses the idea of being in love in a relationship. If he was the one that dumped you, don't go back to him. You're allowed to be sad, but he hurt you. And why go back to someone who hurted you?

[Asker]

Don't worry. I'd never go back to him. He broke my heart in so many ways, and I also suspect that he's cheated on his current girlfriend. He also got drunk once when we were together and told me that he made out with another girl. I was a bit suspicious (just from the way that he acted), and the way he described that girl remibds me of his current girlfriend. I refuse to give someone like him another chance. I feel sorry for his girlfriend now.

Thank you for your advice. I really appreciate it.