Does My Ex Want Me Back or is he Playing Mind Games?

I have a dilemma... I am too emotionally involved and I need some external commentary on my situation... for advice regarding my ex.

Ok, so my ex and I broke up about 2 months ago after dating for 2 months. After we slept together things got really intense emotionally for both of us -- I felt something; he felt something; and it scared him (we both are recently divorced). Needless to say he ended things abruptly. Silence actually.

A month after the breakup I emailed him and said that I was upset that he felt the need to just go silent. At which point he responded and said he was really confused about his feelings... that there was more between us than he was ready for... and that he needed a hiatus to think it through. He apologized for being an ass.

Ok -- so I am not an idot... I told him to hit the road and I cut off communication thereafter. I was pretty shaken up... and to be honest I had my heart obliterated. I broke down after another month and sent him an email saying that I was thinking about him. That I wished him well in the future. The next day he responded and his email was most shocking. I wasn't prepared for it actually.

He said that he appreciated my note. That he had no intention of going silent -- but the longer it goes the harder it gets to respond. He never meant to hurt me and said he was deeply sorry for doing it. He also said that if we get back in touch that he would prefer face-to-face talks rather than email. Thereafter he asked if we could meet for coffee and again apologized for the silence. He also said that he wanted me to know that he thinks about me and misses me... and he has been cruel and unfair for making it seem otherwise. Again, he closed the email by saying that he wanted to meet again and asked me to let him know if that was something he desired.

So, I responded... I sent an email saying yes ... coffee would be find... and that I missed the witty convo we shared (I wanted to act aloof about the fact he missed me). I told him I respected his need for space and that I was extremely busy at the present time. That appreciated that he took the time to say hi. And offered to meet him the next day if our schedules aligned.

He responded thereafter saying he was too busy for the remainder of the week and that he would be more open after the weekend.

I have to say -- this is new territory for me. I am not sure if this is genuine or not. I mean ... he is very sensitive, and very kind when we are face-to-face... but anyone who can be that cruel and just disappear is a bit insane to me. I will be honest I did fall for him... and I do have feelings still... but I want to get hurt again so that is why I am asking whether this guy is being serious... or this is some game player tactic to keep his foot in the door. I dunno.

Does My Ex Want Me Back or is he Playing Mind Games?
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