My boyfriend & I have dated for over 2 years, I love him to death. But things have changed because as he got older staying fit is no longer effortless for him - this makes him work out like a freak and be really critical of his looks (he wasn't like this in the first year we dated).
I always reassure him tell him he's hot, feed his ego (I mean it though), and he does it back. Just even though he compliments me(and as my boyfriend he should lol) he has also been extending his new superficial standards onto me by asking me what I think about getting a BOOB JOB cause he'd pay for it...the first time I simply said, I wouldn't be up for it, but he keeps bringing it up! He has also told me to work out, because wants us to be the hottest couple in every room.. I HATE when he says this and its a horrible UNATTRACTIVE side of him that makes him look like a total jerk when the other 99% of him is just amazing and loving (I swear)!
:#1 I wouldn't get a boob job, I wouldn't trade my boobs for anything, #2 I am 2 pounds away from my BMI being classified as underweight (so don't assume he's telling me to loose weight for love and health reasons). I do work out but that's something I'll push myself to do I don't want my boyfriend to be someone who tells me to get on a treadmill- not a good feeling let me tell you. No one, not even his family is supportive of his current ridiculous superficial behavior , his brother yelled at him for telling me to get on a treadmill once so I appreciate that and have them on my side (I am just unsure of how to use that for my benefit)
t he's just plagued with being excessively superficial - without at all being realistic ! (ex. despite having impressive abs he's constantly complaining about his non existent love handles- so annoying.) He may also have an eating disorder..seriously..
This behavior is such a turn off and if it continues or worsens it could led to a prob in our relationship that will b the end of us. how can I help him with his confidence so he can see what normal people see, and I also just really miss being perfect in his eyes! I try not to let it effect me, but his behavior does make me feel insecure... I'm just so confused by the issue and need a third party opinion :(
I always reassure him tell him he's hot, feed his ego (I mean it though), and he does it back. Just even though he compliments me(and as my boyfriend he should lol) he has also been extending his new superficial standards onto me by asking me what I think about getting a BOOB JOB cause he'd pay for it...the first time I simply said, I wouldn't be up for it, but he keeps bringing it up! He has also told me to work out, because wants us to be the hottest couple in every room.. I HATE when he says this and its a horrible UNATTRACTIVE side of him that makes him look like a total jerk when the other 99% of him is just amazing and loving (I swear)!
:#1 I wouldn't get a boob job, I wouldn't trade my boobs for anything, #2 I am 2 pounds away from my BMI being classified as underweight (so don't assume he's telling me to loose weight for love and health reasons). I do work out but that's something I'll push myself to do I don't want my boyfriend to be someone who tells me to get on a treadmill- not a good feeling let me tell you. No one, not even his family is supportive of his current ridiculous superficial behavior , his brother yelled at him for telling me to get on a treadmill once so I appreciate that and have them on my side (I am just unsure of how to use that for my benefit)
t he's just plagued with being excessively superficial - without at all being realistic ! (ex. despite having impressive abs he's constantly complaining about his non existent love handles- so annoying.) He may also have an eating disorder..seriously..
This behavior is such a turn off and if it continues or worsens it could led to a prob in our relationship that will b the end of us. how can I help him with his confidence so he can see what normal people see, and I also just really miss being perfect in his eyes! I try not to let it effect me, but his behavior does make me feel insecure... I'm just so confused by the issue and need a third party opinion :(
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