My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, I'm 20, in college i live on campus which my parents are helping me pay for and he's 21 working at a fast-food restaurant as a cook. He didn't graduate high school due to dropping out. We don't live together.
A couple of months ago we wanted to do his GED since he told me he wants to be a therapist and so I helped him to work towards that but then dropped it. He's broken up with me or at least tried too many times until I beg him to stay and then only change his mind when I accept him leaving. I left him once because I was tired of it and my parents didn't like that he didn't want to do anything for his future and is just always wasting his money and ends up owing other people money but we got back together which he throws at my face that i left him for being a "bum"
So recently I told him how I want to apply to this summer internship that it's in California and is a very good opportunity to further my career but I'll have to live in San Francisco for the summer. He got upset that he's not going to leave his family or that he's not going to just let me be there alone even though i'll be going going with my family and that its stupid that i could just find a internship in our state nearby and that i dont value our relationship and dont find it as important and not take him in consideration and that i'm selfish. He would prefer me working remote.
Im thinking of applying in secret just to see if i would be accpeted but what if i do? I can't take the job becuase thatll mean losing him, he's the only one to ever show me true love despite having really bad days and arguments almost everyday.
I dont know what to do? I've also been thinking about wishing he would go to college like me and want to focus on his future in the long run but i feel guilty and that its wrong and superficial to think that. I hide business ideas i had because he called me financially hungry even though its my dream to have a business someday
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