I’ve been talking to this guy I like talking to sometimes but dread talking to others. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Just to be clear this guys’d done nothing wrong I just feel the urge to cut him off completely and not talk to him ever again sometimes (which I wouldn’t do because it’s mean) he’s funny and nice but he texts me like 3 times a day (which is more than I talk to my friends) and honestly it’s draining and tiring. He likes me and I’ve already rejected him but he still makes romantic advances (like next weekend we’re going out somewhere alone) and it just tires me out despite knowing he has no bad Intent. I wish I could go back to not dealing with guys at all. What should I do?

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

Go out alone with him. Kiss him. (keep reading) and after you kiss him tell him you're not interested in him. Tell him that you know it must hurt to hear that. Tell him you wish he could have what he wanted. Tell him you're just not interested and that it sucks but it's truth and it is what it is. Then tell him the new rules of your relationship. Tell him you guys aren't going to text everyday anymore. Tell him that he will stop making advances at you and just be your friend (if you want to be friends I don't know). Tell him you're so sorry and that you wish you could do anything but make him hurt. Tell him your heart just doesn't want him and tell him that it isn't because he is all bad but because everyone just wants different things in life. Ask him do you accept these new terms.

After you tell him all of that. Put down your phone and stop reading my comment. Then tell him you're so sorry and hug him.

It works every time. People don't fear rejection. People fear feeling like a piece of dirt.

[Smoothing]

If that is the way you feel, I don't know why you are still entertaining him. If anything goes wrong, you will only have yourself to blame because you are not being true to yourself.

[Anonymous]

I’m sure you’ve just been trying to be nice, but the thing is, now that he has feelings for you even though you rejected him he’s going to keep trying. Why? Because you agree to hang out and still communicate regularly with him. Cutting him off is cold, but may be the only route so he can understand you aren’t interested. Just be cautious, I did this in the past and the guy was not happy. He kept reaching out and even added my best friend on Snapchat so he could watch and comment when we went out. So weird.

[Avicenna]

Tell him that he can’t text you that much- set a specific limit

[driven159]

then tell him you are not interested and leave you alone